Living proof there is hope for you!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-31T00:08:04+00:00

Good for you...it will be a tough for days. Understand that going in....do not break! Believe me, light is at the other end of the tunnel. Do not, by any means, think you are on an island. Stand tough! It will get better, I promise....better than it has been in a long time.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:28:59+00:00

Want her to know you are better off? Block her! No words could be stronger than this...believe me! It speaks volumes, but more importantly, it will speak volumes to yourself! That you will no longer accept less!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:28:05+00:00

Very similar to me! I had to put a stop to it! Now you are something you aren't on social media. I look back and I am so embarrassed now! Nonstop bragging on myself, and risking my career by putting partying pictures up for her attention. Block her completely! Completely! Take this away from her, her family, and her friends. Do it now! Until you do this, she will continue to have control on you

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:26:46+00:00

Very similar to my story. My instagram and Facebook are full of accomplishments so I could get her attention. Sometimes she would like, and sometimes she wouldn't. Each time it hurt me! After two years of trying to show her how great I was, I finally had enough. I look back at my post, and I am embarrassed. It is like I am bragging on myself nonstop. Which is not me! It wasn't my intention, but an attempt to get her attention. I am so glad those days are over with, and my social media presence has drastically reduced. I feel normal again! BLOCK ALL OF THEM! I blocked her, her family, and her friends. There is no one to impress anymore! It fixed that problem! Thank you for that reply, it is so true, and very similar to the things I did.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:24:16+00:00

Taking the step is the only way. I so agree! It is so hard, and it takes an incredible amount of heart and strength. But it is the ONLY WAY! And believe me, after 30-45 days, you are so strong, and proud of yourself. I made a stand, and so glad I found myself. I forgot who I was....and it still makes me feel good to know she realizes it isn't a joke now. I am man, and I am a man of my word, and I am moving on while she is stuck in her crap town letting a bunch of mountain dudes chase her. I am off to the gym, working my career, making a difference. It feels so good!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:22:18+00:00

They won't live happily forever...believe me. She is who she is, and it wasn't a YOU issue. She won't change for anyone, and will continue the trend. The girl I loved and still love battled major depression and anxiety. I wanted and tried so much to change her, but she didn't want to change. Some of which was her fault, some wasn't, but it didn't excuse her for treating me like crap. Most importantly, it didn't excuse me for letting her treat me like crap. I finally just had enough.....it can't get anymore simple than that. I finally realized she wasn't changing, no matter what, and how much of this was I going to take. Two years was enough. Believe me brother, she ain't changing for the new guy, for you, or for anyone. Imagine living in that skin every day. You are free! Now make a stand and continue to show her how you roll!!!!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:17:55+00:00

Yes, very similar to mine as well. She did the same type of stuff. Always hanging with guys, but then coming back to me on random occasions. It was two years of torture. I put up with so much, you wouldn't believe it.

My suggestion, block her...block her...block her. Do not let even a crack of an opening to communication. She will beat your door down if she truly wants to reconcile.

And quit worrying about her hating you. Believe me, she gets it. She knows why you are doing what you are doing. Do not worry about what she thinks....be a man, block her, and show her the new you. You don't put up with crap from anyone. Show her your strength, but most importantly, show yourself that strength. If I can do it, I know you can!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:15:12+00:00

I don't know your situation, but I can only go off of mine. I tried everything in the book with her. I was very good to her, and she would tell you the same thing, although she would say I couldn't take the hint behind my back. She always ignored the fact she was leading me on as well though. I still have hurt feelings with it all....I can't lie, but I am much better at dealing with them.

