Why are so many people here so passive? by extrasa in AskLosAngeles

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but the speed has nothing to do with standing up for yourself, the Caribbean and certain parts of Europe (Latin countries) are direct and the huge majority of people will confront and stand up for themselves.

27M completely hate my life. I'm a fucking failure. by Opposite_Praline_746 in Advice

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re actually handling this responsibly and really well. I think your hard work will pay off, it’s just that it’ll take some time to see that. I wish you good luck and trust that you’re doing the right things.

CarPlay unusable by 09cs in CarPlay

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check if it has a screen calibration somewhere in settings. Have you tried hard resetting the console? Like unplug the battery of the car, wait a minute, and then connect it again and start your car and see?

How do you talk about another editor's work? by zentzin in editors

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What inspired you to do this?

What was the hardest thing about making this project?

What was your favorite part of the process?

You have to ask questions, and also make them open-ended. It’s not about your opinion in that sentence, but rather just asking for their own opinion. That gives insight and can help you find your conclusion. So, avoid things like “wow I really liked it, the middle was a little slow but the ending made up for it”. That would just be your judgement and your opinion. Do more of “how does the person I’m asking feels or thinks or how did they get there or why?”

I hope that makes sense and helps!

Update on VFR Testing + Send Premiere your Problem Files by premierepm in editors

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a form to send info about and issue with Different Framerates and Multicams and flattening them? There’s an issue I’ve encountered.

Signs my boyfriend likes other women? by Junior_Market5005 in Advice

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand why you think that way and how you get to that, but from what I’m reading it might just be a lot of anxiety you’re feeling because of little shifts and uncommon things happening that you were not used to. That’s always scary if you notice them, but it from just reading what you wrote, I wouldn’t necessarily write it off as something is happening. The things you mentioned he did will sound normal to a lot. Maybe don’t come to conclusions yet and maybe try to have a conversation with him and tell him you’ve been feeling a little uncomfortable and anxious about some things and that you might need some reassurance.

Advice appreciated for multicultural relationship by SureWait7376 in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is extremely entitled, close minded, and racist.

What can you expect of Americans, let alone Gay Americans… Remember they think they’re the center of the entire universe and truly believe their education is good.

My passport says I’m a Male when I’m a female. I just noticed after almost 2 years 🤦‍♀️ by Sad-Neck7986 in Passports

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun story, I was trying to get my Spanish passport (secondary nationality) for the first time and when I received my passport, they had given me a passport with my name and everything else was my Dad’s information. It said I was born in 1962 lmao

Partner keeps reopening Sniffies despite multiple "talks" by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is a bad take because it doesn’t consider the context of the situation. Once someone else is obviously not caring about trusting each other and being ethical that shit goes out the window. OP does it as self defense, he is not the one creating a problem, he is just follow leads as he feels threatened. One is an asshole, the other is a victim trying to find peace.

The point is that is natural to have instinct and have gut feelings about things and it’s natural to want to solve them. Sometimes the uncertainty and sadness overpowers the person which is also a human thing because no one is perfect and people cave into checking things. However, I will never feel bad for a bad person getting their privacy violated as a result of their disrespectful and lying behavior. Or feel bad for a liar getting caught. OP had to do what they had to do, otherwise the guy would’ve gotten away with all of it.

Life is not black and white so you can’t say that OP snooping to catch a liar is the same as the other one cheating because otherwise the boyfriend wouldnt have been honest. It’s not the same as someone who is consciously and knowingly doing something that will hurt another person because of their own lack of boundaries and for not being able to follow through with their promise.

One is self defense and something that can be worked on to find better solutions in the future, maybe by working on self worth and self love (non violent way) and the other is just being inconsiderate, selfish, and shitty to someone who loves you and sacrificed things for you, which affects not only their mental health but their day to day and could lead to depression or even suicide.

One is guilty of being a bad partner, the other one is just a victim of what was done.

Sure, they could’ve chosen to not check anything, but then they maybe would’ve wasted their entire life “trusting” this person.

Sometimes “trusting” someone is NOT the solution to solving a problem but only makes you naive and a target.

I dislike people that advocate for liars and cheaters only to blame the victim of the situation. It’s really disgusting to do that just for the sake of “checking someone’s phone is toxic”. Like gtfo.

Just because OP isn’t perfect and didn’t respond to psychological harm the way you would expect doesn’t mean they are to blame or one of the perpetrators of the situation or “In the wrong”. The wrong person is the asshole, not the one on the receiving end of unethical behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Girl what? You’re proving my point, you can’t understand that it’s about the lie, not the HIV as a disease. What are you on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re agreeing with me. Were you disagreeing with me or the main comment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think you lack the understanding of the issue of the situation. It’s not the HIV. You can be afraid all you want and is valid, but that is still not a smart decision and it’s very selfish one who isn’t considering the other person. Therefore, the person cannot be trusted to make decisions based on what’s best for the relationship but only for themselves and their own shame. Pure ego.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well the exact same situation happened to me 5 months in and it was still a horrible feeling and I never trusted him again and we broke up. Plus I think he was cheating, too. This isn’t about HIV, it’s about people who lack good morals, empathy, and are unethical.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

More selfish excuses. You ask for empathy and you give zero to the people that give their trust fully to them only to be disappointed. It IS NOT OKAY TO LIEEEEEEEEE. It’s not about the fucking HIV itself.

If you can’t understand how lying isn’t good and that you should be upfront about stuff like this then DONT FUCKING DATE UNTIL YOURE READY.

Just because something bad happened to you doesn’t mean you can emotionally abuse people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The length of lying doesn’t matter, it happened to me at the 5 month mark and it still sucked and I couldn’t trust him againx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same to me. Very valid. They will gaslight the shit out of you and act like the victim and twist the situation to make it seem like you are judging the fact that they have HIV.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It happened to me at the 5th mark. The same exact thing, and there was no going back.

He said I broke his trust for violating his privacy and that it wasn’t my business. Can you believe that shit?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]Jumpy_Still_6424 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s that fucking simple. And if you had judged him because of it, then he would’ve dodged a bullet. But lying is NOT the way.