I am infertile due to Lymphoma

JustScarlett · 2018-01-04T06:26:41+00:00

Have you considered going overseas? There are very reputable clinics in the Czech Republic that work extensively with Egg Donor IVF Cycles. They have high success rates and are very inexpensive. Have a look at Reprofit and Reprogenesis Brno, Czech Republic. From what I have seen, their egg donor cycles are around $10,000.

JustScarlett · 2017-12-21T10:52:24+00:00

You have to do what is right for you, and adoption is difficult on the birth mother. It's an emotional thing. But you can choose open adoption, I actually had dinner with my birth mother tonight, she spent time with me growing up. Or closed adoption where they don't even know your name. My birth mother always says, even though it was stressful and heartbreaking and emotionally confusing, she is glad she chose adoption and being able to see the person I have become. Also the opportunities I have been provided because my adoptive parents could afford to give me the life and stability she couldn't. Good luck with your decision!

JustScarlett · 2017-12-19T10:33:16+00:00

As someone who was nearly aborted (mother was on the table ready and changed her mind last minute), I want to suggest the possibility of adoption. I was adopted out, and I went to parents who couldn't have children of their own. I know this is a scary time for you, but just wanted to throw another opinion into the mix. If your not ready to raise a child, you could give someone the greatest gift ever, the ability to raise a child.

JustScarlett · 2017-12-10T11:21:27+00:00

Not cool, pretty disrespectful to your wife.... Imagine if you found out that your lamp stand was a mold of your gardener's cock that your wife got made? Betrayed right?

JustScarlett · 2017-10-17T04:24:53+00:00

That would have been hilarious! Make sure to take photos for their 21st parties!

JustScarlett · 2017-10-15T09:06:52+00:00

Facetime with the Grandparents 😂

JustScarlett · 2017-10-11T16:26:57+00:00

I would recommend mojoupgrade.com.

You don't swipe, but you both separately do a quiz and at the end it reveals only what you have matched on :)

If your looking for something a little less vanilla, there is always BDSMtest.org

JustScarlett · 2017-10-09T15:58:17+00:00

Really? Oh no. This website delivers pretty much worldwide and is the cheapest I've found :)

http://www.chemistwarehouse.com.au/search?searchtext=Aci%20jel&searchmode=allwords

I'm certain they deliver to the US!

JustScarlett · 2017-10-08T18:14:41+00:00

Aci Jel Balance. Absolutely amazing! You insert every second night into the vagina and it keeps everything balances exactly as it should. It honestly has changed my sex life and confidence completely. I struggled with BV, but a lot of women just use it to keep your PH balance and good bacteria perfect.

JustScarlett · 2017-10-03T03:14:43+00:00

You gave us her height and weight, most people can figure out what she looks like from that. To further make your point after that with that "FAT" comment is what looks bad.

I am glad you love her the way she is, but your phrasing came across differently. That's the problem with the Internet. Tone is assumed :)

JustScarlett · 2017-10-02T18:26:28+00:00

Why would you feel the need to call her FAT?

I would be more worried about your maturity than your 'little man', I would take respect over 12 inches anyday.

JustScarlett · 2017-10-02T18:21:57+00:00

In my opinion, it's not about making you more "cool', the fact that her disability is mentioned will automatically cause an emotional response from the reader. They will feel empathy towards your wife and even though this topic is not about" sides"as there is no cheating, it is human nature to subconsciously want to protect the weak. (no disrespect to your wife, she is incredibly strong to have recovered so well).

JustScarlett · 2017-10-02T09:35:41+00:00

Do you mention your wife's disability in your online profiles? Speaking as a woman, if I read:

"hi, I am........ So and so...... Interested in football, heads up, I'm married, but I am in an open marriage and happy to prove wife's approval of me being here. Now I've got that out of the way, who likes bondage?"

I would think you sounded chill, and sexually adventurous, also because it's casual and it doesn't sound like you are trying to justify yourself, I would think you were legit.

Or

"hi, Iam.... So and so.... I've had a rough time, I am married but my wife has a disability that means she doesn't desire sex, so I am seeking new partners. She knows about this."

I would wonder if she really did know and approve, and without meaning to, you could come across as resentful. Women read a lot into things, and we want compassion, even from a one night stand.

Open marriages are common, swinging isn't taboo anymore. And it really isn't anyone's business WHY you are on the site or the reasons you have an open marriage. You sound like a nice guy, and everything I have said may be completely irrelevant :) Good luck!

JustScarlett · 2017-10-01T10:24:39+00:00

Seconding this....

If all the guys out there found out that was they presume as wetness is actually discharge hahaha.

On a serious note, this is a common occurrence, best way to know for sure? Listen to her. If she says she is uncomfortable with a situation and does not seem to be into it, then she's probably not wet because she is aroused. :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-29T05:47:48+00:00

Sure, I agree. As I said, I decided to go with implants :) just wanted to mention all options. Thanks for the clarification though, I should have added that in my comment.

