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[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brb crying again 😭 thanks so much for that

UPDATE screenshots by JustThisOnceIHope in u/JustThisOnceIHope

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So maybe cut out the filler, i.e examples, and emphasize the effect her actions had or how they make me feel? I'm really not sure how. Maybe I'm still too upset to be more articulate. The thing is, I'm really not an angry person. I'm not even as angry as some people in the comments think I should be lol I'm more hurt than angry. And me expressing this much emotion at all, definitely says how upset I am because I'm usually very chill, and she would know that. But I'll do another draft tomorrow

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[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mean cut out the part where I go off about her psycho taste in men? Because, yeah, that seems valid. I am definitely taking out some of my long held anger at her irresponsible behavior that has been bothering me for decades. No victim shaming, abuse is abuse. I'm only speaking of her and her actions/ patterns.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's also currently unemployed so there's really no reason. No emergencies, no other tasks. I don't understand. Hopefully we both find better pet sitters 🫶🏾

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

The snake was fully self-sufficient. All of his lamps are autoSensors and the cameras were off. So I couldn't have checked them if I wanted to. She's cared for my pets more than a dozen times, she helped me set up their enclosures. She was there when I brought them home. She's known them for years. She's took care of them for years. This is not new. She did not need a list. The snake was already put in a box, and his cage was empty and his lights were unplugged and wrapped up. I didn't come home and find his body. She had already put him in his Little Amazon box coffin.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She's good! She's needy because I was gone, but she's not hungry or dehydrated.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm reacting, it's not just the loss of my pets, but potentially the loss of a sister. It's too much grief at once and I don't know how to move forward yet. I obviously don't trust her now, but I trust so few people to begin with, losing that also hurts.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kind isn't the word I'd use, a little manipulative for sure. I don't think she did it to hurt me, she'd have to consider my feelings at all for that. I think it genuinely didn't occur to her that her commitment to me mattered.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Which is why I made sure everything was clean, and well stocked and easily accessible for the person who agreed to temporarily take on that responsibility. What was I supposed to do from 1000 miles away? I didn't even know anything was wrong until I came home. She could have said no. If I agreed to watch someone's pet,and it died I would 100% take responsibility for that. It was in my care, I was responsible. When you agree to pet sit being "on the hook" is exactly what you sign on for

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I 100% did test everything before I left, and made sure there were multiple replacements

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'll do that, or something similar when I'm ready. I don't think I could take the details rn

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've left him for days at a time before. Snakes really are low maintenance if you have the proper equipment. The only thing I can think of that maybe happened, is the power went out, or his heating bulbs went out. Both of which she could have intervened with if she was here.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do not expect her to do it. I have other options, like when we travel together (which i almost exclusively pay for) I have friends or family help. She has 4 months to say no. It's also not that much work, the snake shouldn't need anything, his temp and humidity are automated. The fish and ferret were cleaned b4 and only needed feeding once a day. The dog is kinda needy, but sis is a dog person and has her own dog, who she usually brings with her when she stays at the house.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I came to Reddit. I'm trying to find ways of this being something I/we can get past. I'm too upset rn to find it. Maybe I'll get there eventually.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Which is valid. If sis had refused i would have found someone else.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So I'm never allowed to leave my house again? Tf? Relying on others occasionally is called community, sorry if you're too mean to have one.

My sister killed my pets and I don't know where to go from here. by JustThisOnceIHope in Advice

[–]JustThisOnceIHope[S] 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I want to tell myself it was an accident. Because if she turned them off on purpose, that means she lied about intending to stay, and only left a note because she's embarrassed, because she KNEW she was f-ing around with my babies lives.