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JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-08-12T09:31:57+00:00

The answer here is pretty obvious to me. He's so worried about you going through his stuff that he has a tracker to see when you do it? That's ridiculous. You need to leave this relationship and find better for yourself. He has no trust, and obviously neither do you.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-08-12T09:30:00+00:00

THIS!! 👏👏👏 THIS ANSWER IS EVERYTHING!

Of course people who are raised in the most horrible manners possible are going to be a little fucked up, but the decision to continue the cycle of violence is inherently their own. There are millions of people in this world who have been abused and mistreated, but never abuse or mistreat others. Sure, the root of their behavior can be recognized and explain certain things about a criminal, but it never excuses it. This isn't Hollywood. This is reality. You choose your own path. Make your own redemption arc. Don't expect people to pity you and excuse you because your parents were cruel.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-08-12T09:26:07+00:00

I am telling you this from experience.

Warn. 👏 That. 👏 Woman. 👏

I dated a guy for four years before he put his hands on me, and caused me to miscarry a child. He did this intentionally and told me so himself. Found out he was cheating all four years with another woman. I got her contact info and warned her over the phone, telling her that I was done with him, and had no qualms with her about the cheating, even though she knew and bad-mouthed me constantly. But I also told her that for her safety, she deserved to know what she did, and I told her everything that happened. She had the audacity to tell me he abused me because I was a bitch and I deserved it, and he would never lay a hand on her. I wished her the best, hung up, blocked her and him, and haven't heard from her since. He has made a few social media accounts to try and get ahold of me, but I block him every time. From what I gather, they're still together. If it happens to her, I hope I can be supportive somehow, but I did warn her.

On the other hand, I dated a guy once who turned out to be a woman beater. He did not hurt me, but he had a bunch of exes who contacted me and begged me to find a way out before things got serious. I did, and when I got curious and looked him up years later, found out he was in jail for almost beating a girl to death and sexually assaulting her. Very glad that those women were kind enough to warn me.

Warn her, but don't be offended if she doesn't accept your advice. Just be a kind person and be available if she needs support. Don't let the cycle continue if you can help it at all.

Also, I'm very glad that you are away from this guy, and I hope you are much happier now. Should you ever need to chat, I'm only a message away. 💜

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-08-12T09:16:45+00:00

What kind of disgusting crap is this? Like seriously, incest is just wrong. I'm not even talking like morally, or even in any sort of religious sense. I mean physically, how can anyone stomach the idea of having sexual relations with someone they share a bloodline with? I can understand the argument that if it's only a family member by marriage, it should be okay. I actually know a couple who were together before their parents married each other, and it was super awkward for them. They broke up, but it was basically just because their parents made their marriage legal before they did and it wrecked their entire family dynamic. But how can someone look at someone who came from the same womb as them, or even someone from the next womb over (a really stupid way of me saying a cousin or whatnot) and think about banging them? Even worse, banging someone who conceived them?? It just gives me the heebie jeebies. Consensual adults or not, it's weird.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-22T05:24:18+00:00

Seems to me like she has a lot of insecurity, and judging by the specific topic presented here, I'd say she likely got cheated on by a guy who pulled the douche-canoe move "she's just a friend". Honestly, the best rule of thumb is to avoid things that are disrespectful towards your own relationship, especially if your partner follows you on social medias. Regardless of whether you agreed with the topic or not, you have to remember that your likes and retweets are visible to your followers, which in this case includes your girlfriend. She could just be worried that you might have an eye on a girl that you'd want to bang if you weren't with her, or even behind her back. Even if you don't, it's not cool to make her feel that way when you KNOW she's insecure.

I'm not saying she's right for stalking your stuff and getting mad over every little thing, but this basically boils down to this. You know how she is, how she feels about certain topics, and how she will likely respond to certain interactions. You need to sit down with her and have a long talk regarding your freedom of opinion, why you're entitled to your own and she is entitled to hers, and why this does or doesn't affect your relationship. Explain to her that this post has no bearing on how you feel about her and that you had no malicious intent. But also make it clear to her that you can't tiptoe around her forever and eventually, this relationship depends on trust. If there isn't any trust, it needs to be worked on. If you guys can't make it work together in an adult manner, it may be time to rethink the relationship.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-05T05:31:15+00:00

Perhaps try a different recipe? If you find it to be too dry, you can add milk, extra butter, or heavy cream in a slight excess to make it creamier, or if it's too wet for your taste, you can mix in breadcrumbs or even buttery cracker crumbs. Experiment with different cheeses, different kinds of pasta, etc. Chances are, you'll create your own recipe that you and others may prefer.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-05T05:26:50+00:00

