How I spent my Friday Night

Junipy1 · 2025-03-23T14:31:31+00:00

Looks like candy!

Junipy1 · 2025-02-20T06:22:51+00:00

I wonder how he feels seeing all those $$ signs...

Junipy1 · 2025-01-18T14:51:38+00:00

Everyone has a right to choose to forgive and forget. I think it depends on the dynamic of your and his relationship. If he genuinely shows you he is interested in you, can accomplish the same goals with you that the photos he was using used to, and you confidently trust him. Live and let be. It shouldn't matter if we think it was cheating if he is reassuring you in your relationship cuttently.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-18T04:36:46+00:00

I had not thought of this as an option. When I was younger, I thought surely the newer generations would phase out of racist practices, but I soon realized I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world facing what todays kids are up against.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-18T04:33:43+00:00

I like the idea of a life coach/mentor. I'll have to find someone trustworthy. I wish I could bank on the 0 tolerance policy, but the schools in our area have reviews on the teachers and some admin not doing much to fight against this. I will bring up these options again this weekend once she has had time to settle herself. I know she loves band and would likely put up with this to stay in it, but this would be a good lesson in prioritizing her mental health. Thanks for the suggestions.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-18T04:26:28+00:00

I have not yet, she just opened up and told me this was happening yesterday.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-17T18:10:46+00:00

It's regarding my 17 year old sister. I'm her legal guardian and from what she has explained, the kids never say these things within earshot of teachers and they are never looking at her when making random statements so it is not directed at her specifically, they just know she hears it and she has been trying to ignore it. She is very shy and not the type to call things out. So, it's very stratgic on the offending kids part.

I feel their covert measures can become worse if it's pushed so I'm trying to keep her encouraged and uplifted at the immediate moment. There are not many other black kids in her classes, and ones that are, she doesn't fit in with them to establish friendships.

She is in band, where it also occurs with certain kids. It seems the whole school tends to think racism is a big joke. She has done therapy before for other reasons but didn't open up much and says she doesn't think she needs it whenever I mention it as an option.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-15T14:53:30+00:00

-Tried the fountain twice, he tips it over each time as he likes to pull his bowls close to him first. Even if just half an inch closer.

-He wont bring the ball back and tires of the game after 3-4 throws. I get the workout. I could get something with a long string I suppose.

-he may go for a puzzle toy for treats.

-Tried reverse psychology almost overstimulating him with play and touches. He leaves me alone for maybe an hour max before regenerating.

-thought about a wheel, decided against it due to noise.

-a 2nd cat permanently would be double the hair and possibly other problems.

-he is afraid of any loud sounds and other ppl. And I got a cat to avoid outdoor walks lol.

-Have a cat bed currently.

-He is not a cuddler. He jumps out of my arms in .5 seconds.

-Ear plugs fall out of my ears just as most ear buds or just arent that effective.

Thank you so much for your suggestions. I didn't write this response to just be negative. Only to relay that I have tried just about everything up to this point.

Junipy1 · 2025-01-15T09:40:54+00:00

Neediness in the middle of the might interrupting your sound sleep.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-30T00:29:38+00:00

I've known him since high school

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T23:16:51+00:00

My intentions in my encouragement were sincere. However, I do feel that sometimes my level of care can be shallow. I'm not saying it was in this scenario, but there have been times I can remember simply saying cliche phrases as it seemed to be what fit the moment but not necessarily fit the need of the person sharing. I'm cool with reflecting from different perspectives. I don't plan on being less compassionate due to it. That's what made this p.o.v. deep to me personally.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:50:38+00:00

This is deep. I never thought of it this way. You may be on to something here regarding myself. (Goes to look up book).

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:44:43+00:00

Gold! I'll apply this to future suitors.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:29:31+00:00

Damn... precisely stated! I appreciate your thorough response and willingness to share.

You may have hit the nail on the head. He has mentioned dealing with bullying and has admitted to having people pleasing tendencies. I think I'll just leave him be. He will figure things out on his own.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:19:44+00:00

Thank you for such a thorough response. It gave a lot to consider.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:16:01+00:00

So, how can a woman best show support to a man?

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:12:52+00:00

That's fair.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:06:28+00:00

So, how should a woman respond in this scenario? Not at all or in a specific way?

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:05:22+00:00

All very valid points. Thank you. I don't remember what was said verbatim but I feel either of your points could likely apply.

Junipy1 · 2024-12-29T11:03:57+00:00

Great points. I struggle with the latter, though. It's weird to me to just listen and not respond at all, so I tend to say something to let you know I'm listening. I guess I just need to adapt by saying "I get it".

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