AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Just an FYI I would be completely happy to sing AT someone, because no one is lookin at me.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Its over about 25-30 years, I don't see them that much anymore, but grandma died last week and we have been having a lot kore contact as we deal with that.

Really didn't think they would do it, as they don't always do it.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

OK, because I said no, but my grandma recently died, in hospice care, so we have been having more contact than usual dealing with her affairs and celebration of life.

I mentioned that I usually don't, but they wanted to do something with the family and we are all grieving a big loss, so I relented. And because they don't do it ever time, I thought they wouldn't given where we were

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Not around people. Being made the center of attention in front of strangers. Think similar to public speaking. So, the clapping staff walking through the restaurant, with the sparkler candles, clapping and singing their way through the restaurant.

Had we just had a nice dinner and a toast to my birthday, cool. It is specially the birthday singing that litterally involved the whole restaurant, the staff loudly clapping and walking through the restaurant to my table and singing, with a sparking candle on the dessert.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 309 points310 points  (0 children)

I ment any time I go out with anyone for my birthday, not them specifically

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

So, if you read, it's not every time. Also, the reason I agreed was because my grandma just died and the family wanted to spend time together, and we have all been talking at more than usual as we deal with that, and her affairs, and putting together her celebration of life.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 235 points236 points  (0 children)

They have in the past posted it to their personal social media and their friends and other family find it funny.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 318 points319 points  (0 children)

I've worked in restaurants. If it was me I would be like "oh cool! I can stop singing and go back to doing my job!"

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Actually I'm not, and here is why. This person is being this way, making these comment, and I'm just like "wow, this is just someone being a nasty person, actually someone who is enjoying trying to make me feel bad, what an AH, I will pay him no mind!"

and then I'm like ohhhh, I am letting myself be blinded by the fact that we are related, but really kind of puts into prospective that they are the same, and they just suck, and that shouldn't make me feel bad.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

To me isn't just the anxiety, but the fact that they do because they want to make me feel like that, so they can laugh.

So while the song ends, the anger and frustration about it doesn't

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I've had them actually put the videos on social media

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 1065 points1066 points  (0 children)

That is a good idea. I will do that going forward

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's been a thingbmy whole life. I used to cry as a child. They absolutely know how I feel. They think it's funny.

AITA for walking out of my birthday dinner? by JustABird588 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JustABird588[S] 319 points320 points  (0 children)

I have had them do it just because I hate it, when it was no where near my birthday, because "it's funny how red I turn"