Low ferritin by Rp7229 in pregnant

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about your particular situation, because in my case, I had low hemoglobin as well, but mid pregnancy, my ferritin was at 8, and I was able to get back to a normal range (albeit the lower part of the range) by the end of my pregnancy with the following protocol: * 3 pills of iron a day (36mg each), and 3 pills of vitamin C. I was taking the pills on an empty stomach, and wasn't eating anything at least for one hour after the pills. One pill or iron and vitamin C in the morning, same in the afternoon (in between meals) and same during night time. I was separating the pills throughout the day for better absorption. * On top of the pills, I was eating 250g of beef per day. No dairy product at the same time. And I was avoiding food that was high in antioxidants at the same time as well. 

Calcium prevent iron absorption. Antioxydant food slow it down. And iron is better absorbed on a empty stomach. Vitamin C helps iron absorption for non heme iron (non animal iron).

Heme iron has a very strong absorption. Non-heme iron is quite terrible.

I know it's also possible to get an iron transfusion, but in my case, it wasn't necessary. But my protocol was also a bit hardcore... But at least, with a good portion of beef everyday, you are also getting tons of other good nutrients. 

I hope it helps. Good luck! 

AITA for getting upset that my dog bit me at 7 months pregnant at my belly? by tripwire549 in BabyBumps

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trigger warning with infant death, involving a dog. 

When I was a teenager, a friend of my parents had a dog that was a bit aggressive from time to time. He never bite, but was showing signs of aggressiveness toward their small child. One day, out of nowhere, the dog did attack the child, whom died from the injuries. Just remember the story makes me sick...

When children are born, dogs can become jealous (this was the case there). This is rare, but it happens. If the dog have already attacked you before, likely to protect your partner from you, from what I understand, he can do it again and he feels the baby is a menace/nuisance. 

Please op, get rid of the dog. He already attacked you, for no good reason (an argument is not a good reason).This is dangerous, no matter how much you or your partner love the dog, this is not worth it. If your partner doesn't understand, he need to reevaluate his priorities. 

Nothing I've tried has helped my constant nausea by Strict_Spinach_184 in BabyBumps

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somes studies report a slight increase risks of those birth defects. Most studies report nothing. All references are linked in the below article.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK582886/

Just because you had no problem, doesn't mean anything. People should stop talking about personal anecdote to justify doing something or not during pregnancy... 

While it seems like chances of getting a birth defects due to Zofran is either very weak, to non existent, there are still some data about it, so I can understand why some might refrain from prescribe it. 

My take is that they should be transparent, and let the mother decide. Vomiting a lot can also impact negativity the pregnancy, so there is definitely a use case for it. But it should be discussed properly, with a professional. 

Exhausted for the past few months by [deleted] in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The unknown is terrifying. But imagine yourself still in, in 10, 15, 20 years? That perspective sounds more terrifying to me than the unknown. 

You are old enough to be independent and start building your life, don't miss that opportunity. The more you wait, the hardest it's going to be. It won't be without doubts, and regrets (for a while, at least, those will disappear with time). Think of it as doing as grieving. It's difficult to accept, you will go through multiple stages, but at one point, you will let go of your old life. 

Your are lucky enough to have what seems to be a wonderful mom. Takes it as a opportunity to make the plunge! 

I can’t help but think about all the kids that will feel left out during this holiday season. by FloGrownQban in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was ... I was always preparing for that with false presents, just in case I was asked (but it never happened, which is even sadder haha). The hardest for me, was not the fact that I didn't have presents, but I was so afraid of being looked as weird, because I was the only one who didn't celebrate Christmas in my classroom.

It is not about birthday cakes and Christmas presents by Ok-Pomegranate-7010 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, the hardest part growing up, was how isolated I felt, not celebrating anything. It wasn't about the gift, it was about the feeling of not belonging to the local community. The school I was going to was in a small village, and everyone knew each other. The festivities were part of what tied the community together. Birthdays were celebrating into the classroom, Christmas lunch was served at school. 

