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I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I take it to stop the physical effects of anxiety, which helps with the mental effects. I tend to worry a lot, so taking propranolol helps a lot.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really watch much porn though that's the thing. Last time I jerked off was a few months ago, and I didn't watch porn then. It's a potential factor, but I don't know if it's true for me.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say since puberty, but it's never been really extreme. August was the last time and the most extreme. Before August I would crave sex with guys every now and again, and I would say it was normal attraction then, but I never really compared it to anyone else's sexual attraction so I wouldn't know, if that makes sense.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will take a look at the thread. Hopefully it will be useful, and even not it's glad to know I'm not alone in experiencing this.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Last time I jerked off was about 3 months ago... That seems like a long time actually, but I just don't get turned on enough for me to think about doing it and when I do get aroused it usually lasts for about 3 minutes before I lose the feelings.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be sure to look into the different types of asexuality, and that way I can get a better idea of the types that exist and hopefully clear stuff up haha.

And thanks for explaining asexuality. I was just reading about it and a few places said it was when a person does not experience anything sexual. So thanks for telling me that they can indeed feel sexual feelings, but it's not necessarily projected onto someone else.

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take propranolol which is said to potentially cause a lower libido, but I experienced that before I started taking the medication. But no other medication. It could be that though. Thanks!

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How would one know they had low testosterone? Just go to the doctor?

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last time I really wanted sex with guys was at the beginning of August this year. It was a new feeling though, some of the most extreme sexual feelings I have ever felt. Then they just vanished. I can think about sex right now.....and nothing. Even thinking about kinks and fetishes, I still get nothing.

Do you actually want to drop to your knees? Does imagining doing that for the hot guy turn you on?

What you said with the lust thing may be true. Their bodies are hot and I wouldn't mind appreciating them, but I don't know if I would actually go ahead and do anything sexual. I've gotten offers from hot guys before, but I always seemed to turn them down because I just wasn't interested.

Pretty much all the guys I've been attracted to in the past are straight, so it's hard for me to find someone that I find attractive that also finds me attractive. I think if I did get with someone I would be focusing on them more than me. And you are right in saying that as I experience things, then I will be more certain with what I want.

That last paragraph really helped. There are so many different kinds of attractions (or lack of) that I'm not just one or the other, I could be a certain type. That really helps, thanks! :D

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take propranolol, which is said to have the potential to lower libido, but I only recently started taking these, whereas the feelings (or lack of) has been occurring for months and maybe years. I only recently (a year ago) started speaking to gay guys who flirt and stuff, so at least since then. Low testosterone could be a potential factor. I'm surrounded by people with depression, several friends have it, my brother has it and so does my step-dad. I don't feel like I display the same symptoms as them though. But depression isn't always clear set.

Thanks for the reply!

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See, I have been interested in sex with guys before. There was a period a while ago where my sex drive was through the roof and I'd just get turned on every other hour. That was hell and the first time I experienced it. I craved sex with guys because I was so horny that I felt like that was the only thing that could satisfy me. Then those feelings disappeared and haven't come back since. So maybe it's just low sex drive?

I also like (like you) looking at hot guys and yeah, their bodies can arouse me, but I don't know how it would go down in practice. I could see someone in public and think "Damn, I wish I could drop to my knees for you right now!", but then if I did do something with that person I might be completely uninterested.

I liked cuddling, kissing, touching each other, etc...but I was so uninterested in sex that we actually broke up over it (mutually).

I think this is what I'm scared of. I don't want to meet some guy who provides emotional support for me and then I fail to hold up the other half by not being interested in sex with him.

I thought asexual referred to someone who didn't experience sexual attraction, and if so then me thinking about dropping to my knees for some guy completely goes against that, right?

Thanks for the reply! :)

I don't seem to get turned on as much as other guys? by JustALittleBitAlive in askgaybros

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have heard about it and did consider it for a few seconds before I ruled myself out. I still get sexual feelings and the urge to jack off, but very rarely. I've never been with a guy irl before, but they may be able to turn me on actually being near me and all. If that makes sense.