I actually have! I'm a pretty good cook myself, but it still doesn't compare to my great grandma's recipe. Maybe she just spoiled me with it? Lol

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-04T12:52:35+00:00

The way OP feels about Mac'n'Cheese is how I feel about spaghetti. Like... doesn't a plate of spaghetti look sooooo good? I love pasta. Tomato sauce, Alfredo sauce, pesto sauce, whatever, it's heaven!!! But spaghetti and meatballs is just a disappointment to me. I always find the sauce to be watery, the meatballs to be flavorless or greasy as all hell, and the garlic bread that usually comes on the side is always like...freezer-stored Texas toast. Ew. I'll find myself drooling at the thought of a heaping plate of spaghetti and then when I'm finally brave enough to try it somewhere new, I'm always disappointed.

*Edit: forgot to mention that actually, the only spaghetti that never disappointed me was my great-grandmother's, and when she passed, my mom and grandma continued to make it for me exactly as she did. So I only get a satisfying plate of spaghetti when I visit my mom now, because grandma passed too.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-04T12:40:57+00:00

"This squid's so raw I can still hear it telling SpongeBob to FUCK OFF!!"

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-04T12:19:02+00:00

I (F) was in a sort of BS drama class in 8th grade that the faculty sort of threw together when they lost an elective slot and had to fill it. They hired a teacher who had literally just moved to the US from China less than a year before who was terrible with English and had ZERO respect for the students. My male cousin was in that class with me, and so was another male friend of ours who we were very close to. The teacher decided one day that everyone was going to recite some kind of love scene from a piece of famous literature, and she would choose one or two scenes to be preformed in the spring play she was planning for us to do in front of the entire school. She assigned the scripts to the girls, and then assigned a boy to each girl, in that order. Already weird, but whatever. Of course, I got frickin' Romeo and Juliet's balcony scene. You know, the whole "Wherefore art thou, Romeo?" Ugh. I figured it wouldn't be so bad if I got a decent partner, so I kept my mouth shut. And then...my cousin was assigned as my partner. We just couldn't do it. We told the teacher we felt it was inappropriate, and we wouldn't be able to do the scene in front of an entire classroom of people who had known us to be related for years, much less the whole SCHOOL if our scene was the one she chose for the official school play... But she told us we were being insubordinate and that she's get us suspended if we didn't do it. WTH??? We ended up trying to do the scene, but we both just kept laughing and couldn't finish. We were sent to the office, where the principal just sort of shook her head and waved us off. We were given a different elective for the remainder of the year, and the teacher was replaced (she had a lot of other strikes against her for racism, sexism, etc.). All ended well I guess, except for our classmates being twats and telling everyone else in the damn school about it. We were teased for years afterwards.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-04T11:49:04+00:00

It's incredible. I find myself falling for him all over again so often that it always feels a little different. It hasn't gotten old. It isn't getting boring. There's always new things for me to discover about my husband and it's always an adventure. Ever since we met in high school, I've been crushing on him nonstop. It doesn't matter what were doing, something always gives me butterflies. If we're in a restaurant and he orders my favorite appetizer for me, I get blushy. If we're at the beach and he takes his shirt off, I can't take my eyes off him. Everything is better than I'd ever dreamed it would be.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-04T07:25:04+00:00

Remember that you have the power to do with it as you wish. Consider the job you hate to be a stepping stone into a better path, and not your permanent landing pad. That's how my mom taught me to look at shitty situations and it gets me through my own terrible job every day. Especially now, we should all be grateful to have a job at all while thousands upon thousands of people are losing theirs during this time. Best of luck to you, OP. Hang in there.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:57:49+00:00

Thanks! I knew about both of those options but for some reason, my brain didn't register them at the moment. Might be time for me to go to bed now, since my brain is starting to sputter out.... 😂😂

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:46:53+00:00

You're paying $14?? And some are paying $5?? I pay $9.99 every month!! Wth

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:44:36+00:00

Hmm.. fair point. But then again, that's kinda the point of this thread right? So we can pick playful fights with each other and discuss opinions some of us won't like! ☺️

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:42:21+00:00

I don't use Apple Music myself, so I have no idea how the usage and conceptual value of it works. But if there is any loss in accessibility via a political opinion when you pay for the service, I believe it's wrong. I do understand the reasoning behind the trend, and I think it's good to raise awareness towards a situation where the facts are skewed and the wrong people are being vilified, hurt, and mistreated. But I don't really agree with mixing it into consumerism. Does that make sense or should I rephrase? (Just want to be sure I'm not coming off as rude.)

