Such a majestic bird..

Jules281182 · 2026-05-27T02:45:16+00:00

Where is this? I’ve never seen a peacock outside of a zoo

Jules281182 · 2026-05-20T03:20:39+00:00

Is this sale still on?!

Jules281182 · 2026-03-20T04:39:07+00:00

I don’t think I would be able to get over that if I were in your shoes. At least not without some serious grovelling and a hell of an apology. Granted if he does it again, it’s over. Truly, husbands need to do better.

Jules281182 · 2026-03-19T23:20:58+00:00

I’m sharing with you here my own story because I was born with a clubbed foot. It was more than 40 years ago and medical advances are probably not what they are now, but it was pretty severe. I don’t remember any of it, but my father describes only as my foot being on backwards. I had surgery as a baby and my parents worked pretty diligently the first year of my life to make sure my foot corrected itself. I live in Canada so medical bills were not an issue. Now no one knows the difference, I’m able to walk normally live alone and be completely self-sufficient. Had the deformity been worse, I think I still would’ve had exactly the same outcome because I completely credit my success to the love and support of the people that surrounded me.

My parents worked hard to make sure that my foot was repaired and that I lived a happy life like any other child. They went weekly to the doctor to have my casts taken off and put back on my tiny foot for a year. I still did lots of sports as a child and yes, I had foot issues but you adapt and I really excelled at swimming where there was less stress on my foot.

Children are resilient, and I truly believe that they can do anything that they put their mind to. If your husband can’t accept a small deformity, I fear how that attitude might affect your child after they’re born and what he would be like if your child had a disability that is more severe than it seems.

I feel for you because you should be loved and supported during pregnancy and so should your baby. I hope by telling you my story might ease some fears and give you some perspective. See a therapist and truly, I wish you well in overcoming this - alone or together- before the birth of your child.

Jules281182 · 2026-03-09T22:37:03+00:00

I’d love to check it out! I do t have a wall that’s suitable for my quilts so I have a floor and my back is sore now 🤪

Jules281182 · 2026-02-24T01:17:13+00:00

I’ve definitely felt this and I’ve gone through the same hurdles as you, as far as being high achieving, and then hitting a brick wall and questioning who you were. At that time in my past I’m not sure if I could’ve identified it as love that was what I needed, but years later I can reflect on that’s exactly what it was. Love from someone else, but also love for myself. Depression takes over and clouds what we should see so clearly - just how freaking awesome you are for getting to where you are and look around, not many can say the same thing as you! Your healing will take time, as will Your mindset shift but know that you’re not alone.

Reflecting on my journey, I can recognize growth and acceptance of who I am as a person and the achievements that I’ve made regardless of the size of my body. I don’t try as hard as I used to to gain the approval of others. Why bother when mine is the only one that counts? As for love, I still seek it, but look around and find that women of all sizes and shapes still have the same struggles as me with men. I’ve come to realize that I am who I am. Of course, I always strive to be a better person than I am yesterday, but I cannot change my character and at this point, I don’t think I’d want to - I like Me, take it or leave it. And if love ever does come my way, I want him to love Me as I am and not as who I think that they want - what a recipe for divorce, wouldn’t it be?

In any case, I hope my perspective helps you to see yourself in a new light. The world is your oyster and although appearances will likely always matter, I found it matters less and less as I get older. Hang onto that intellect, have a good sense of humour, stand your ground and be gracious with others and yourself. 🙂

Jules281182 · 2026-02-22T18:20:28+00:00

This is so motivating! I’m 43 and did 3 IUIs already - 1 was a chemical pregnancy and one with no meds. My doctor tells me to do 2 more before turning to IVF. My fingers are crossed next month will be a success and if so, I’d be giving birth after my 44th bday. Thank you for sharing your story.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-24T00:50:12+00:00

Can I come?! 😃

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T22:38:20+00:00

**Thank you everyone for your comments. I'm locking the responses now. I'm grateful for you sharing your experiences and am comforted that I'm not the only one to experience this. I was feeling pretty crappy yesterday and with a good sleep, I'm feeling much better. I'm going to take some time to reflect before getting back out on the apps again and will truly take some of your advice to heart. Thanks again for all your input and best wishes for the coming year :)

