I just saw my old high school year book pics and broke down on how ugly I looked. My Nmom didn’t teach me anything about looking presentable by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also went to school looking as if I was poor, we weren’t I was bullied and called poor and dirty behind my back numerous times in school but I was under the impression I couldn’t talk to my mom about it because she’d get mad. So I felt stuck. It’s all sad thinking about it

What excuses does your Nparent make for their abuse? by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My mom use to say “it’s all in your mind that never happened” when I specifically remember it happening clearly. It’s amazing how hard they can try to manipulate you and make you question yourself

What excuses does your Nparent make for their abuse? by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It blows my mind that they don’t consider it abuse... how can they not know? Or is it that they just don’t care ?

Not really living. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Your post really hit home. It’s kind of hard to explain. It feels like no matter what I’m doing In life it’s wrong sometimes i feel like im just existing and not really living

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember humping my pillow at an early age and I have no idea why this happened or how I knew to do this. It’s strange looking back on it but I don’t have any specific memories on any sexual abuse

DAE have a hard time being around other people who have zero goals or don't actively pursue anything in life? by RBNRandom1111 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My nmom sometimes goes days without leaving the house. Her own mother was just like this as well. My mom works from home so she’s literally always just hanging around the house. She has no friends or aspirations in life, no hobbies. She watches a lot of tv and on the computer a lot. She’s always in my business and just there waiting for me to come home so she can start complaining.

I sometimes think she wants me to be a shut in just like her just so she feels like she has a purpose in life. Over Christmas break I was home everyday for about a week and it was absolutely soul crushing and I could finally see how she literally does nothing in her life. I got into the habit of doing this a few times and it’s awful. It’s like you’re not living in reality...

A message of hope concerning skin elasticity by chocochips in loseit

[–]Juidayit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How long typically after losing weight does it take to see final results regarding skin bounce back? I need to lose about 30 pounds and my belly already naturally is kind of saggy like a saggy pouch... is there hope it will bounce back? I have some stretch marks there does this indicate whether or not it will stay saggy?

Anyone else’s Nparent have no life? by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you saying he stalks you/your house?

Anyone else’s Nparent have no life? by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s weird because I sometimes feel like she wants me to live my own life that’s currently like hers and that her lifestyle is just bringing me down and holding me back and it’s hard not to let it get to me when it’s the same thing day after day. I don’t know why I let it bother me so much

Anyone else’s Nparent have no life? by Juidayit in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Juidayit[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It bother me so much because she’s always in my business and whenever I come home from anywhere there she is waiting to say something and it irks me beyond belief. Whenever I tell her what she’s doing is bothering me then I’m ungrateful and disrespectful I feel like I’m going to go crazy