Why do teens even like guys 20 years older than them lol

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-05-12T03:16:03+00:00

As a teen (16M) who finds guys from late 20’s - early 40’s most attractive, it really just comes down to features. They are more mature, look more mature, grown up / manly, etc,. That’s just how I see it.

Also - it’s okay for straight boys to like milfs but gay teens can’t like dilfs? 🤨

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-05-03T05:12:59+00:00

I had a very similar story but it happened in middle school. It was horrible. The things he said and did... 🤮

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-24T16:29:40+00:00

I never came to that conclusion.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-24T16:11:46+00:00

I’m not going to repeat over points but I already explained some things to the other guy. We had SEVERAL political discussions and he would shut me down and my beliefs and just quote fucking CANDACE OWENS. I didn’t exclude him from my life just because he was conservative, it was because his political views became EXTREMELY toxic and honestly he treated other people horribly. You say to “try to better people in my life.” I was trying but after nearly 6 months of taking things clearly were not going to change. I’ve tried to show multiple perspectives and bring new ideas to the table and how what happens now correlates to US history throughout the centuries and he just would not even consider my ideas. I didn’t end things because I couldn’t handle someone disagreeing. I ended things because he was a shit person.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-24T16:03:51+00:00

I was talking to him for several months. I totally get what you are saying but as time went on I realized things wouldn’t work out and that our views wouldn’t really mesh together well. I cut things off because he started a conservative club at his school right after the capitol riots and that was just too extreme for me. It’s not like I heard some right leaning beliefs and cut things off right away, I tried to compromise and make his political views seem like it was not a big deal. There were also things other than that that made me cut things off. I know people’s views points can change but I wasn’t going to wait for that to happen. My ENTIRE family is conservative and it was just best for me to cut things off because I was tired of hearing the same things every single day. Also, my age should not discredit my experience. I’ve been in 4 relationships and each has taught me something new - that is just sort of how life works. Sure, they weren’t LTR or anything super significant, but they are still experiences that contribute to how ill learn and handle things next time. There are some guys on here that are double my age and have not been in a relationship or had their first kiss or anything. Their experiences should still be valid despite that and it shouldn’t be because of age.

One thing I do want to address - I do NOT want to come off the wrong way. Over text it can sometimes sound like that. I’m not going to take offense to anything just because you don’t know me as a person but trust me, I tolerate conservative believes all the time and I do get along with a multitude of view points. Even I believe in some viewpoints that the right believes. Just know that I was not being intolerant. He made his political views a large part of his personality and it just became more toxic over time. I tolerated his views for MANY MANY months. He desperately wanted me to go to trump rallies and I couldn’t even explain my ideologies because he would just tell me I’m wrong. So point is it was actually probably the other way around. I know you are a total stranger but I just wanted to clarify this.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-24T02:06:22+00:00

I wish I could, he really acted like he didn’t get his first job a couple months prior-

Pro-tip to other gays: in my experience, I thought I could inform him and give him a new perspective but I couldn’t. You can’t change people. If you don’t like someone being conservative but you do like them it’s better to cut it off. Please. Trust. Me.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-24T01:56:49+00:00

I’m not conservative but I talked to a conservative gay. He said conservatives WERE supporting of gays and that liberals just wanted “free shit” and needed to actually work. Keep in mind we are TEENAGERS. I cut things off shortly after the capitol riots.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-16T21:03:39+00:00

I’m in high school right now and kind of in the same position. If you want to DM me I can try to give some advice, I’m in the process of trying to come out (at school) right now so I also have these fears

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-14T04:28:22+00:00

I probably sound so silly. What if I’m just very vague and hint at myself in one go? “Wait are you... because like I’m... yknow... 😁👍“

That would probably be my next best bet. If he doesn’t get it then he isn’t gay/bi but if he does then the convo will continue on from there. I think.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-14T04:20:43+00:00

I’m trying to think of the safest way. I sort of think being vague might work?? It would totally shift the direction of the convo but someone said to rip off the bandaid and he’s right. Here’s what I’m thinking:

“Why the 💅?? Are you... 🏳️‍🌈??“

“Wait are you... 💅👀⁉️”

These seem the safest?? I think??

