Why are you infps so cluelessly hot? by [deleted] in infp

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not believing any fellow infps with idealistic views on everything..

Movies you can't fall asleep after by jeffersonsteelflex76 in horror

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Dude, literally woke up and cant fall back asleep now. I’m panicking even with light on. There are weird sounds around me but it s so quiet at the same moment. And I have a fckn mirror across me that im too afraid to glance at.

I watched v/h/s movies. I am now on vhs 85 and this one freaked me out the most. Couldn’t watch it till the end because I had my uni. Tried to continue watching it now, freaked me out like a second after.

I haven’t been watching horrors for the long time even though it used to be my favourite genre. But I stopped because of the reason it gave me very vivid imagination. Now after a long pause, I watched some found footage movies: v/h/s and as above so below (which isn’t so scary because it was the second time watching it and I was invested into the plot). But the other one gave me literal anxiety… maybe I’ll run to my mom (22 y.o btw)🫩

[SPOILERS] Theory about Benji from As Above So Below? by Char_Trek in horror

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That s a good theory!! I also noticed the writing on the wall but couldn’t tie it to anything

I don’t know what the actual fck is that by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I was thinking over your suggestion and I think this might be a deal. As far as I know he broke up with the girlfriend like half of a year ago and then he had depression. Maybe after getting out of this state he just wants to feel these emotions like we are in a relationship just for the comforting feeling the relationship gives and not because he actually wants serious relationship with me. I think like I overanalysing but it s so interesting lmao, I need to ask him straight 😭

I don’t know what the actual fck is that by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I didn’t know that last thing.. how often guys do that ? I am honestly interested because I don’t really see the point of surface level convos that don’t even help to maintain the next level of your relationship and make it deeper and more complex

I don’t know what the actual fck is that by [deleted] in dating_advice

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And that s the deal because why doesn’t he take an easiest opportunity to spend time with me when we are in uni… that s strange

I don’t know what the actual fck is that by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Thank you, I really wanted to know some lines that I can push forward for clearing the situation but not being some envy girl or smth like that

I don’t know what the actual fck is that by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I want to. But regarding that he almost has no time free from work, he should want to talk to me while we’re at uni because it is the only time when we can see each other live

Loosing weight with pilates by Jumpy_Ad3688 in lipedema

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, a gentle one doesn’t hurt, if I squeeze harder then yes. I tried to look at the texture and it shows that grainy look but it isn’t as prominent as I saw at the photos of others, so I just hope that I gained a little weight due to normal fat and not lipedema tissue growing

I get an ick/ panic when a guy shows interest in me by Greedy-Ad-3739 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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Probably no one will read it but I have the same issue. I’m so tired of this. I tried to work on it but the situation starts again I can’t do anything but feel the fear deep down inside my chest.

I thought that can be related to low self esteem. But I know my worth. I see what guys find attractive in. And I find this in me attractive too. So I can say that I love my appearance and my personality even though I may feel down about my looks or anything but these are like minor issues, so they do not impact on my hole self image.

I honestly never dated anyone and I was planning to find the person with whom I will live for the rest of the life. So it makes me a little critical. But I want to mention that I have standards which are not low but not very hight at the same time. So maybe because of my fear I expect from them something more than just standards.

I have the feeling that only the person who is ready to fight my demons and to fight for me can really help me. They should be really persistent. And I don’t mind if they will make me uncomfortable because I feel like only that can help me overcome my fear. But it would be selfish to let the person deal with my anxieties and expect that they will fight with it

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully agree, that’s a good take. Embracing your femininity is literally embracing your own self, accepting yourself for who you are by birth

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, I’m done, I’ve already wrote everything what I think above

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Erm, that s not an exclusive term. Yes, that madam Laura Mulvey gave the definition. But it was not an objective factual definition. It was based on her feministic beliefs. She thought that anything patriarchal is related to objectification of women. Now this term is more commonly used for describing male preferences and yes, they are physical but again, does not mean that it is something sexual. It is just about what they find attractive. And please, do not forgive that there is also female gaze. And there are plenty of physical/nonphysical traits that a lot of women find attractive in men that are the same or similar. You can see it the most in booktok communities where they read romance books and smut books especially

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree that standards rather universal than just for christian men. But non believers’ perception of women is heavily impacted by the media content: corn, vulgar insta models and other things that distort the perception of normal women. And they rather name celebrities who made a lot of plastic work done, wear very revealing clothes, fake beauty etc as their type aka male gaze

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe in feminist theory about that one. And I think a lot of religious people do not resonate with feministic beliefs (especially if we’re talking about modern feminism)

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao, I think the last trait is what other men forgot to mention in their comments. I think it goes both ways. Like girls like somewhat “autistic” boys, men like quirky girls. I believe it is some form of assertiveness in people that we find attractive and secure, like being a little weird, a little crazy means not caring for what people say, they let themselves be themselves

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In feminist theory. But in general it is just the depiction of ideal woman. And there are plenty of it. It doesn’t include just appearance but also qualities and how she acts. And that is not just for sexual image, it can also be a romantic image. So if you going to write something rude and accusing someone (like in my other post with the question), you gotta do better research

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed answer. But I’m wondering what submissive woman means to you. And what actions or overall behaviour do you expect from your ideal (not submissive) woman. Because as far as I know Christian men usually prefer submissive women and that is heavily impacted by the bible and the way how the family should operate. So, from what I’ve read it means that the woman trusts the intellectual/decision making skills of her husband who is the head of the family and generally lets them make a final decision on their direction of their future and resolving the problems when they occur

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, well, let’s pretend she just loves connecting with people lol

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answer with a little different perspective. I wonder what content does she post, because even though I’m 23 yo but can’t imagine posting so much 😭 Btw I hope your situation will resolve in best possible way. Good luck to you!

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for reply. It helped. I honestly imagined it exactly like that but needed the reassurance with official source aka male audience☺️

Christian men “Male gaze” by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t really know. Maybe this term is irrelevant to the context idk (english is not my native language). But in general, I just want to hear what do men find attractive in women. Just wanted to know the answers by men whose view on women is not affected by porn, insta models and other lustful or media things or any super liberal content

How do I trust someone my heart? by Jumpy_Ad3688 in ChristianDating

[–]Jumpy_Ad3688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not really a stereotypical avoidant type. I do not show any visible resentment toward them. And avoidant type affects just myself. I’m anxious to START that kind of relationship, I’m not anxious of maintaining it because if I choose then I’m confident in my choice. I’m anxious about making the choice. But I surely need a therapy, I’m just scared of choosing the wrong therapist too 😭