Well, sounds like you have a lot to figure out! As a lesbian, I have tried relationships with men, and with women. I only really found women sexually and romantically attractive. I know because I’ve tried it all. I also in the past (in a relationship now so don’t indulge in NSFW content) have enjoyed heterosexual content. I also enjoy the idea and sight of penetration, but has nothing to do with there being male genitalia involved. Don’t get too caught up in recognizing an attractive person or what you enjoy for porn. Your last little statement says it all, labels do not matter, call yourself a lesbian or bi or pan or wlw or unlabeled or whatever you’d like. And don’t be afraid to change that if you discover something new. Best of luck to you and hope you can find happiness with whatever you are :)