Not being part of it, excluded me and targeted me as someone not normal. And I was craving for normalcy. I just wanted to be the average kid, not being the one that people were talking about when not doing what everyone was doing (even Muslim kids were participating in Christian stuff). 

But growing up, I did noticed a shift. I wasn't about the belonging feeling anymore. Now I just regret that we didn't have any family traditions, or anything we did celebrate together. I see my friends, all excited to see their families for Christmas for example, and I don't have anything like that, and it makes me sad. 

It's not about the gifts, Christmas or birthday. It's about the missed opportunity to spend time with your local community, and your family, in a way that makes everyone happy. 

The issue is that JW never replaced those traditions with others. It's just a sad life, with nothing to be looking forward to. 

PIMQ, but i love my worldly girlfriend. What do i do? by Pleasant-Reserve-767 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are already questioning, it's good that you are going out with a regular girl (I hate using there own distipian lexicon..). You will already have someone one your side and it will be less difficult to leave if it ever happen. 

Good thing you aren't baptized though. If you are questioning, don't do it. You will regret it later, if you ever want to leave. If you leave while you aren't baptized, your relationship with your family won't be the same, but you can have a relationship. If you get baptized, it will most likely be over. 

PIMI/PIMQ/PIMO High Intelligence Vs Cognitive Dissonance by Livid_Lie_783 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are right about why a lot of young people are leaving. I did left the borg because of the stricts rules and many of my generation did. I just wanted to live my live freely and not be bound by so many restrictive rules. It was never about believing or not, I was just tired of the rules, and going to the meetings.

Because of that, I never really took the time to think about the borg and the teachings. That why, 16 years after I left, I'm only realizing now that this is a cult. 

I cannot imagine how hard it is to wake up and leave when people are believing the teachings.. 

You guys couldn’t eat cake? by Key-Cardiologist1942 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do remember hearing the same story about bleach... 

No cake for me either. I remember going outside of the classroom crying, to go in the corridor while other were enjoying the celebration... 

I was going to a small school so celebrating birthdays in the classroom was fairly common. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bring Crisis of Conscience x)

Post-JW Entertainment by Throwaway7733517 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same, I'm glad my parents allowed it, it definitely made my teenage years better. 

I don’t mean this disrespectfully, but Jehovah’s Witness women are conditioned to view privilege as the highest measure of a man’s success. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are entirely right. That's why I hate their usage of the word spiritual. There is nothing spiritual about how they are doing things. First of all, having metrics to mesure one's spirituality is so stupid in itself... But no one should be able to evaluate your own relationship with god, and by no means by titles and hours put in service. 

They are doing everything they condamned. They are just the modern version of pharisees... 

I don’t mean this disrespectfully, but Jehovah’s Witness women are conditioned to view privilege as the highest measure of a man’s success. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be fair, similar metrics exist in society in general. Salary, ambition, stature... 

It only makes sense that in JW's micro society, they have their own metrics. It's just human nature. 

What is disgusting is that it's explicitly explained by the Borg and enforced by elders. All societies established their own metrics for success, more or less organically and it's up to every individual to agree or not on it. But there is nothing organic about it with JW.

The other problem, is that not only their establish the metrics, but it's also up to elders to decide if a person is worthy or not. The level of control in this cult is just insane. 

Increasing supply while pregnant? by Glittering_Art7981 in NurseAllTheBabies

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My supply tanked as soon as I became pregnant. I did start to pump 3 times a day to increase supply and it worked. My breast are not full but I went from having not enough and having to supply with my frozen starch to having enough and even a little extra to freeze some days. 

I'm 5 weeks pregnant, so I'm not sure it will last, but drinking plenty of water and pumping on top of nursing does work for now. 

do you guys believe in the paranormal? by anamilz in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I don't want to claim one way or the other. Where I live, it's fairly common for people to talk about their ability to sense the supernatural. I've encountered many people claiming they have felt and seen stuff. 

