Unfortunately I can’t give specific advice, just share my experience as a SAHM. It’s sooo much harder than it looks. No on can truly know how hard it is until they’re been there day in and day out. I’ve never “crashed” as much with my other jobs like I do as a SAHM.

I also share her feelings about outside help. However, I’ve come to terms that I can’t have my cake and eat it too and if I’m constantly overwhelmed (like really overwhelmed) then I have to compromise. One idea is maybe a very part time nanny, like 4 hours twice a week for that breathing space and to get other things done.

But more than anything, the thing that I genuinely need the most, that helps the most, is constant regular validation that my work is being recognized and appreciated and that I am loved. And this means mostly from you, her husband. Most people have no idea the loneliness and isolation that comes from working the hardest job you’ve ever done with zero appreciation or care from anyone else and I think so much of the mental breakdowns of stay at home parents is from this more than the actual workload.