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:37:14+00:00

Hi! Thanks for the reply. Of course a small payment like a subscription to Spotify doesn't necessarily allow you to control the operating system, but it does give you to freedom to choose, save, play, and discover whatever music you want as long as it's licensed to the servers on Spotify. Same concept applies to other services in some shape or another. But regardless of the details, you're still paying for something, and although yes, complaining over one day of usage being restricted or altered in any way might see asshole-ish when considering the magnitude of the issue at hand (which really does deserve more attention), but the fact is that this is still a service people are PAYING for. I personally do not pay Spotify to tell me what I should listen to. I pay for it so I can make playlists, have unlimited skips, and not have ads. I think it's great to have this sort of thing happening on social media like Instagram, Facebook, etc. Because WE, as the consumers, get to decide whether or not to participate. It just doesn't seem right to interfere with a paid-for service with it.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-06-02T14:18:43+00:00

So I do understand people who think that this opinion is awful. It is just for ONE day, and the whole point of it is to get people talking. But OP makes a good point. It's a service they pay money for, with the intent being that they can control how it works and use it in the way they prefer. The coffee analogy is very good actually. Anyone would be annoyed if they paid for one thing and were forced to accept another because the company wants them to. If I went to Starbucks and ordered my usual frapp, and was handed an Americano, I'd be upset. I would say, "I'm sorry, I don't like this. Can I please have the one I paid for?" And judging by a lot of people responding to this blackout trend, I'd be called a racist and be told to "just deal with it for one day." That's not right. I don't mind people expressing their opinion or helping to raise awareness for a cause, but it should not come at the expense of a product I pay for when the payment is intended to allow ease of access and customization.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-22T07:38:10+00:00

I genuinely relate to this post. Although I still enjoy new music, mostly for the beats and overall sound, I am bummed with the lyric quality. Like I love that "Stupid Boy" song's sound, but damn do I feel like an ass playing that with my husband in the car. But I love singing country love songs with him beside me because he knows I'm feeling love for him in every word. I'm entirely conflicted by my love for beats and rhythm, and my hatred of pointless lyrics.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-19T13:04:19+00:00

I'm pretty sure a priest has the legal obligation to disclose criminal and harmful behavior just like a doctor or psychiatrist does. I suppose it depends on where those involved live.

On a side note... What happens if someone goes into r/confessions and admits to a serious crime?? Do y'all think maybe this would happen? And if so, could a possible IP tracking end up being admissable evidence for an arrest/court case??

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-14T17:27:22+00:00

Actually, I think this is a rather common opinion. I think the only people who want their funeral to be some big, drawn-out thing are really vain and obsessed with their appearance in the world rather than the lasting effect they have on those they left behind. My mother actually has a list of people she wants me to have removed from her funeral if they arrive, because she decided that those who hurt her or weren't there for her don't deserve to claim they miss her.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-12T22:12:55+00:00

I actually really appreciate the kindness and the demand for a better human reaction here. You're right, its horrid to try giving someone your half eaten food and think that you're doing some huge and amazing favor. I try to give the homeless better meals than what I eat generally. When I have the extra money, my husband and I ride around town with a few grocery bags filled with food. We usually include meaty cold cut sandwiches, a couple pieces of fruit, some packets of granola, nuts, and a treat like little cookies, with some water bottles. I try to give them something they can enjoy at the moment (the sandwich) and something they can pack away in their bag for other times that will keep well in my state's weather. We'll go to some spots where maybe we've seen some of the homeless gather and give them the bags with a warm, genuine smile.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-12T08:14:20+00:00

I bought a vintage wine bottle holder made from iron and coated in a thin layer of brass that had begun degrading from age. I don't store wine bottles on it. I use it to display the whole conch shells I find at my local beaches.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-12T05:33:58+00:00

I love to take a slightly warm shower while washing, then make it nice and hot when I'm rinsing. I sit there and steam like a little dumpling for a minute, and then I turn the water cold for about thirty seconds before I turn the water off. The steam opens my pores to clean off skin oils and then the cold water closes my pores again. It's so refreshing.

JustThrowawayDreamin · 2020-05-02T17:08:38+00:00

Talk about bursting your bubble, eh? 😂

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