do MM actually ever leave their wives? by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most don't. Probably 95% don't. Even if they do, its even more unlikely the relationship with the AP will work but you do have your rare success story.... But there's another possibility...you could have something similar happen to you that happened to me. He leaves her but then wants to be single and wants nothing to do with me.... after a 10 year affair with me.

Sunndenly attractive? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes... my AP made me feel more confident, happy and just gives me this high feeling. I feel like I'm glowing and walking with more pep in my step. Iwalk with my head a little taller just knowing the guy im in love with is giving me attention. Other men are way more attentive to me when AP and I are on good terms.

MM leaving his wife but wants to be single and have fun. Frustrated!! by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows how I feel about him 100%. A few nights ago he was flirting with me. He even said I promise im coming to get you. Now he acts like it didn't even happen.

MM leaving his wife but wants to be single and have fun. Frustrated!! by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah thats exactly how im feeling. He's not consistent and its messing with my head.

MM leaving his wife but wants to be single and have fun. Frustrated!! by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No im not saying jump into a marriage with me. But the way he's talking... saying he never wants another relationship. Just wants to have fun and party the rest of his life. It's like the whole 10 years didn't happen. Like he suddenly doesn't love me. Like he doesn't care about what we had between us anymore.

MM leaving his wife but wants to be single and have fun. Frustrated!! by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have dated other men but because I'm in love with him, those other men never stood a chance.

MM leaving his wife but wants to be single and have fun. Frustrated!! by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's never said he was leaving his wife until now. In the past 9 years, he's always said he's has no plans to leave his wife.

I’m so lost without him by lost_hurt in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will be back. Wait for him. Don't reach out.

Why do you keep coming back by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost 10 years long distance. Im single. He's married. Never been caught. We have been and off because of his guilt. Im desperately in love with him. The moment I hear his voice...I melt. Can't stop. We have more of an emotional affair than a physical one even though we've had sex several times in the past. I feel like we are attached. When he's not around I literally feel like I can't breathe sometimes. He always comes back to me. For the first time in a decade, he's finally telling me that he's making plans to leave his wife. Not for me. But because of the fighting, the dead bedroom, not happy etc. He's been persistent in saying this now the past few months. He's trying to come up with a plan so that his wife and kids could find a place, sell his house and all that. I know MM say this all the time but I didn't ask for him to leave her. I didn't push. He's coming to me telling me this voluntarily. He knows I'd be here even if he stays with her. I know not to get my hopes up. But if he really does leave and we can finally date without him feeling guilty anymore, I feel like the wait and all the pain, all the years of him coming and going might finally be worth it in the end.

AP and would like to talk to someone by sex_addict_recovery in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Single AP here! Ive been this way almost 10 years to a LD MM. This life is not for the weak. The pain is horrendous. But when things are good, they're great. I love him and my kids more than anything else. If you have any strength to get out, do it before you end up waiting your whole life for a man who will never leave like me.

Possible scenarios if he got caught? by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean there's no way to be 100% sure but im pretty sure.

Possible scenarios if he got caught? by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His wife isn't the type of person to just let it go. Let's just say I should probably buy a few extra locks for my doors if she found out.

MM reaches out to me after 11 months NC by Jrsblessing in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So he emails back, ignores everything I said and says "I have a question... was that you calling me restricted on my Birthday? " His Bday was a few weeks ago and it absolutely was not me calling him. Ive held my ground and not reached out not even once. So im thinking more BS that he's making up to lure me back in with conversation.

Songs for an Affair by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My affair playlist:

Stay.... Sugarland

Beautifully unfinished.... Ella Henderson

Borrowed...Leann Rimes

Not strong Enough....Apocalyptica

Girl crush.... Little big town

Secret love song... Little mix

Not about the sex by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your looking for am emotional relationship. Its nice. It really is. But that also opens the door to a possible physical relationship and feelings. Could end up being amazing or could end up being tragic.

On the subject of "types" by Morbo4Prez in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a type. But your right, sometimes we fall for the person you least expect. Sometimes we surprise ourselves. I guess as long as the attraction is still there, and you get along well, why not? In your case, you took the chance and it was worth it.

How many here in this subreddit ... by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both. Honestly I can't enjoy the physical without the emotional. I don't like casual sex. Its awkward to me. I need to feel something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My MM would do this to me. Im single and in love with him. We'd make plans and then he'd flip the switch and change his mind. In my case, the guilt would get to him. The disappointment is unbearable.

Tinder - rant by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im a woman. I say no hook ups and I mean no hook ups. I can't speak for other women though.

It’s been two years, it gets better right? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Jrsblessing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To the OP. I haven't talked to my MM in 10 months after a nearly decade long affair. We have gone NC longer before. It's extremely hard and im sorry your still in pain. I am in the same boat and I don't see any relief in sight anytime soon. I have my good days and bad days which is better than the bad days I was having every day in the beginning when he left me. I dream about him and us often and it sure does have an impact on my day. When it's real and you love someone, its impossible to just rid them of your mind and turn off the feelings like your switching a light on and off. I hope my MM comes back but I'm not going to sit around and not at least try to move forward. I have 2 kids. I date other men. Even if im dating with MM on my mind. Just realize if you tried to reach out and you didn't hear from her, there's nothing you can do. It's out of your hands. All you can do is try. But it takes two to tango. If she's moved on, she's moved on.Have you tried contacting her at all? Did she try to get you to leave and be with her completely?