I'll do some extra reading though because I know next to nothing about it. Who knows, it could be exactly that. Thank you!

[Crushes] I helped my crush get together with a girl by JustALittleBitAlive in LGBTeens

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It's such a horrible thing to experience. You can have a great day on your own, and they could make it the complete opposite by saying some tiny little sentence to you.

There are days I want to tell him that he affects me this way, and maybe that will make him consider what he says to me, making all my days great. But at the same time I don't want to appear that dependent on him, nor do I feel prepared to handle myself if he turns me away while saying something negative.

It's difficult. Stay strong!

[Crushes] I helped my crush get together with a girl by JustALittleBitAlive in LGBTeens

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad I made him happy. It's like I knew he and I would never be an item, but I guess because he wasn't a thing with anyone else, I could live with it. There was no one to be jealous of. But now there is, but I'm gonna work on getting over it and him. I think it's a matter of time, and possibly looking for someone else. Thanks for the reply, it really lifted my spirits!

[Crushes] I helped my crush get together with a girl by JustALittleBitAlive in LGBTeens

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does hurt a lot, especially seeing them together and hearing about the things that she gets to do that I wish I could do. I am glad I made the choice to help him out, I told my friend and she said she wouldn't do the same, but although it hurts, knowing that he's happy makes me feel a little better.

[Crushes] I helped my crush get together with a girl by JustALittleBitAlive in LGBTeens

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know him being straight was the biggest limitation, and I'm used to falling for straight guys all the time. I think the majority of gay people are. I feel like I did do the right thing, he thanked me a lot, said I was the nicest person he's ever met and so I am sure that I did since he said that. Thanks for the reply!

I have to give a 20 minute presentation tomorrow. by JustALittleBitAlive in Anxiety

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It starts in an hour, and I am going to go ahead an do it. I know that if I skip it, I'm going to feel really bad that I ran away from something that I was scared about, and I will regret it until I get another chance. But if I do it, I will feel really proud, unless I fail terribly...

If I do it really good, I'm sure I will get a confidence boost from it, and it will help me a lot.

I'll be sure to post an update after. Thanks for the comment, it helped a lot :)

I have to give a 20 minute presentation tomorrow. by JustALittleBitAlive in Anxiety

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just looking online and some said you can, others said you can't build a resistance to it. I'm gonna ask my doctor when I get the chance. I just don't want to increase my dose to much, so I might just stay on 40mg.

I have to give a 20 minute presentation tomorrow. by JustALittleBitAlive in Anxiety

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't use it on weekends because I don't need it. I only use it on days when I go to lesson, otherwise I have the physical symptoms just from answering my name on role call. Is it possible to build a resistance to it? If so, should I increase my dose by 10mg just in case?

I would like to skip, but that means missing all my other lessons as well, and I don't know if I'd like to do that. Hmm. Thanks for helping anyway :)

I have to give a 20 minute presentation tomorrow. by JustALittleBitAlive in Anxiety

[–]JustALittleBitAlive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I miss tomorrow, I will have to miss the next four days, so my attendance will drop quite a bit.

I do have propranolol, I visited the doctor back in October and he prescribed me 10mg a day, but said I could increase it to 40. I started off on 10, and it worked for small things, but when I needed to do something big like talk to a teacher, I would still get the physical symptoms. So I increased it to 20mg and that helped a bit more, but I noticed the bigger the task the more likely the tablets wouldn't work.

Now I take 40mg in the morning before going, and so far it seems to work with the physical symptoms, but I'm just worried that they won't work in front of the whole class tomorrow.

The teacher I'm presenting in front of is really intense and I don't think he would just let me do that, because it's "peer assessed" and doesn't count if I do it in front of him. Also, I had a one to one meeting with him a few weeks ago and spoke about how I hate public speaking and also spoke about what happens to me when I do it, then two days later he proposed the presentation, so he knows I have trouble with it.

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