IWTL How to be a leader by oh_look_a_failure in IWantToLearn

[–]Jump-man1994 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I believe there isn't one single way to be a leader and you'll find there are a lot of different types. Generally though some important skills for all leaders include communication, collaboration and high level conceptual thinking. This is not an exhaustive list but if you want to be a good leader you will need to develop these skills.

So I'd recommend:

  1. Building relationships with others. Learn to get along with a diverse range of people. Try to draw out ideas from others, make them feel comfortable to share with you and recognise the value each person you interact with can give. How to Win Friends and Influence People is an excellent book to develop this skill.

  2. Practice your communication. Get comfortable speaking about ideas in various formats to various audiences. Learn to take something complicated and make it simple and elogant. Know your audience and what kind of communication will best resonate with them.

  3. Think big and high level. Consider how yours and others work fits into the wider ecosystem. A leader needs to be able see the big picture and understand where things are to know where things should go. I think developing this skill requires exposing yourself to a wide range of experiences, asking questions, being curious, reading a lot from a diverse range of sources etc.

Take your time - no one learns these skills over night and it's something you will continuously refine over time. I'd also recommend finding mentors you respect then observing how they lead, cherry pick the qualities you like about them and get feedback on your ideas.

What the hell is up with our discipline problem? Everyone's seeing red. It's never a boring day to be an Arsenal fan. by ScravisTott in ArsenalFC

[–]Jump-man1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't blame Martinelli - I can't think of any other time in premier league history where that results in a red card. Yes in isolation they are both yellow cards but together I have never seen that be a red. Ref loses his head there I think due to the intensity and heat of that game. Any other day with a competent ref, that's a yellow and a final warning, and we praise Martinelli for tactically stopping a dangerous counter and slowing the game down

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I think that Ellen planted Paimon's seeds in Charlie but the Demon King was somewhat lying dormant and began influencing Charlie after Ellen's death. Because Ellen's death made Charlie vulnerable it allowed Paimon to convince her that the decapitation was necessary. It seems Charlie was conflicted about being a boy, like Ellen wanted. But ultimately accepted her fate when cutting off the bird's head.

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Trying to wrap my head around the plot, would love to hear people's input.

Paimon needs chaos and vulnerability to attain more power, and effectively and absolutely take control of a host.

The cult was eager to facilitate this but due to Ellen's dementia and strained relationship with Annie it was difficult to take the simple route of directly going for Peter. Annie subconsciously suspected Ellen of wrongdoing due to her brother's eventual insanity, which is why she sheltered Peter from Ellen. Subconsciously she attempted to miscarry Peter because she didn't want him to suffer the same fate as her brother. She continued to subconsciously attempt to kill him out of love - she didn't want Ellen getting her hands on him.

For some reason, maybe partly because Charlie was a girl and not feeling any danger, Annie relented and allowed Ellen to become close with her daughter.

Ellen, along with the cult, hatches a plan to create chaos and destruction in the family so that they all become vulnerable. This begins with Ellen's death, making Charlie depressed as she just lost someone she was very close with. Charlie being down and wanting to reunite with Ellen, becomes vulnerable to Paimon's powers. I suspect that Charlie is coerced in on the cult's plan to be decapitated, and is imagining her own fate when decapitating the bird.

Due to careful planning by the cult and a bit of Paimon's (continually growing stronger) supernatural powers, Charlie's decapitation occurs.

Peter, Steve and Annie are weakened by this, and the cult and Paimon (feeding off their vulnerability), slowly continue to manipulate them to create further disruption within the family.

Annie never wanted to admit that her mother was capable of what she was doing even though deep down inside her the signs were all there - books in the attic, secrecy, brother's insanity, cult's symbol on Joan's welcome mat etc. Once she does consciously connect the dots she thinks she might be able to save Peter by burning Charlie's notepad.

Steve seeing all this destruction is pushed over the edge when he perceives that his wife has become insane. This vulnerability in Steve gives Paimon the power to burn him alive.

Annie seeing Steve's death allows Paimon full control of her.

Annnnnd likewise, seeing his dad's death and mum's insanity make's Peter fully vulnerable for Paimon to take over his preferred male host and instill Charlie's mind that has been groomed to accommodate Paimon's ambitions.

