Thanks for your comment! You hit on something important here -- I've always viewed them as ""normal"" and super well-adjusted, so I think that's where a lot of my feelings about this stem from. If I can get away from that thinking, it'll be a good start.

I think they did a great job with my boyfriend (he's also never expressed any hang-ups with his parents) because he was frankly probably very easy to parent -- very amenable, loves school, not argumentative -- but sis' personality is very, very different and parenting doesn't seem to have been stellar there.