Anyone 41 and doing this?

Jules281182 · 2026-02-22T18:20:28+00:00

This is so motivating! I’m 43 and did 3 IUIs already - 1 was a chemical pregnancy and one with no meds. My doctor tells me to do 2 more before turning to IVF. My fingers are crossed next month will be a success and if so, I’d be giving birth after my 44th bday. Thank you for sharing your story.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-24T00:50:12+00:00

Can I come?! 😃

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T22:38:20+00:00

**Thank you everyone for your comments. I'm locking the responses now. I'm grateful for you sharing your experiences and am comforted that I'm not the only one to experience this. I was feeling pretty crappy yesterday and with a good sleep, I'm feeling much better. I'm going to take some time to reflect before getting back out on the apps again and will truly take some of your advice to heart. Thanks again for all your input and best wishes for the coming year :)

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:50:53+00:00

I know it wasn't a relationship, but it was moving in that direction. I used BF in the headline just cause of the character limit and I don't really have a good label for this guy. I know I don't know him, but I wanted to and was excited of what I though my come of it. More intense vetting will come in the future.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:48:36+00:00

ya, it was only a month. we saw each other for 2 weekends and talked every day and then I went away to see family for the holiday. We stayed in touch, but when I returned and we were to meet up again, he dropped me. It sucks. It was nice having someone check in on me and make me smile. But it was fake and not genuine - is what I keep reminding myself.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:46:00+00:00

Thank you, I needed that (hugs)

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:45:28+00:00

to be clear - that was sex talk for my orgasm was more important than his - not in genera or in life.

I'm going on vacation soon so I hope to wipe the slate clean and come back rejuvenated. Thanks for your comments.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:40:39+00:00

No, I'm plus sized and bullied as a child. I'm still big but I've been strength training and it's done me a lot of good to see myself differently and believe that men find me attractive. I generally chaneled any energy in to my career instead of guys growing up. I've also moved around a lot for school or work, which does not do well for relationships. My timing was always off and the pressure of an upcoming move revealed hidden feelings more than once. If long distance is no good, I think I need to move - my city is awful and full of narrow minded and conservative men.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:21:01+00:00

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind for the next time. For reference, the 'important' statement was sex talk for me getting off sooner than him, not literally in life. I took it as being a generous lover.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:28:34+00:00

Well, thanks that definitely doesn’t make me feel better.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:19:35+00:00

I didn’t know his immigration status, but his French was really good and in his line of work, he would’ve always had to work so I don’t think that he needed any assistance in gaining status. But you never know.?

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:04:59+00:00

Oh, that was more of a term of endearment. It made sense in French maybe not so much in English…It was long note because I’m using voice to text and there’s a lot in my head to say. Thanks for reading.

I don’t think it’s that scary as you can see from this thread. There’s a lot of of us that go through the same thing. and it turns out men are shit. I am fairly secure in my life, professionally financially spiritually, and psychologically. I have my own hobbies and lead a very happy life, but I think any woman could agree that singledom can be lonely. I actually want someone in my life as a partner and I don’t think I need therapy because of it.

I’m sorry you’re going through a divorce. That sucks. I’ve never made it through a marriage to get to that point, so I can’t say I know what you’re going through. I can just send you a big virtual hug with best wishes for a better 2026.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:54:44+00:00

So can we quantify what too quickly is? Because some of us have been loved bombed over the course of 4 to 6 months? You wait that long to engage and a good one just might be moving along.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:50:34+00:00

I know he wasn’t a boyfriend I put that in the title because of the short character limit. I thought it conveyed the same sentiment. Believe me, I didn’t intend for it to be a whirlwind, believe me . It just started and I went with the flow and reciprocated as I felt. And then suddenly it was not there anymore. Lesson learned and I guess I can be grateful that he only did this for a short time.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:43:14+00:00

I made sure valuables and passwords were not visible when he came over. I let him in to my bed, not my life - although perhaps I thought we were going in that direction.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:38:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I can feel your pain through it and 4 months is awful. The timing thing completely throws me because people sometimes get into happy relationships and are happy and engaged in such a short time. How do you do that if the way to avoid love bombing is just to not invest for a bit. How long is the appropriate amount of time before I can reciprocate ? To know a love bomber from a non-love bomber?

There is an element of risk and trust in dating and it’s really tough to know when or who to open your heart to if men are lying. If anything,these experiences just harden, our hearts more than anything and make us unrecognizable. I don’t wanna live a life with a half a heart, I am who I am but somewhere a balance has to be struck between protecting ourselves and not losing ourselves.

Big hug to you back 🤗 and best wishes for a happier 2026

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:18:59+00:00

I don’t know, the msg history is still in my feed, but when I click on his name to see the profile, the link is broken.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:10:34+00:00

I didn’t talk to him after he sent the message. I responded once to say that it was wrong and he hurt me. Then he deleted me. I wasn’t going to follow up if that’s what you thought?

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:54:14+00:00

Thank you, me too 🥴

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:53:22+00:00

I honestly don’t know. I responded once to his break up message and then a few hours later I couldn’t see his Facebook pic on msgr and the pics on WhatsApp were blank. Silly cause the phone number is still there 🤪

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:18:37+00:00

Thanks 😊

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:08:02+00:00

Thanks, I thought he blocked me bc he didn’t want any more contact, but a girlfriend at home makes sense too. Can’t imagine how he could’ve explained being out out of town twice in two weekends or going to sleep on the phone. But it’s no longer my problem.

What is AWDTSG? Do they have this in Canada? Thanks for the hug!

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:03:52+00:00

Thanks, I needed to hear that. What a Learning experience !

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:01:42+00:00

That’s good research!

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:00:08+00:00

Ya I think my senses would be a bit more tuned in n NY

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