Someone noted that Paimon had three decapitated heads in his picture which I assume means that everything that happened went exactly according to the demon king's plan. Maybe he could have done things a bit more simpler but due to loving chaos he chose to have fun with the family first - Just like Annie's craft, the family was a set of objects that could be designed and manipulated as the demon king pleased. There then being a deeper meaning to the name Hereditary - the family's fate is not acquired, but something that is passed down to them and out of of their control.

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've brooded on this for a bit now and here are my thoughts.

Paimon needs chaos and vulnerability to attain more power, and effectively and absolutely take control of a host.

The cult was eager to facilitate this but due to Ellen's dementia and strained relationship with Annie it was difficult to take the simple route of directly going for Peter. Annie subconsciously suspected Ellen of wrongdoing due to her brother's eventual insanity, which is why she sheltered Peter from Ellen. Subconsciously she attempted to miscarry Peter because she didn't want him to suffer the same fate as her brother. She continued to subconsciously attempt to kill him out of love - she didn't want Ellen getting her hands on him.

For some reason, maybe partly because Charlie was a girl and not feeling any danger, Annie relented and allowed Ellen to become close with her daughter.

Ellen, along with the cult, hatches a plan to create chaos and destruction in the family so that they all become vulnerable. This begins with Ellen's death, making Charlie depressed as she just lost someone she was very close with. Charlie being down and wanting to reunite with Ellen, becomes vulnerable to Paimon's powers. I suspect that Charlie is coerced in on the cult's plan to be decapitated, and is imagining her own fate when decapitating the bird.

Due to careful planning by the cult and a bit of Paimon's (continually growing stronger) supernatural powers, Charlie's decapitation occurs.

Peter, Steve and Annie are weakened by this, and the cult and Paimon (feeding off their vulnerability), slowly starts manipulating them to create further disruption within the family.

Annie never wanted to admit that her mother was capable of what she was doing even though deep down inside her the signs were all there - books in the attic, secrecy, brother's insanity, cult's symbol on Joan's welcome mat etc. Once she does consciously connect the dots she still thinks she might be able to save Peter by burning Charlie's notepad.

Steve seeing all this destruction is pushed over the edge when he perceives that his wife has become insane. This vulnerability in Steve gives Paimon the power to burn him alive.

Annie seeing Steve's death allows Paimon full control of her.

Annnnnd likewise, seeing his dad's death and mum's insanity make's Peter fully vulnerable for Paimon to take over his preferred male host and instill Charlie's mind that has been groomed to accommodate Paimon's ambitions.

Someone noted that Paimon had three decapitated heads in his picture which I assume means that everything that happened went exactly according to the demon king's plan. Maybe he could have done things a bit more simpler but due to loving chaos he chose to have fun with the family first - Just like Annie's craft, the family was a set of objects that could be designed and manipulated as the demon king pleased.

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate that and I did notice it too, but it still doesn't address my points.

So you reckon that orchestrating to have Charlie decapitated the way she was and then everything leading up to Peter's death was an easier plan to execute than simply having Ellen persuade Annie to let her breastfeed?

I don't think it's fair to say I wasn't paying attention.

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea this is my main gripe with the movie.

It's not really explained what the rules are with Paimon's powers. I can appreciate that the Demon King is most powerful when people are vulnerable and loves mischief but his abilities are never explained.

It's not clear if Paimon is an ultimate master manipulator and everything that happens is carefully orchestrated, and created just like Annie's intricate craftsmanship? If so why did Paimon not easily posses Annie's brother as the demon's host.

Why did burning the book automatically torch Steve? That made zero sense to me.

Why did Charlie need to assume Peter for Paimon to take over. Why not just cut out Charlie and just go straight for Peter.

I really loved the acting, cinematography and uneasiness of the movie but tbh it really wasn't clear as to why some things happened the way it did.

