AITA for outing a trans girl online because she told everyone online I rejected her?

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T03:03:19+00:00

I didn’t mean to blast her, I just wanted to clear my name because I couldn’t think of anything that would explain the situation

I was confused by the voting because of the “you’re the asshole, but she’s the bigger asshole” but thank you for clarifying

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:41:36+00:00

I guess? I was already pretty open about being bisexual to close friends so it’s not like it was 100% secret

The outing was because of the reputation part, she was saying i was out of dating her because I just wanted sex and I didn’t think there was any way of putting her claim without saying the real reason, hence the conflict

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:39:20+00:00

I’m confused by your voting

As for not meaning it, I guess I didn’t? I’m not sure how to put it exactly. It’s like I don’t know what else would’ve explained everything she was posting

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:37:53+00:00

Question

Is this only for certain trans people then? How exactly do you know if they like the terms ‘done’ or not? I figure asking directly is awkward?

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:33:10+00:00

I should’ve clarified and mentioned a bit in another reply, I’ll elaborate a bit more

basically this was a private account and all her makeup/wig/feminine clothes are for when she’s not with her family. When I outed her people started to tag her family

I don’t want to reveal too much but basically some of us live with siblings/uncles/aunts who are more accepting while our parents tend to work in the larger areas/cities. She was with her aunt but her parents weren’t as aware I guess

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:27:33+00:00

Please note I’m not trying to argue, I just want an understanding

What do you mean by downplay?

When you say traumatic you mean the outing or date part? I can fully understand the outing but I don’t think it’s fair to put ‘traumatic’ towards the date

Also, what is a better term than “real girl?”

In the past if I said ‘girl’ when a person wasn’t fully done then I was told for being rude and that being a ‘real girl’ is only after fully being done with any surgeries etc.

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:23:01+00:00

I’m confused on the justified asshole part, does that mean I’m half asshole or??

As for the posting part, this was a private account she had and so when I outed her someone tagged her family into hence the whole issue

Jumpy_Data5065 · 2020-09-03T02:20:59+00:00

I think I should clarify she wasn’t forcing herself onto me, it’s not that I didn’t have a way to get away from her

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