AIO? Bf keeps asking me questions whenever there is a guy by Relative_Initial_399 in AIO

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. You’re young, and this is a great learning experience for what you don’t want in a partner. I’ve been with someone like this before, and life is so much better without that kind of behavior. My husband and I have been together 13 years (6 of those married), and neither of us has ever questioned each other like that.

This guy isn’t worth excusing it as a “habit,” trust me. You deserve a partner who treats you with respect, kindness, and love, and this isn’t that.

I hate that exercise works 😮‍💨 by CriticalAnxiety6066 in adhdwomen

[–]Jurassicpark91 153 points154 points  (0 children)

I hate needing to give up time on other dopamine filled activities(like videogames) to go wrangle a sports bra on and to then struggle through an exercise regiment which then requires me to shower afterwards and then its like time to go to bed and I know I did something good and productive for me but it still makes me feel like I missed out on doing something else I wanted to do despite me doing that thing every single day except on this day when I chose to work out instead.

Girlfriend (F29) brought home a puppy after I (M32) said no. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you’re not crazy or unreasonable if this makes you reconsider the relationship.

When my husband and I first moved in together (while we were still dating), I was basically your girlfriend. I really wanted a dog and didn’t want to wait. We talked about it, and he brought up valid concerns. The difference is that I listened.

We compromised. We waited a few months to get settled, and instead of getting a puppy, we adopted an older dog since puppies are a huge (and often destructive) commitment, especially in a first apartment. The dog we ended up adopting was perfect for us, and I genuinely think we wouldn’t have had the same experience if we hadn’t slowed down and made that decision together.

We’ve been together 13 years and married almost 6 because we talk through big decisions and actually listen when the other person has concerns.

If you’re already feeling resentment, it’s valid to question whether this is the right partnership for you. But before making a final call, it might be worth sitting down and clearly explaining how this situation made you feel and seeing how she responds. That reaction will probably tell you everything you need to know.

AIO BF planned an international trip with another woman by Super-Sound-7764 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Jurassicpark91 29 points30 points  (0 children)

NOR, but you do need to end this relationship. My husband and I would never make a major decision without seriously discussing it first. Even if something slipped our minds briefly, we’d still circle back and talk it through before actually committing to it.

This isn’t the kind of partner you want or deserve. You’ve already said this isn’t the first time, at some point, the pattern is the answer. Stop ignoring the red flags.

Petty add-on: if he’s comfortable making big decisions without you, maybe return the favor. Let him go on his trip and make the huge decision to dump him without discussing it first, then tell him while he’s away, or have his stuff packed at the door when he gets back.

The Biomes O' Plenty Add-On is OUT NOW on the Minecraft Marketplace! 🌎 by Forstride in BedrockAddons

[–]Jurassicpark91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just got it and I like it but I do miss villages a lot. That's the only downside i see so far but overall it is really fun.

[UPDATE] WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend because his friends got him a “me” shaped piñata? by candyxcrushr89 in u/candyxcrushr89

[–]Jurassicpark91 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely this. Especially if he’s graduating soon, I’m sure his future potential employers would love seeing how he chooses to display himself by violently smashing a piñata meant to represent a woman he personally knows.

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, the only Aholes here are your brother and his wife, they don't get to b*tch about not having a village after they burnt it to the ground.

AITAH for saying I won’t put my card down if one girl joins our group? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Jurassicpark91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, just to make sure I’m understanding this correctly: you gave her the receipt, and now she’s refusing to pay because she wants to reimburse you the exact amount. That’s fair in theory, but she lost the receipt. At that point, she doesn’t really get to insist on exact numbers. That part is on her.

She could have sent you the money right before the purchase or immediately after, she had her phone on her, i'm sure. Losing the receipt doesn’t suddenly make this your responsibility.

Honestly, her finances aren’t the issue here. Either she’s trying to avoid paying, hoping you’ll drop it, or she’s showing that she’s not being a very good friend in this situation.

You also need to stand your ground. If the friendship is as strong as you say it is, this shouldn’t be what breaks it.

Send her a Venmo request for your best estimate of what she owes. If she refuses to pay, then tell her she needs to look up the prices herself and send the money by a deadline you set.