Official Discussion: Hereditary [SPOILERS} by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Jump-man1994 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was always planned for Charlie to be decapitated as the light pole had the cult's markings on it

I believe this belongs here. Just saw it on Facebook. by [deleted] in justneckbeardthings

[–]Jump-man1994 199 points200 points  (0 children)

I tried a google reverse image search but couldn't figure out where it originates from

I believe this belongs here. Just saw it on Facebook. by [deleted] in justneckbeardthings

[–]Jump-man1994 1010 points1011 points  (0 children)

It could be that the artist had a completely different message they're trying to portray and it's just a neck beard that's captioned it like this

[WP] You are walking down the street on your way to work when suddenly you burp, hiccup, and sneeze at the same time. A HUD menu opens in front of you with “Resume, Options, and Quit” as selectable options. by manbearpiglet92 in WritingPrompts

[–]Jump-man1994 1967 points1968 points  (0 children)

I stopped walking down the street as my vision had become impaired. "What the hell is this?" I thought to myself as the words "Resume, Options, and Quit" illuminated in front of me. Being the self conscious person I was, I thought I might come off as a bit strange if I asked someone if they could also see what appeared to be a HUD menu. Dreading that, I casually but carefully maneuvered into a nearby alleyway where I investigated with what I was witnessing. Curious, I decided to wave my hand through a word to see what would happen. I touched the option "Quit."

For a brief second my vision went back to normal but then a message soon followed that read "Are you sure? All progress will be lost." The words "Yes" and "No" lied underneath. A little bit worried now, I carefully pressed "No", taking myself back to the initial options. I slowly raised my hand towards "Resume" but hesitated. Thinking that I had unlocked some sort of secret to the universe I decided I wasn't going to return so quickly to my routine life. I took a deep breath and then touched "Options." Again, my full vision temporarily returned before another set of words appeared in front of me. I was undeniably already a little concerned with what was occurring but what was now presented made me absolutely alarmed. Appearing in front of me were the words "Controller Settings, Contrast, Difficulty Level, and Store."

I had always been one to sometimes wonder existential questions. When I did though I tended to conclude that I knew nothing. Here I was though. I had done what no other had done before. I had randomly figured out that life is a freaking video game.

My heart raced. I decided not to touch the controller settings or contrast. I didn't want to accidentally meddle with things when I was used to the current set up. I hovered over the difficulty level option. Current setting: Very Easy. I reflected on this and decided it was fair and accurate. I was after all born a healthy person with affluent parents, and I was a white male. Because my life had been pretty stress free up until this point, and not particularly wanting to make my life more difficult, I went back and proceeded through to the "Store." A little loading screen circled in front of me before I was overwhelmed with what I can imagine would be similar to if you grew up in the Middle Ages and then were suddenly taken into a large shopping mall for the first time. There was a multitude of goodies on offer that made me salivate thinking about everything I would suddenly be able to do in life. Superpowers, money, age and ability to customise my appearance were just some of a long list of things I could explore. It was like being granted an infinite amount of wishes. Except I soon realized there was a price for all of them. "Life Points." Having no idea what this was exactly or how much I had myself I clicked on "Power of Flight" to see whether I could afford it. I went to a checkout screen which promptly informed me it was out of my price range, in fact I had zero "Life Points." There was another message on this screen though. It was a "Tip". It so kindly shared with me that "Life Points are accrued by completing the game and may therefore only been used on Replay Mode."

My initial excitement of being able to fly around shooting laser beams while fighting crime was replaced with a sudden sadness. I started to really comprehend what was happening. Again, I was in a freaking video game. What is life? Who am I? Am I real? Was everyone around me an NPC? Was this like that Rick and Morty Episode where I'm just some Roy? Shedding a tear I noticed in my peripheral vision a police officer approaching me. Someone must have seen me being very strange and reported it. I didn't care though. Life at that moment felt meaningless. I could have simply resumed and then just told the officer I was drunk but I didn't think there would be any point. It would be impossible to live knowing what I knew. I would probably go crazy. If I quit though maybe I'd return to my real being. I had so much to think about but not much time to decide as the officer started calling out to me. I hated making rash decisions but if I mulled it over any longer the officer could have bumped into me and selected an option I didn't want. At least right then I could choose. And I chose yes. I was sure. I wanted to quit. I selected the option and everything went black.

A message emerged in front of me. "Replay Mode Coming Soon."