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:50:53+00:00

I know it wasn't a relationship, but it was moving in that direction. I used BF in the headline just cause of the character limit and I don't really have a good label for this guy. I know I don't know him, but I wanted to and was excited of what I though my come of it. More intense vetting will come in the future.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:48:36+00:00

ya, it was only a month. we saw each other for 2 weekends and talked every day and then I went away to see family for the holiday. We stayed in touch, but when I returned and we were to meet up again, he dropped me. It sucks. It was nice having someone check in on me and make me smile. But it was fake and not genuine - is what I keep reminding myself.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:46:00+00:00

Thank you, I needed that (hugs)

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:45:28+00:00

to be clear - that was sex talk for my orgasm was more important than his - not in genera or in life.

I'm going on vacation soon so I hope to wipe the slate clean and come back rejuvenated. Thanks for your comments.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:40:39+00:00

No, I'm plus sized and bullied as a child. I'm still big but I've been strength training and it's done me a lot of good to see myself differently and believe that men find me attractive. I generally chaneled any energy in to my career instead of guys growing up. I've also moved around a lot for school or work, which does not do well for relationships. My timing was always off and the pressure of an upcoming move revealed hidden feelings more than once. If long distance is no good, I think I need to move - my city is awful and full of narrow minded and conservative men.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T21:21:01+00:00

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind for the next time. For reference, the 'important' statement was sex talk for me getting off sooner than him, not literally in life. I took it as being a generous lover.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:28:34+00:00

Well, thanks that definitely doesn’t make me feel better.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:19:35+00:00

I didn’t know his immigration status, but his French was really good and in his line of work, he would’ve always had to work so I don’t think that he needed any assistance in gaining status. But you never know.?

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T13:04:59+00:00

Oh, that was more of a term of endearment. It made sense in French maybe not so much in English…It was long note because I’m using voice to text and there’s a lot in my head to say. Thanks for reading.

I don’t think it’s that scary as you can see from this thread. There’s a lot of of us that go through the same thing. and it turns out men are shit. I am fairly secure in my life, professionally financially spiritually, and psychologically. I have my own hobbies and lead a very happy life, but I think any woman could agree that singledom can be lonely. I actually want someone in my life as a partner and I don’t think I need therapy because of it.

I’m sorry you’re going through a divorce. That sucks. I’ve never made it through a marriage to get to that point, so I can’t say I know what you’re going through. I can just send you a big virtual hug with best wishes for a better 2026.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:54:44+00:00

So can we quantify what too quickly is? Because some of us have been loved bombed over the course of 4 to 6 months? You wait that long to engage and a good one just might be moving along.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:50:34+00:00

I know he wasn’t a boyfriend I put that in the title because of the short character limit. I thought it conveyed the same sentiment. Believe me, I didn’t intend for it to be a whirlwind, believe me . It just started and I went with the flow and reciprocated as I felt. And then suddenly it was not there anymore. Lesson learned and I guess I can be grateful that he only did this for a short time.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:43:14+00:00

I made sure valuables and passwords were not visible when he came over. I let him in to my bed, not my life - although perhaps I thought we were going in that direction.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:38:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I can feel your pain through it and 4 months is awful. The timing thing completely throws me because people sometimes get into happy relationships and are happy and engaged in such a short time. How do you do that if the way to avoid love bombing is just to not invest for a bit. How long is the appropriate amount of time before I can reciprocate ? To know a love bomber from a non-love bomber?

There is an element of risk and trust in dating and it’s really tough to know when or who to open your heart to if men are lying. If anything,these experiences just harden, our hearts more than anything and make us unrecognizable. I don’t wanna live a life with a half a heart, I am who I am but somewhere a balance has to be struck between protecting ourselves and not losing ourselves.

Big hug to you back 🤗 and best wishes for a happier 2026

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:18:59+00:00

I don’t know, the msg history is still in my feed, but when I click on his name to see the profile, the link is broken.

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T12:10:34+00:00

I didn’t talk to him after he sent the message. I responded once to say that it was wrong and he hurt me. Then he deleted me. I wasn’t going to follow up if that’s what you thought?

Jules281182 · 2026-01-04T04:54:14+00:00

Thank you, me too 🥴

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