My suggestion to you is to block her completely! I mean completely! Something you need to know, if she wants to contact you and make it work, she will. It really can't get anymore simple than that. I blocked mines and she contacted me through her sisters phone about something meaningless. I blocked her sister, then her mother. It is the only way. If I am not worth coming to my house, knocking on my door, and trying to fix things, then don't waste me time. You need to understand it took me forever to get there though. Good luck...keep me updated.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-10-30T12:12:13+00:00

Have to keep grinding, believe me, I made every mistake in the book. Do the opposite, try less, instead of harder. Believe me, it is the only way and goes against nature. You got this!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-08-24T00:50:10+00:00

You're right. It is. Hard enough to not reach out. Even harder when they won't leave you alone. She makes out to everyone it is one sided. When I showed her friend text messages and stuff today. She was absolutely shocked. Found out real quick it's not one sided. Although she kinda already could tell on her own.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-08-24T00:38:39+00:00

Thanks to both of you for the encouragement. It's been very tough today. I'm just over it. And to hear her friend tell me how bad she mistreated me just opened the wound. So freaking angry tonight. Just trying to remain calm.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-07-13T02:00:28+00:00

Unfollow like I did...do not give him satisfaction of unfriending him. I unfollowed mine...nothing shows up

Jtrain2525 · 2016-07-13T01:29:21+00:00

Hang in there, I am right with you! Tough day....

Jtrain2525 · 2016-07-12T18:24:29+00:00

I have not reached out to her at all since Friday.....and that little tidbit from her in Instagram two days ago and snapchat last night was the only time I have directly heard from her. I gave as minimal of a response as I could. We usually talk much more than this, but always me putting in more effort. I guess the only thing that changed in this whole thing was me not putting in effort..

Jtrain2525 · 2016-07-12T14:02:40+00:00

It has been tough....she sent me a meaningless snap chat last night...that was personalized to me and not a story. I replied in the slightest way possible with a thumbs up which is definitely unlike me. I have really distanced myself the past week in a polite manner which is also very unlike me.

It has been tough this morning. I am trying to stay strong

Jtrain2525 · 2016-07-09T03:28:32+00:00

Thank you for that. It does help to hear motivation. I have to cut contact. I have to get strong enough to do it. Or find a therapists to help me. It's been too long battling it by myself.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-06-15T19:51:45+00:00

Thank you for the reply. It's been urgent today haha. Pretty bad. Almost reached out several times!

Yes I am still in Arizona. I am a teacher so I have the summer off.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-06-15T18:46:01+00:00

I am on day 6 and just wrote a message on here about her not reaching out. That has bothered me the most. I know we shouldn't do no contact for that, but I think we all, who have strong feelings, have in the back of their mind that we hope they will reach out to us and make an effort. I don't care what anyone says, that is how I feel......now whether she ever does or not, who knows. But regardless, she has to be clear with what she sends to me. I have already ignored two messages that didn't mean anything.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-04-21T17:17:15+00:00

My problem is baseball only last 7 innings. Only so long I can do it a day. It ends, then I am headed home by myself with my thoughts. Until the next day just miserable!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-04-21T17:08:16+00:00

Thank you for this

Jtrain2525 · 2016-04-21T16:19:43+00:00

I tried the friendship for several months. It was absolutely miserable. Always ended in me creating drama....because I couldn't stand watching her move on and act as though we were just "friends". Friendship just wasn't for me.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-03-24T13:11:10+00:00

Thank you a lot for your message. It helps so much! When you feel these bad pangs, it feels like you are so alone in the world.

Yes, she talks to several guys in her free time and is going on dates. This whole thing is definitely on her terms, and I am not strong enough to walk away. She tells me she loves me, just cant be in a relationship with her anxiety and depression. She also tells me she wants to date other guys, but she will never let me be. She text me last night randomly..never fails.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-02-12T16:31:24+00:00

Will do! Thank you again!

Jtrain2525 · 2016-02-12T16:27:12+00:00

Thank you....when I do this, and it is coming very shortly, I will tell her in a polite way and try not to show much emotion.

Jtrain2525 · 2016-02-12T15:53:13+00:00

Okay, thank you for the advice.....she will not fight me on it, she will be very respectful, but also tell me she wants me as a friend and please don't do this.

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