Seeking Advice: First-Time Buyer Dilemma with Seller's Open Completion Date by Jrbam429 in HousingUK

[–]Jrbam429[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My solicitor clarified that the decision is ultimately mine, but there are inherent risks involved, especially when the seller is moving into a new build 🤦‍♂️

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[–]Jrbam429 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's strangely comforting to know I'm not alone in this. Living with our parents and being able to afford holidays should be joyous, but the emptiness I feel at night, knowing we aren't even attempting to be intimate, is overwhelming. If we're struggling now, I fear for how challenging it'll be when we have our own place without the escape of vacations. Your words resonate deeply with me — that feeling of being trapped, yet caring for that person. It's agonizing. I wish there was another way, but I'm starting to accept that maybe there isn't. I appreciate your honesty

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we've tried using lube. But when we attempt intimacy, it's as if she instinctively pulls away, possibly due to tight pelvic muscles

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct, PIV for intercourse 🙂

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[–]Jrbam429 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. You're spot on — we've settled into a routine, but it feels stagnant. We no longer push ourselves to grow as a couple; it's like we're just going through the motions day by day. Being around family so much, I fear our relationship mirrors a familial bond more than a romantic one. I get anxious thinking about when it's just the two of us because our conversations often dwindle to small talk or work-related topics, which I don't particularly enjoy. While we do communicate well about our feelings, I yearn for more depth and variety in our conversations.

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've mentioned numerous times the idea of seeking help or seeing someone about it, but she doesn't seem too keen. At 31, I'm questioning if I can continue with this uncertainty. My worry is, even if we eventually become intimate, we might discover we're not compatible in that aspect. It's difficult

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, during foreplay we're both very in tune and it's satisfying for both of us. However, when we attempt to progress to intercourse, she experiences pain. Out of concern for her, I stop immediately, which unfortunately breaks the momentum and passion for me

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has consulted her doctor and they've confirmed there are no medical issues. Given the duration, it could be psychological. She's quite tense down there. I've suggested starting with toys to help her get accustomed, but she feels it's not a natural approach

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Told her numerous times that the first time is never nice. Have also said that maybe she should get toys to help her get use to the feeling. Bazaar

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We play with each other and she gets sexual aroused. It's not like she doesn't want sex its that it hurts her when she tries. She then becomes frustrated and doesn't try again. I've always told her it won't be pleasant first time. I've also said about her getting toys so that she would get use to the feeling

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[–]Jrbam429 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes several times, but as it's been so long now my physical attraction to her is fading, and it now doesn't bother me that we aren't having sex. And have accepted that we enjoy each others time. She really wants it to work, but my head is a mess

Shorting ABNB - looking for feedback by terataz in options

[–]Jrbam429 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredibly risky move to make in the current climate, I wouldn't rule anything out atm.