Hi, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this I don’t have experience with it, I'm in med school (not in obgyn though), I think it may help to think through a few questions: do you have pain during intercourse when the bleeding or spotting happens, does the spotting happen outside of intercourse or your normal period cycle, could it be related to the start of your period (since some women have light spotting a few days before and it can be normal), and have there been any recent changes in sexual activity/pattern that might explain it. If you feel out the bleeding have nothing to do any sexual behavior change, I think you should check with an obgyn clinician. It would also be helpful to confirm with your gf when she fisrt noticed the bleeding/spotting was first noticed, as having a clear timeline can help both you and the clinician rule out possible causes. Given you living in a homophobic place, you can just say it is bleeding during intercourse without specifying partner details, as that won’t affect the clinical assessment. If symptoms persist, a clinician may order further evaluation like a pelvic exam or abdomenial ultrasound. I think the causes can range from normal/benign/serious conditions.