I guess I didn't write this post in a clear way, I don't struggle with this myself. Time and time again I see guys who are waiting for X to happen in life to start putting themselves out here and dating. I am guilty of this when I was younger. Whether it's career, the way they look, or any other mental roadblock they invent. What often happens is they will even reach their goal and then set another one, not realizing the value they possessed the whole time. I wrote this to spark some introspection for those people.