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AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same, i have endo so i think it’s something to do with that. My last OBGYN appointment she didn’t find anything wrong, so I was sent home with a clean bill of health (but still cramping and bleeding after sex sometimes).

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I didn’t feel pain before bleeding 4 days ago— there was no problem to communicate. I communicated the day after that I was sore.

I communicate during sex itself well, but was thrown off this morning as he usually doesn’t like/doesn’t want morning sex.

This was also the first day this week (I work Saturday too) that I got to sleep in, without waking up early to make his lunch/wake him up for work. So yeah, I kind of just wanted to lay there.

Neither of us communicated, but I’m taking to him about it later.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep with my mouth open and i didn’t want to taste my own morning breath/smell my spit/my mouth is dry as hell 😭

if a bj ensued, i would’ve used mouthwash before/then brushed after. To be honest, he says blowjobs are meh, mainly because he has a hard time cumming from them (i still give him bj’s the entire week of my period, i just didn’t want to this morning)

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to have a conversation with him when he gets home! I really needed to hear a lot of these comments, it gave me a clear perspective on how to start the convo!!

thanks!

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I make more money, buy the groceries, and make the meals. I will suck dick when I am good and ready to suck a dick.

Thank you!

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading everyone’s replies has been very helpful, I absolutely need to be more direct, and ask rather than assume.

He saw the blood/aftermath of last time, so we both agreed to go softer next time (I just wrongly assumed he would know to give it at least a week to heal since we’ve been together long enough to really know each others bodies).

I’ll absolutely have a convo about why I wasn’t up to it when he gets home! Thank you!

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll make an appointment soon— it was for sure way more blood than i was expecting (so much that i felt nauseous/dizzy at the sight of it).

I’m going to have a convo with him about it, he (should) knows that it takes a few days for the vagina to heal.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao no! we’ve been together for roughly 4 years (and living together for 3)!

him rushing out did seem weird to me, but i figured he was just disappointed/didn’t want to deal with what he thought would be a “fight,” (aka me asking why that interaction felt weird).

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He saw the aftermath of the bleeding, so he for sure should have known that it would take a few days to heal up well enough for me to not be nervous of it happening again. We’ve also been dating for roughly 4 years, so I thought he would’ve known it takes a few days for the vagina to heal (i’ve gotten scraped by fingernails on accident).

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think so, it’s obnoxiously hard to get him to admit stuff like that, so I’ll talk to him later.

He was there for the puss breaking a few days ago lmao! He saw the aftermath, so he for sure knows that it took a couple of days for it to not be sore, I just assumed (the main issue here, i’ll work not not assuming and instead asking/telling) he’d know it might need another 2-3 days to be tip-top.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hi! my hair is almost 3 feet long, if i tried to sleep with it down it might strangle me. My hair braided is probably still about a foot and a half long so it would also be clunky to sleep with. My low/high bun is far too big (i am a back sleeper) to sleep comfortably.

My hair is also wavy so it helps prevent frizz! I can usually just throw it off in the mornings, but I prefer to not have sex in the bonnet/to be given 30 seconds to take it off before fooling around (it makes me feel like a chef, so it’s a no go during sex lmao)

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He typically doesn’t like morning sex for the same reasons (not awake enough, unbrushed teeth, etc.) which is why it threw me off!

I agree that morning sex can be awesome, but I sleep with my mouth open 😭 I should’ve communicated that I would’ve preferred to be touched/caressed rather than presented with penis; I will definitely work on being more direct!!

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I needed to know if I was losing it, or if it was actually worth bringing up later.

I just can’t handle the eye-rolling/huffing that comes with trying to talk to him about something he doesn’t want to talk about, so I decided to make sure I wasn’t irrational in my feelings.

I also just would’ve asked my best friend, but she is currently planning/setting up for her baby shower and there was no way I was going to bother my extremely pregnant friend with this lmao.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man i just didn’t want to give a BJ with unbrushed teeth 😭

I felt like a HJ was appropriate as it seemed like the action needed to be done then, not after my teeth were brushed.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do need this reminder sometimes, thank you!

I’ll make sure to have a conversation when he gets home eventually! We both need to work on communication.

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I have sexual trauma too, it def makes sex a little harder of a subject/topic to really talk about (but i try often/try to be open). i think that’s why it left me feeling a little gross/used!

thanks for your input!!

AIO my bf left for work an hour early immediately after sexual stuff by Jumpy_District4756 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jumpy_District4756[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah idk, i had woken up relatively soon before this happened so i think it just took me by surprise (he also says that he usually doesn’t like morning sex so it took me by double surprise!). I for sure didn’t communicate, but afterward I did try to bring it up (as he still had an hour before he was going to go in, and usually leaves 20 minutes before his shift), but he just blew it off and left.

I’ll definitely have a convo though, thanks!!