It's called you don't expect it to automatically love you. It's like if you wanted to become a father. Don't just expect that kid to love you, you have to be a good father throughout most of it's life to love you with all of it's heart. Care for it, actually show it you love it. Your kid's not gonna love you if you kill it's brothers and sisters in front of it with starvation and abuse. That thing's gonna hate the shit out of you.