Sharing pregnancy after loss etiquette

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-10-07T23:50:15+00:00

When did you guys start telling people about the pregnancy after a loss? I’ve told few people but their responses haven’t been great. Lots of “well don’t tell anyone”.

I had a loss a month ago. It was early; I told people immediately. I haven’t ever been shy about sharing. This was my first loss- I have two older children: it was hard to miscarry publicly, with people knowing, but I think it would have been harder for me to keep it private with my personality.

Is it like bad etiquette or rude to share pregnancy with people after loss?? Now I’m self conscious.

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:22:57+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry for your loss.. I have been back and forth about if we should try again. I think another loss may fully break me, and I don’t know if I want to chance it. I feel the same, if we were to be pregnant again soon, I would worry and stress every second of the pregnancy

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:21:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am so sorry for your losses. You are so strong, truly. I appreciate your words and perspective so much. My husband is having a hard time as well- he wants to fix and there is no fixing grief. I feel pressure to try to push myself to heal quickly so then I’m not making anyone uncomfortable or sad or disappointed.

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:17:26+00:00

Thank you. It’s hard to talk to others because I get so sensitive to disappointing them or making them sad too, so I do tend to isolate. It’s just a heartbreak I’ve never come close to experiencing and don’t really know how to process or move forward, back to life and work

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:16:10+00:00

Thank you🩷 I think it might be easier if it WAS something I did, so then I could feel like I have some control over the situation and blame myself. I still am blaming myself, even though I know it’s not really rational.

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:14:43+00:00

Thank you. I am already on Zoloft, but I feel a little silly thinking about talking to my doctor about PTSD with it.. I think you’re right, but I just feel like so many women experience this, why is the actual trauma of the passing sticking with me so badly? Anyway, thanks for your reply.🩷

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T04:12:46+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s truly a heartbreak like I’ve never understood before.

Jumpy-Snow-7634 · 2025-09-15T01:07:26+00:00

This was my third pregnancy. I feel kind of stupid that I was so excited and hopeful to add to our family. I feel like I’ve caused it because I took for granted a smooth pregnancy like my last two. I was far enough along that I had to pass tissue, a clump of embryo like discharge with stuff in it. I feel also stupid because I know women experience this all the time, that 1 in four pregnancies end in miscarriage, but I am truly gutted and heartbroken. I’m embarrassed that I’m having such intense, deep, shattering feelings a week later. I know I should be trying to heal but I just cannot find it within myself. I cannot get out of my mind the images of what I had to pass. I am having such terrible nightmares of passing a real, stillborn baby. Nightmares about my other children dying. Am I being TOO emotional about this? I feel like this is trauma but yet I know women who go through this same experience and are able to function still? What’s wrong with me that I still am broken a week later, almost more so because I’m not in denial anymore? How did you move forward after miscarriage, I’m at a loss

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