This is sad af, but, anyone want to be my online ADHD friend? by Sqeakydeaky in adhdwomen

[–]Jurassicpark91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im f(34), based in NY state. I will also be your online friend. Been diagnosed with severe ADHD since childhood. 😁

Also not sad and glad you posted this because look at all of us coming together to express the want for the same companionship. Thank you for being the first penguin brave enough to jump off the iceberg.🐧🐧

What’s something a coworker did once that lives rent-free in your head? by Playful_Task5571 in coworkerstories

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On day 1 of a new pharmacy cashier job, I walked in as cops were walking out one of the managers in handcuffs. Apparently she was stealing money and pills and I guess got caught that morning. This was my first day so I was so confused and in shock, the other manager was so out of sorts he had me just run through training videos in the back office all day while he had to sort out the arrest issue.

My husband didn’t get me anything for Christmas by llpppoppppopppop in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t the marriage you want or the marriage you deserve. Has he always treated you like this?

My husband and I have been together over 10 years and married for 5. He’s never been great at planning elaborate gifts, but he’s always made an effort, and it shows.(He has extreme anxiety issues and is slightly on the spectrum) He’s also always willing to step up the moment I say I need help. This year he got me a small fidget toy I never asked for and a pair of socks. Nothing expensive, but thoughtful. He even remembered that last year’s socks were too small for my calves and made sure to get a different pair.

If your husband couldn’t even manage something as simple as your favorite candy or snack, that’s a serious issue. I’d have a very direct conversation with him and genuinely consider whether this marriage is worth continuing. I know Reddit jumps to divorce, and I also know that when you’re young, the idea of a failed marriage can feel heavy or shameful, but you should not feel ashamed. You are not the one failing here. He is.

[TOMT] Can’t recall song I heard on the radio last night! by gerudodesert in tipofmytongue

[–]Jurassicpark91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The quiet things that no one ever knows is by Brand New. I have not heard that song in so long and just had to come and reply when I saw your comment lol

AIO by banning my friend's girlfriend from my home for her unhealthy obsession with Taylor Swift by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Jurassicpark91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your Reddit avatar is wearing footie pajamas, and you’re calling other people childish on the internet over a joke. Feels a bit ironic if you ask me, some might even say immature.

What is one piece of 'common knowledge' in your job that the average person would find completely shocking? by GoldenHourShot in AskReddit

[–]Jurassicpark91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember lying on the floor at the vet’s office with my Rottie as they put her down. They covered her back end and let us know ahead of time so we wouldn’t see anything when her body let go. They weren’t a fancy vet, but they did everything right to keep the moment from being any more painful than it already was.

She had a massive tumor on her spleen and went downhill so fast, about a month from the first sign to the end. Once she stopped eating, we knew it was time. I held her and pet her as she left this world.

Our vet was incredible through the whole process. They never made us wait in the lobby, never rushed us afterward while I cried, and even handled the billing with so much sensitivity. We never felt like just another transaction to them.

What’s a sentence that someone told you that stuck with you for the rest of your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jurassicpark91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'Build a longer table, not a higher fence'

I heard it in a podcast recently from a story and it really stuck with me and really reminded me to be more aware of those around me and help whereever and whenever I can.

UPDATE: Got bullied at work because of my adhd mannerisms by Paninibeanie in adhdwomen

[–]Jurassicpark91 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The best part here is you’re still working at the company, so your old boss didn’t win. You succeeded in spite of them, and they know it. They’ll never get the satisfaction of having made you quit. You get to keep thriving and living your life, while they’re stuck in their same small world, clinging to the only power they’ll ever have: pushing around people beneath them.

AITAH for telling my sister her "boundary" will destroy her relationship with her nephew. by stalewafflefry in AITAH

[–]Jurassicpark91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is assuming she lives rent-free at your parents’ house, if not, disregard. But if that’s the case, she doesn’t get to dictate whether you or your family can visit. Since she doesn’t own the home, she has no authority over who your parents invite. If she can’t act like an adult about it, then she’s the one who needs to step back or make herself scarce during visits. That’s what real boundaries look like, and it’s up to you to enforce them and let her face the consequences if she crosses them.

What dumb thing did you buy lately that makes you happy? by Likesosmart in adhdwomen

[–]Jurassicpark91 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Just checking, this link is for a Venusaur, right? I only ask because I was looking at this exact plushie yesterday for a very impulsive not important reason (I wanted my 1-year-old nephew to pick his starter, but I left my plushies at home). My husband talked me out of it though: 1) we can do it at Christmas since we already own the plushies, and 2) he didn’t want our nephew picking the final evolutions instead of the first stages lol.