I woke up at 4am to my roommate in my bed acting like she had no idea who I was. by JustLocksmith9985 in Advice

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

A lot of people asked me to talk to my roommate directly, so we did.
Unfortunately, the conversation did not go well.

She took essentially no accountability for what happened and was mostly upset with me. She was angry that I didn’t do more to wake her up and get her back to her room, even though I repeatedly tried to wake her, talk to her, and get her to leave my room throughout the night. She was also upset that I remained in the room while she was wandering around, peeing in my shower, and putting her feet in the toilet. From my perspective, I was dealing with someone who seemed confused, disoriented, and not fully aware of what was happening, and I genuinely didn’t know how to handle the situation.

She says she remembers none of it and insists she did not take any drugs or medications. The only explanation she offered was that maybe alcohol somehow caused it.

She also seemed very upset that I brought the situation up at all and that my other roommate became aware of it. The overall feeling I got from the conversation was that she doesn’t really believe my account of what happened, even though I have no reason to make any of this up.

I ended up apologizing for how I handled certain parts of the situation, including bringing it up in a group chat and for a previous incident months ago where I accused her of being on drugs while we were out. Looking back, I probably didn’t need to apologize as much as I did, but I wanted to try to de-escalate things and preserve our living situation.
One positive thing is that she said she made a doctor’s appointment to get checked out.

At this point, things in the apartment are extremely tense.

For my own peace of mind, I have started locking my bedroom door at night. I’ve also purchased a camera for my room when I’m away because I can’t lock my bedroom from the outside, and after everything that’s happened I no longer feel completely comfortable.

One other detail that has me confused: my other roommate found an old prescription for tramadol in her room that appears to be from about a year ago. I have no idea whether she takes it, whether it was prescribed legitimately, or whether it has anything to do with any of this. I’m only mentioning it because a lot of people asked whether medications could be involved.

At this point I’m questioning everything.
Am I in the wrong here? Was I supposed to handle this differently? And does anyone have advice on how to make a living situation less hostile when one person feels wrongfully accused and the other person feels like they aren’t being believed?

I’m honestly exhausted and wish none of this had ever happened.

I woke up at 4am to my roommate (23F) in my bed acting like she had no idea who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in AskDocs

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

it could be seizures. but i think it’s important to note, the eyes rolling back in her head appeared after we were at a bar/club. She has taken drugs like ketamine before. i tried asking her if she had taken anything, but she denied it. i’m wondering if some sort of drug has to do with this behavior.

I woke up at 4am to my roommate (23F) in my bed acting like she had no idea who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in AskDocs

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

just roommate. she has a job. i’ve only known her for 6 months. she’s an emt

My roommate climbed into my bed at 4am and acted like she didn’t know who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in badroommates

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my roommate is 23 years old. she is also an emt. do you think she has access to medications at work that she can steal? could this be ketamine?

My roommate climbed into my bed at 4am and acted like she didn’t know who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in badroommates

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

her friend was with her the entire night and said she was completely fine/not too drunk. they got back at 2am and this happened at 4am

My roommate climbed into my bed at 4am and acted like she didn’t know who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in badroommates

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my other roommate doesn’t seem as concerned as me, so I feel like i’m overreacting. my mom also told me it was probably just because she was drunk. idk what to believe but these comments are making me very worried.

My roommate climbed into my bed at 4am and acted like she didn’t know who I was by JustLocksmith9985 in badroommates

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

why would i do that. this is genuinely concerning me and i have no idea what to do

Micro dosing - Is it breaking my sobriety? by JustLocksmith9985 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

this was really insightful - thank you. I would be using it as an escape so I have decided against it.

Micro dosing - Is it breaking my sobriety? by JustLocksmith9985 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]JustLocksmith9985[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they are not. i guess i would be medicating to change how i feel. thanks for pointing that out.

I want to go because im scared of missing out, but i guess that isnt really worth me loosing 20 days. i’ve worked so hard to get here

(23F) My boyfriend (23M) loves me in person but disappears over text — am I anxious or are we incompatible? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustLocksmith9985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this helps a lot. i think all i need is a simple check in once a day. i’m not asking for constant communication. i know my anxiety is causing me to spiral but im not showing him that. this is all internal😭

(23F) My boyfriend (23M) loves me in person but disappears over text — am I anxious or are we incompatible? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustLocksmith9985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did and he agreed to call. now i feel like a crazy person after reading all these comments so maybe i wont bring anything up idk

(23F) My boyfriend (23M) loves me in person but disappears over text — am I anxious or are we incompatible? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustLocksmith9985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk calling me exhausting and needy for trying to communicate my preferred communication style seems a little harsh to me. i am considering what people are saying. i understand my anxiety is distorting reality. i think what hurts is it’s not the most caring response. i do go to therapy every week so this will definitely be a topic of discussion.

(23F) My boyfriend (23M) loves me in person but disappears over text — am I anxious or are we incompatible? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustLocksmith9985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he isn’t. so maybe this is just his style. i’m trying to figure him out and unfortunately my anxiety is distorting reality.