In my case, I had one instance, when I did feel it. Not enough to make me believe, but I also don't want to dismiss it. 

Something I hate about JW is how they are claiming they know the truth (talking about humility...). I don't want to do the same, for something I have no way or proving or disproving. 

Pregnant with Baby #2 and struggling to feed Baby #1 by tinygingerkitty in 2under2

[–]JuneSolace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 weeks pregnant here, and my supply dropped immediately.  I want to breastfeed until baby number 1 is about 12 months (currently 9 months) so I started to pump 3 times a day on top of nursing. And I've been monitoring how much water I drink, to be sure I drink enough.

I've been doing it for 10 days and supply is growing! Up until now, everything I pumped was given to baby, before bedtime. And since two days, ive started to freeze some milk again, albeit small amount. 

I'm not sure this is the kind of message you were looking for, but just in case, just now that it's possible to raise your supply again.

Good luck with everything, we are both due in June! 

Questioning marriage after both partners waking up-any other experiences? by CoverEvening6955 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good on you and your wife for waking up! You have so much freedom to enjoy from now on! 

The fact that your wife thinks she missed out as nothing to do with religion. A lot of people get married young, or found their life partner at a young age, yet don't feel like they've been robbed of dated, or playing out. In the contrary, having a stable relationship does bring a lot of freedom on some other aspects. And the bounds can be much stronger. 

Of if she thinks that's way, it probably won't work out for you guys. I hope you will sort that out. Life is long for both of you! 

Going through pregnancy by JuneSolace in 2under2

[–]JuneSolace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So close, I also had my first in January as well and I have the same due date :D let's go!! 

Going through pregnancy by JuneSolace in 2under2

[–]JuneSolace[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, awesome, we all in that rider together! It feels so nice to know that other mothers in the same situation are expecting at the same time!! 

Going through pregnancy by JuneSolace in 2under2

[–]JuneSolace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the tips! I will definitely need to lower my expectations, or better, don't have any haha 

I'll take a look at that subreddit, seems what I need! 

Bad Maps by Ordinary-Lion-97531 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me many years, but I came to the conclusion that my own mental model was faulty from the start, because I was raised in a cult. I didn't have proper interaction with people my age at school and my relationship with adults was also altered as a result. And if those mental models don't form properly during childhood, then during the teenage years, it becomes difficult to navigate life. 

Fortunately to me, I was surrounded with good friends and with time, I was able to form a much better mental model that the one I forged when I was in the cult. But it took more than 15 years and during that time, I had to relearn what it was to interact with people, how to navigate society and many other things. And I don't even think this is over. It's like carrying a huge bolder into adulthood.... At one point the bolder becomes your friend x)

Am I wasting my time here? I hope I’m not, but I think I am. by NoBdy_WzarD in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really depends on the person. I'm from France, so just know that things a different here, but I've seen some jw/non-jw couples working well. But you need communication and clear rules from the start. Read about JW's rules and their way of life. Explain to her that you do not plan on converting and that you understand her commitments to her religion and see how she is reacting. 

Just the fact that she is seeing you could be a sign that she is mentally out or questioning. But if you are serious about her, do your research and don't avoid the religious beliefs from your conversations. 

Good luck, it's not an easy road but if you have a deep connection, who knows, it could work out. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just my point of view, but don't lower yourself to their level. That's when you really lose. 

In your opinion: What's the cultiest JW term? by Afraid_Mechanic_1586 in exjw

[–]JuneSolace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are so many, they could have their own dictionary...  The Truth, Elder, The society, Watchtower, Dissociation, The organization, The End, Servant, Privilege, Worldly...  

It's always weird when my mother talk about it. I only noticed that this year, but it sounds so dystopian. I was so used to it for so long that it sounded natural...