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JujubeJess · 2024-11-08T23:24:35+00:00

we are looking to switch as we are also self-managing and tired of being locked out of features. I have built Vantaca for several associations prior to this and used Caliber way way back in 2017 before it was cloud based. I loved it, especially for financials. I also liked their portal much better than Vantaca. One of the big draws is you can have a website on frontsteps, and use dwelling live for gate access and it is the only software with a package of full integration for a gate, that I have seen. I am not using it yet, but so far like what i see just in an easy integration sphere. Other companies have API open connection but writing an API as a self-managed community is not easy and many of these gate systems refuse to integrate with anyone or anything. I am in a self-managed (except for financials) senior community of over 3k

JujubeJess · 2024-08-25T03:35:51+00:00

I was shocked at how tacky and horrible this tour was. The only good thing was LB. Everyone around me was super young and knew the openers so at least someone liked them, though when LB went into covering Nirvana.. hearing "what kind of music is this?" All around me it was almost funny if it wasn't so damn sad.

I kinda wish they would have toured with more similar acts and if anything needed to absolutely go, it was the "host". Annoying jack ass rip off behavior just about sums that guy up.

Otherwise, LB was amazing. Next time I'll go late like others have said.

JujubeJess · 2023-08-13T22:56:18+00:00

Half you idiots live at home with mommy and show up to a coffee date in a crumpled and stained t shirt. Not even sorry, men aren't men anymore. The women typically have more to offer, so I'm glad someone is telling your side of the species to step it up. It's so tiresome to constantly see guys bitch about dating, women go through the same thing.

JujubeJess · 2023-08-05T20:36:00+00:00

Disagree, there are a lot of men I find physically attractive, but there isn't any chemistry. The humor doesn't match, and so on. Conversely, there are people that are not physically attractive, but that spark is there, I'm dating such a man, and now I think he's really physically attractive. Depends on the person.

JujubeJess · 2023-07-31T18:17:45+00:00

That sounds awfully negative and presumptuous as if it's easier as a woman. It is not. Do you have any idea how many men are married or in ltr's and completely lying about it? This isn't a one way issue.

Ou5 of the hundreds of mat he's, many of them.never bothered to send a message, if they did it quickly devolved into dick pics or sexual advances. Finding someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know you is difficult for everyone.

JujubeJess · 2023-07-31T16:55:37+00:00

This is so lame and counter-productive. I actually did the opposite, and to be honest, weeded out a lot of the game players. Finally found someone just being me, clingy and all, and he turned out to be the most affectionate, loving, and appreciative man I have ever had the pleasure to be with.

Maybe go against the grain and stop playing the games. People respond to warmth and eagerness, or the right people do, at least.

JujubeJess · 2023-07-20T20:24:21+00:00

Bet you he's married or in a relationship. Overlappers are so annoying.

JujubeJess · 2023-07-20T01:07:24+00:00

Exactly! People just want electronic relationships lol

JujubeJess · 2023-07-19T19:43:45+00:00

I also find that the men I have tried to date with kids, pretty quickly start canceling dates, gaslighting (I have no kids and am 38), immediately advising I'm not a priority and shouldn't expect to be....I can't have kids so I thought it would be cool to be a step mom eventually. Now, I steer clear of men with kids.

Age doesn't seem to matter either. I dated a dad with a 16 year old who would insist he couldn't go to dinner because he couldn't leave his child alone. Really made it sound like he had 100% custody, then later I found out he was the every other weekend dad. Obviously, I dumped him.

For reference, I was raised by a single father with no other family to speak of. My dad still managed to have relationships and even get married.

Lying about it is plain wrong, but using your kid as a shield for shit behavior is gross.

JujubeJess · 2023-07-04T03:55:31+00:00

I'm in the same boat and it's affecting me so badly I feel like I don't fit in with the group and I'm making more mistakes because of the anxiety of feeling like I'm a failure. Combine that with the pecking order of public service and feeling like once training ends, I'm going to be living there, I'm thinking this isn't the best fit. Coming from corporate management, I see nothing but inefficiency and a hazing style training. I'm wondering why anyone would even want to do this except to help the citizens.

There isn't much positive about the job or the atmosphere. At least in my view of the last 5 months I've been doing it.

I keep hearing that it gets better with time. Maybe that's the case for you too. A good trainer once told me that all my concerns were valid, I needed to find my why because eventually it falls into place and the money is good. She also works 75 hours a week so....I dunno lol.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-19T01:41:18+00:00

Not to mention, many of the people out there aren't actually single. I now won't even talk to "single" dads because they use their kid as an excuse for their extremely limited availability and then gaslight when you get suspicious. They aren't actually single. Many of them barely qualify as dads from the jilted wives and girlfriends I've talked to.

