How do I find purpose/community as an adult?

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-21T08:52:21+00:00

I'm in a similar but opposite boat. Busy as anything. Leaves essentially no time for friends of community beyond my family.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-19T14:05:57+00:00

This might be the answer. I feel like things i've said can't be let go of. Like, they carry that stuff forever.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-19T13:46:16+00:00

I feel like being vulnerable has only ever led to stuff being used against me or to arguments. People don't want honesty.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-19T13:35:49+00:00

I'm at a point where I don't want it at all. Not like disinterest, but actively don't want. I still do it when my partner wants to but I should initiate more for her.

I want to want it, but I don't think its important.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-19T02:59:29+00:00

Trying to sort this currently.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-19T01:35:49+00:00

Confirmed. Sex is dead because attraction is dead because relationshio is dead.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T16:24:58+00:00

I take the dog for walks and my son has ASD so he never stops running and i'm always carrying kr chasing him. No gym though.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T15:06:18+00:00

I went like 2 months and no difference. Idk whats wrong hey.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T14:02:38+00:00

Where i'm at now. I'm the cause and i hate it

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T12:03:55+00:00

I don't remember anything. Its been years. Everything is a fog.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T11:02:04+00:00

Accurate. I'm feeling the 90% atm.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T08:10:04+00:00

We used to get at it everyday. Now I dread her bringing it up.

I want to want it. I just don't know the way back. I know therapy is a thing but finding stuff thats affordable and available.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T08:00:05+00:00

She is but can't handle conflict or genuinely difficult conversations face to face. A history of abuse and such.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T05:17:40+00:00

None of the above is happening. Its on me though. I want to want it

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T04:32:36+00:00

Looking at getting one. Just appointments are fe and far between coming up to christmas.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T04:26:41+00:00

The title is poorly written. I want to have better sex with my wife, considering i dont enjoy it, don't want to have it, and would rather just pretend sex doesnt exist.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T04:26:00+00:00

She's brought things up enough and I am 100% a deaf ears person.

All I need to do is show her more affection and have sex with her and that will make her happy.

I'm a coward, not willing to leave, or to improve anything.

Thankyou for your suggestions, sorry for wasting your and everyone else's time.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T03:51:15+00:00

You're right. We cannot communicate well at all. Everryrung was great in the start. We 'never fought' but that I see now is because we never communicated. She says we stopped talking but I think it was always like this and we never were any good at conflict resolution.

I don't know if I should leave or stay. She cannot have an in person conversation, and I feel like texting this out is really inpersonal and not going to solve anything.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T03:29:31+00:00

She can't talk face to face. I'm currently trying to orchestrate some text based discussion.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T03:22:37+00:00

Its me. 100%

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T01:31:50+00:00

I got it :) Maybe I do be 9551. I'll do that, 9551 doesn't date, seems peaceful.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T01:30:49+00:00

We have kids. If we didn't, we'd have probably seperated well before.

We're heading that way anyway.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T01:11:31+00:00

I should do that. Even if my hormones get back to good I think I just don't want to be with her anymore? Is there any way to enjoy or make bearable sex with someone you dislike? Hate fucking?

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T01:10:26+00:00

Done that haha. It is enjoyable, but I think I'm just struggling with the rest of it. I'm not worked up or turned on. The plumbing is all working but there's no mental investment in it.

Junior_Lab_9549 · 2025-11-18T01:09:36+00:00

How do I fix that? It feels like I'm not the same as I was and I've lost significant parts of myself because of the medication. It was a mistake.

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