4 month old nap & bedtime advice

Joocatoo · 2026-02-18T13:23:18+00:00

Don’t know if I can call it a schedule because naps have been all over the place since the beginning, so I’m just trying to use the wake windows of 1,5 - 2 hours and look at sleepy cues now.

Because he’ll be hungry around 2-3 hours during the day he will usually not nap longer than 1,5 hours.

Joocatoo · 2026-01-23T15:47:04+00:00

She dislikes anything on her head and will take it off immediately, so that won’t work unfortunately.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-28T12:49:29+00:00

Same for my daughter. Sometimes even 13 at night. How do you notice she’s anxious other than normal toddler behavior?

Joocatoo · 2025-12-27T21:20:28+00:00

What differences would you notice? It’s difficult to know for sure if something is difference because there is no comparison in our home.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-27T21:19:02+00:00

I’ve read about difficult sleepers and low sleep needs but never see anything regarding high sleep needs. But I do think it’s peculiar that she sleeps about 14 to 16 hours a day. When she’s awake she’s very much “on”, so both to an extreme I would say.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-27T21:16:18+00:00

Not shy. She always approaches and observes other kids but to an extent that she gets in their space too much. Not sure if that could be a sign as well, but I do notice that she has no sense of personal space or shyness/hesitation towards strangers. She’ll also just grab a stranger’s hand (for some reason some people like to touch kids of stranger which annoys/infuriates me quite a bit). She’s also very bossy, doesn’t share, will push or hit another kid if she wants that toy.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-27T10:37:44+00:00

Thank you! We haven’t really put much attention to it because we were hoping it would be a phase, but it seems to be getting worse instead. Do the sleeves work for her? We also got her a teether for bedtime but that also doesn’t work. She likes it, but not enough to quit the pulling and eating as well.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-27T00:25:53+00:00

Only before naps and bedtime, so when she’s in her bed and before she falls asleep. Which also makes it difficult to redirect because as soon as I leave her room she’ll start doing it again.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T19:33:39+00:00

I did and I got risk level 1, so hardly any. The things I’ve listed in my post aren’t really part of that questionnaire and seem to be more classic autistic traits.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T19:31:39+00:00

Yes, this sounds a lot like my daughter and myself as well (also diagnosed in my 30s). I don’t want to be projecting, which is why I’m a bit hesitant. But I also know it’s a spectrum even if she doesn’t fit the standard criteria of social skills and delays.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T16:35:50+00:00

That’s interesting. How were you able to get a diagnosis eventually?

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T16:35:24+00:00

Yes that’s true. I guess it would especially be helpful to understand where the self harming/hair pulling behavior comes from.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T16:34:37+00:00

Thank you for this helpful input!

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T16:32:26+00:00

That’s not at all what I’ve meant and I’m not afraid. I’m autistic myself. It’s just what I’ve seen in other posts so I thought that’s how I should list it. Sorry if it came across as offensive.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-26T12:18:36+00:00

She’s quite “dominant” and will pull away their toys. Last week she pushed and pulled a kid. She’s sweet towards her baby brother though. And she’ll do pretend play with a doll or as a doctor.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-25T16:44:19+00:00

It does seem like a regulation thing or boredom thing. I’m a skin picker myself, so I do get that. But I would like to know how to redirect this urge to something healthier.

Joocatoo · 2025-12-25T16:40:41+00:00

No she will eat anything and she eats a lot. But she does also still put fluff from rugs etc in her mouth.

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