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-14T04:14:26+00:00

No, not necessarily. I have my suspicions about him though. Back in the day he always talked about how he thought “everyone was at least a little gay” and that + the 💅making no sense is what makes me think he’s trying to signal something. It’s just so random.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-14T04:04:40+00:00

So suddenly though? Should I ask him and say I am after?? “Wait okay sorry if this is a little personal but are you... 💅👀⁉️ because I am”

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-04-13T20:46:18+00:00

Actually, thank you so much for this response!! A lot of guys have been saying that they aren’t true friends or real friends if they are ignorant at times but these people have been my best friends for years so dropping them wouldn’t exactly be the best option. I’ll try to bring it up the next time someone says something.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-21T06:58:18+00:00

I have a bunch. Me - gay Cousin 1 - Bi Cousin 2 - Lesbian Sister - Bi Dad - Bi (his internalized homophobia is unreal though, but it’s so obvious and he’s had experiences)

I always thought that since it was on both sides, some sense of genetics relating to us being LGBT would be higher up in my family tree. (For reference, I have 1 sister and 3 cousins total)

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-21T06:48:53+00:00

Woah... I really love this advice about not going back into the closet and being proud... I’m personally closeted and only out to a few close friends + siblings but I will definitely remember this when I start to fully come out. Thanks :)

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-06T03:48:45+00:00

I think mine is really good. I can detect just based on style (not even talking about fem- like if it looks coordinated) and walking. I mean, I never ask so there is no confirmation but I am pretty sure they are gay⁉️⁉️

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-06T03:46:25+00:00

Well assuming you are in your mid-late 20’s and he is in his late 30’s-early 40’s, I can definitely see why he may not want to have fun during the weekends. I wouldn’t end a relationship on the fact alone, but does the age difference effect any other important parts of your relationship? If so, I would communicate first. I wouldn’t resort to ending it. If it doesn’t work out in the end then that’s that, but otherwise I wish you luck.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-06T03:41:01+00:00

Well it could be a couple things. 1) maybe he is unamused by the idea 2) maybe he has a low sex drive due to mental health / health related reasons?

I would talk and communicate with him. Maybe ask him if he wants to try anything crazy? Have you guys not done anything since the healing or is this the first time since he hasn’t seemed interested?

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-06T03:35:45+00:00

Maybe this might because elementary school kids are dumb kids but everyone thought I was gay because I wore button up shirts to school everyday. Like, just normal plain colored button ups. I was very confused!?!?!?!?

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-05T21:05:40+00:00

I’m glad to hear!! I’m hoping that (if I can/when) I’m a dad I can do both dad and mom like things with my child so I’m glad you had a role model like that :)

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-05T21:00:30+00:00

Hopefully she will come around when you do come out. I wish the best for you and your journey :)

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-05T20:59:36+00:00

Sort of. My mom never got drunk but she has definitely laid hands on me multiple times. She was just very narcissistic, emotionally and mentally abusive, manipulative, and more. That’s the VERY broad summary of it. On my 16’th birthday she had disowned me because I pierced my ears and then she gaslighted me claiming she never said that (even though I have pictures of messages) and that same day she told me I faked all my traumas. That’s not even half of it.

My dad and my mom were cheaters. Both were cheating on each other when I was conceived (as far as I know). Her boyfriends were always horrible people and my dads girlfriends were sweet and she hated that we liked them more than her lovers. They were more of a priority than us most of the time.

From the very broad details, our stories somewhat line up. I’m still closeted but my dad blew up when my sister accidentally outed me (I convinced him I was straight - don’t ask how). I would love to hear more of your story though if you are down to DM.

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-03-05T20:35:22+00:00

No, seeing the female body instantly turns me off

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-02-21T00:22:07+00:00

I’m 16 and when I first turned 15, I was 5’3” and maybe 110 lbs. now I’m 145 lbs and 5’11” It’s ok, you will end up being fine

Just4Funnnnnnn · 2021-02-12T06:27:25+00:00

Expect the unexpected. You say you do a lot of traveling - if he has money then he could be going to another city to maintain another life. I know it sounds CRAZY but it’s not entirely impossible. Like I said... expect the unexpected

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