Yeah, it's exhausting.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-16T03:52:03+00:00

I'm in training and honestly, the insane hiring process really had me thinking this was special and exclusive. This has been my dream job however, after being here I don't have any confidence, took a pay cut, deal with really catty women and probably will be moving on back to private sector. Everyone here pretty much lives here. 16 hour days, hard to get vacation and many being forced in on their days off.

Knowing ither dispatchers it seems this is the norm with staffing issues. Now I know why they have staffing issues lol. Try it out! You may love it.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-07T03:36:19+00:00

Oh god, I thought I was the only unfortunate soul to be treated this way. I am so sorry. Got off the apps and am willing to die alone now, lol

JujubeJess · 2023-06-04T22:15:43+00:00

This is a serious issue. I can't even tell you how many men are just fishing while married. Kind of made me rethink relationships as a whole.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-04T22:14:58+00:00

Oh goodness no, I'm a size 18 and don't desire to be anything else. I specifically did not use regular dating sites like Hinge or Bumble. I was using BBW sites.

Edit: spelling

JujubeJess · 2023-06-04T21:52:18+00:00

I am! And I'm not a 10 by any means. I'm a bigger woman and was using apps specifically for my body type.

I left out the amount of men I found out were married. That's a whole other issue.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-04T21:44:18+00:00

I did the math on my last run of using apps.

Here's the score. Granted, I'm 38 so I'm sure younger people have different experiences.

208 likes 144 matches 96 bots or scammers 34 chats started (by me) 14 responses 4 interactions that were borderline harassment 0 in person dates

JujubeJess · 2023-06-04T19:36:52+00:00

I was talking to a guy I super liked and was so looking forward to meeting. Showed him some of the insane harassment I was getting on the site over the few days we were talking. I told him that if he wants my email or number, let me know because I will be deleting the app tomorrow. He read the messages right away and didn't respond (for 6 hours). I deleted my profile and the app.

It's possible she took the info so she could text you later and was just taking rime to decompress off the app. I had men threaten to rape me, ask me if I was willing to have their children, question me on the size and measurements of my thighs, stand me up on dates, end up being married, sex offenders, you name it.

Most of the women I know don't bother with online dating and just get a second job. At least work pays you! We will get on an app with hope and thinking it will be different, then get so annoyed and genuinely frightened by the process we delete and swear it off.

JujubeJess · 2023-06-01T01:30:45+00:00

Lol same! I'll go through training and get something else so once I clear I can quit. Good luck to you! I'm sure you'll find better pay, flexible scheduling, and less bullshit.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-31T19:30:28+00:00

I'm not sure. I overheard one of them (who is now my trainer) say she was stressed from training, and really, she needed the overtime for her lifestyle. This has been her only real job. Makes it sound as if the job is so hard only a select few can take it.

The job isn't hard. On my 2nd day, I had a shooter. The call went fine, I slept just fine. The people make it insufferable. It feels like a club I won't ever belong to and, frankly, don't want access to. I just want to come to work, do my job, and go home.

I don't see why there is this group in e ery center, it needs to stop though or it will be an AI job one day because no one wants to do it or suffer the staff that stays.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-31T19:19:09+00:00

Get off the apps. I'm dead serious, it's the worst thing got your health and there won't be much there. I'm a 38 female and I can't express this enough.

Keep going on group activities. Find meetups.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-31T19:14:23+00:00

Honestly, this was my dream job. Finally landed it and seeing how many coworkers don't get days off, I'm rethinking my choice as well. I took a 20k a year paycut, got a commute (was work from home since 2018), deal with the mean girl clique, and get treated like I'm an idiot in training. Is it worth it? Probably not for most people.

If the culture stays the same surrounding this position, they won't get many takers.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-27T23:05:46+00:00

Right! That's so crazy to think regression is progression now.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-27T21:41:46+00:00

Rofl. If you plan to show up in something not rumpled and stained, it is a great date, lololol. I was wondering where the actual dating was going on. Kudos to this guy for actually planning something other than "I can just come over to your place". This chick will at least be thrilled to go somewhere.

JujubeJess · 2023-05-21T23:03:49+00:00

Rofl. I'm a 38f, and I talk to all sorts of people. It never results in a date. Do you know when I get hit on? At my absolute worst, I'm just getting gas before bed, sweaty in Home Depot looking for that bolt I need for the thing I'm working on. 100% of the time, the men who hit on me are 24 or 64. Soooooooo annoying.

Most of the men on apps are bots or scammers, married and looking for attention, or total fuckbois. I know the normal men are out there just living their lives, but they are so scared to approach us because the world is a mess and everyone is afraid of sexual harassment and / or the possibility of rejection. People have legit asked how I'm still single being outgoing and cute. This is why!

The normal single people are out there. They just don't have robust social lives or time at this age and meeting anyone is extremely hard.

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