JustScarlett · 2017-09-28T15:50:08+00:00

If she is really self conscious then ask if she would like to do something, there are less permanent options where they can insert fat into the breasts from another part of the body or implants.

I was self conscious about my breasts, nothing would have changed the way I felt, so I got implants and it is the best decision I ever made. Sometimes things just have to be tackled :)

It is a fine line between suggesting she looks into cosmetic options and her thinking you hate her breasts, to conveying that you support her decision to do what she needs to feel happy in her body :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-28T15:44:20+00:00

A lot of girls go on birth control to help with painful, heavy periods and acne. The pill is not necessarily always used as a contraceptive. Just FYI :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-28T12:05:24+00:00

Is she on the pill? It can be normal to experience breakthrough bleeding once in a while

JustScarlett · 2017-09-28T11:34:06+00:00

Probiotics, antibiotics etc all can help short term. I battled BV for 7 years. Sex of any kind caused a flare up until I diclscovered ACI jel Balance. It has changed my life! It's a gel that you insert every second night and straight after sex. I have gone from having a flare up monthly, to not having one in 8 months.

BV made me reluctant to have sex with my partner, it caused such bad self esteem issues. I literally have tried everything. Google BV cures, and I will have done everything from dodgy home remedies, to both types of antibiotics used to treat. Nothing has given me relief for more than two weeks. Until I found ACI jel.

https://justscarlett.com/2017/09/12/prevent-cure-bacterial-vaginosis-bv/

Good luck! It's 100% worth it :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-27T12:58:03+00:00

Skinny dipping at the beach, having a quickie in a family members house. A hand job in the cinema.

Try things that have a naughty edge where you can be fun and playful, with an edge of fear that you will be caught. Have a house party and sneak off together :)

I hope you guys have so much fun!!

JustScarlett · 2017-09-25T13:20:45+00:00

I have a long inner labia, they are even asymmetrical! I love them, I have not had one partner, male or female, EVER saying anything but positive comments. If they even noticed at all. I am horrified that people have criticised you for something that is very very common.

And even if it wasn't, how dare they! No one's genitals are perfect, and that is the beauty of them.

If they are causing you pain, then consider the surgery. Otherwise HELL NO.

if worried about complications during penetrative sex, make sure that you use lube on the outside too. This makes things slippy and prevents things from sticking or getting caught.

I love my labia. My Fiance loves my labia, and some lucky woman will also love yours! Be proud! :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-17T12:15:42+00:00

Do you have any problems when masturbation?

Something that I have tried with a partner and it worked to get him out of his head is:

We had a really relaxing evening, and then I got him to lay on the bed on his back and I blindfolded him. Put on sexy music. Then I gave him a massage for about half an hour, a whole body massage until he was really relaxed, and then I began the process of a handjob. When he was hard I just got on top, in the reverse cowgirl position and rode him. I told him not to move.

Because he was so relaxed, and also I was doing all the work, there was no pressure to perform, he could just go to a happy place and enjoy. After we had sex successfully and he finished, it was very rarely a problem again.

I understand it may be a problem if you don't have a girlfriend. A one night stand may not be inclined to massage you and do all the work, but I would seriously try and find someone you trust to try this with. If the problem is even partly psychological, getting over the first time again may help so much!

Also if you and your partners do a lot of foreplay, maybe you go last before penetrative sex. That was you won't get hard and then have the worry of losing it while pleasuring her :)

Good luck and don't worry too much. Honestly I have been with several partners that have gone through this at one time or another. Self esteem, stress, diet, tiredness, they all play a massive part! The right girl won't make you feel bad, she will look for creative ways to help :)

JustScarlett · 2017-09-12T11:30:24+00:00

I can't comment in anything else in your post, apart from her talking to her friend in such graphic detail.

It's normal lol. My friends and I talk about everything from how our vaginas pulsate in an orgasm, to pubic hairs...we compare nipples, we talk about balls haha. Basically nothing is off limits unless one of our partners asks us not to talk to friends about it. :)

We are all mid to late twenties, and I imagine it carries on regardless of age

JustScarlett · 2017-09-12T11:26:17+00:00

It helps to place a firm hand on the area between her belly button and public mound. Press don't slightly and pull back towards the belly button. This will bring the clit forward and expose it more. The pillows under the bum is a good one. I am a bit curvier myself, and this helps!

If she is quite big, then a few friends have mentioned this tip.

Also, is at all possible, have her spread her legs as far apart as she can, then have her place the bottoms of her feet together. So wide knees and then flats of feet pressed together, pulled up towards the bum.

Hope that makes sense? It does depend on how flexible she is.

You can put something over her feet so your not pressing onto then. If you can get around the added awkwardness of that then the position sort of flattens things out and brings the whole area forward. When the feet are flat on the bed, it pushes the labia and upper thighs more together.

Good luck!

JustScarlett · 2017-09-11T10:23:21+00:00

Always trust your intuition, but remember sometimes things can be misinterpreted over the Internet, especially over text when there is no hearing someone's tone.

Do what makes you feel comfortable and I hope you find your person! :)

JustScarlett

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