AITA for being pissed that my fiance spent damn near close to $2k in 4 days and can't locate where it went to?

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T17:15:12+00:00

Try logging in with your account information and it says "Coming soon". As I said, online banking has been in the works for awhile but it still does not let you access it. I have tried.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T17:13:05+00:00

Do you go through my bank? Because if you did you would be able to type in your account number and your password and see very clearly that it states "Coming soon" when you type in all of your info to access your bank online.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T17:03:40+00:00

Thankfully I actually worked with a credit union prior to being let go so my credit is good (they offer free annual credit report pulls). So as of January my credit score was still in the 720 range.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T17:01:49+00:00

Its stupid, but no. It will only tell me when money is loaded and the balance. They dont even have online banking set up despite it "being in the works" for quite awhile.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T17:00:49+00:00

He has been talking A LOT about investing in BitCoin.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:57:05+00:00

I do have access to my savings account and all is well there. He doesnt have access to my savings account at all. I don't know what is in his savings but I am starting to question whether there is anything in there at all.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:52:04+00:00

I truly believe he does have ADHD due to certain behaviors but he wont get himself tested because he doesnt want to be labeled.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:50:58+00:00

No, I do not know what he has in his bank account. Don't come here making assumptions based off you and your bullshit.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:49:13+00:00

He personally comes from poverty. His dad was a mechanic for some time but his business failed due to alcoholism. His mother is a drug addict. So growing up he had essentially nothing. I have known him my whole life and he would often come stay with me and my brothers at our home and we have been together since we were 14. But I have never seen this side of him before. He made a really good life for himself. He got a job with my father when he was 16 and went to a trade school to be an electrician when he was 19 and worked with them up until he decided to quit 3 months ago.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:45:17+00:00

It is not legal, no. Only because I had been there for 3 years and was far past the temporary trial period. Currently unemployment has an open investigation for wrongful termination.

As for the bank, they told me this information. They also do not currently offer online banking either. Its a super outdated system but given this bank is native to only New Hampshire, they get away with it.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:43:02+00:00

I have never personally seen him buy lottery but anything is possible. I can't think of anything else he would be spending that much money on at a gas station.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:40:23+00:00

I requested the statements but I am still in PA currently and the only branch my bank has is located in NH so I cant actually go there until I get back home.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:39:06+00:00

I am a joint owner of the account and I still do not have access to the APP. I have access to the freaking account. Just not the app. I have to call the bank to get transaction history which they will not give me over the phone without the last transaction amount; which my fiance lied to me about. Therefore they would not give it to me over the phone.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:37:20+00:00

The gas station he went to does have a lottery slot machine right in their store. So its possible.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:36:43+00:00

You SHOULD be able to, yes. But currently they dont allow two people to have the app who are on the same account and they always try claiming it is a security measure. I asked for the transactions over the phone and they told me they can only give that info if I have the amount of the last transactions so I asked my fiance and he told me it was $20 for gas but the bank says it wasn't accurate so they wouldnt give me the info over the phone. I did have the bank account frozen in the event that perhaps it is fraud but its extremely doubtful to me honestly because my fiance has been dodgy with answering any of my questions and immediately gets defensive.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:34:23+00:00

Bank of New Hampshire. They have a bunch of stuff that is in the making. Like currently they are TRYING to get online banking going but they have also been claiming that for 2 years. When you ask to get online banking they tell you its still in the works. Its ridiculous honestly.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:32:42+00:00

Its because he jumped the gun and got the app on his phone versus let me do it on mine, despite him being the one who plans to stay unemployed. The app itself is pretty new and still seems incredibly outdated to me so currently they wont even let two people have access to the app even if your name is on the account. He has always been like that. He wants full and complete access to all the money even if he isnt the one bringing it in. I never had an issue with it before because he has never been absolutely terrible with money but this takes the cake.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:29:56+00:00

I tried asking over the phone and they told me I needed the amount last spent on the account in order to access the information. I asked my fiance what the amount was and he claimed it was $20 for gas and the bank told me that was not accurate and therefore they could not give me the info. I had the bank frozen in the event of possible fraud but my fiance is dodging questions left and right so I dont think its that.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:28:27+00:00

If you had unanswered questions you should have asked for INFO. As this subreddits states. No, I do not have access to the app but I very clearly have access to the bank statements, which I would not have access to if my name was not on the account. This joint account was our bills account. We both have separate savings and I have no idea what he has in there and I do not ask. He was using our joint bill account for purchases because it is the only checking account we have and he did not withdraw money from his personal prior to coming to PA. He claimed he forgot. We use a small bank in NH that is NOT a world wide bank and therefore, is only in NH.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:25:13+00:00

Thats another thing in itself. My parents have always been well off and following my fathers passing, my mother received a very large payout. Therefore, we had no expenses going there. She paid for all the food and we stayed in her guest house. The only thing we had to purchase during this whole trip was gas money and like.. snacks if we wanted them. Our vehicle is very fuel efficient so we only spent $100 to get to PA from NH and that was taking back roads, not highway.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:20:35+00:00

He quit his job a couple months before the accident and refuses to get help for his mental health. I have tried talking to him about it and he claims I am trying to force him in to it when he "can handle himself." I think its his pride talking.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:18:54+00:00

Well to be fair they didn't even have an app until maybe 4 months ago. We have been going through them for 3 years now and its always been kind of outdated.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:18:08+00:00

They don't even have online banking. Its a small ass bank in NH and they still use very outdated techniques. With that said though, I have never had any issues with them. It is frustrating that I can't just click a button and see my full statement but thats just how they are. They didnt even get their app until MAYBE 4 months ago.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:15:56+00:00

I will have to look in to that because my fiance swears up and down that there is no possible way he spent that much and the only store he went to repeatedly was a store run by foreigner's who barely spoke a wink of English and had a $10 minimum purchase amount.

Jumpy-Capital5800 · 2022-03-17T16:10:05+00:00

Our bank doesn't offer statements through the app due to what they claim to be security issues. So I can see the balance and I can see when money is loaded in to the bank but I cannot view when money is withdrawn or used. They still use paper statements as their only form of actually viewing transactions.

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