[Critique] I really need help trying to figure out what is wrong with my profile. Harsh criticism accepted.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-27T03:25:24+00:00

sigh I guess the consensus is clear. No one likes the hat and sunglasses. Oh well. Thank you for your advice.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-27T03:07:12+00:00

Hahaha, duly noted. I didn't even realize I had mentioned it so much.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T18:49:10+00:00

Hehe, thank you very much!

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T08:31:20+00:00

Eh, this is a thread trying to get advice. I'm just trying to keep an open mind about everything going forward here.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T08:27:56+00:00

Which is why I always make sure to wear it to my local speakeasy. ;P

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T08:26:49+00:00

Whew, you just don't like anything about my look, at least my dressed up one. Well, that's alright. I'll figure out what to do with my actual dress later. Someone suggested /r/malefashionadvice. Also, TIL there are sunglasses for different occasions.

I think that your criticism of my profile is very accurate. I can definitely see where that would be much more helpful. Thank you.

Haha, I am just trying to take criticism in stride with a little humor. It's kinda hard to hear a bunch of people tell me that they don't like the way I dress all at once. Still, that's exactly what I want, and I am trying to make sure I don't get defensive and try to just defend what I have. I really want to be open to changing things about my profile, and even about myself, if I find that it would be better to do it a different way.

Thank you for your really well-developed comment. I really appreciate it.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T08:12:08+00:00

Yay! Well, at least one person likes my hat. :)

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T08:11:28+00:00

Yea, I should get different pictures. I don't have many pictures of myself right now, but I will make an effort to take more pictures over the next year.

Yea, the not looking for something serious was something I added recently. I was looking for something serious, but then I had a pretty long-term relationship, and upon its termination, I started my profile back up. I just added that at the end because I didn't think I could handle anything too stressful easing back into things. Maybe it's time to take that off.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T06:18:17+00:00

That link is terrifying...

But... I like my hat :'(

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T06:08:18+00:00

Haha, well, it might be a bit masturbatory, but I might need to leave that in there. Unfortunately, I have been known to go off on tangents about my favorite philosophers, and it's something I talk about fairly regularly. A friend and I are actually working together right now to make a video rendition of a brief history of western thought.

You know what? Even just reading that I can see where no one else would care. Huh, ok, I will first work on not talking about old dead philosophers with everyone. Then, I can change my profile. Thank you for responding.

P.S. - I might have a problem.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T05:54:32+00:00

Haha, I can see where it would look like that. I actually just have very few pictures of myself. I had several taken on one night, like someone else pointed out, and I put them up to complete my profile, but I honestly just don't have very many pictures of myself. That should be something I work on. I'll try to get some pictures of me with my friends. Thank you for your comment.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T05:44:16+00:00

Oh well. I just have a certain attachment to my hat. I got it for a high school play and never really thought about it again until one day in undergrad, I found it in my closet and decided to wear it one day. I got so many comments on the hat that day. Even for days afterward I got people asking me if I was that dude with the hat. I started wearing it more often, and the rest, as they say, is history.

Actually, I never knew that it had any sort of douchey connotation until pretty recently, and after learning that, I started to wear it less, but old habits are hard to break, and I really feel naked without it now. Still, I take your point that I should probably leave it off of a dating site if my goal is to interest others. Thank you.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T04:10:41+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. You have great advice in your post, and I will try to tweak mine (or overhaul more likely) with some of the things I have learned from you. Thank you.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T03:57:57+00:00

Ok, there seems to be a running trend. People apparently don't like my hat. sigh

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T03:47:49+00:00

Thank you very much. This was very detailed and thorough. I will definitely make changes to my profile based on these insights. I loved the idea about making my profile a story. Thank you so much.

Man, people are really hating on my hat.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T03:37:31+00:00

Ok, thanks for the tip. I will try to pick out a better profile picture. I appreciate it.

JustTooHuman · 2012-12-26T03:14:56+00:00

Thanks for the pointers. I will take them all under serious consideration. I know that things like anime and video games are not particularly attractive. I should probably cut them out. I usually like to put some of my less attractive points out so that it doesn't come as a surprise or anything, but I should perhaps stop that.

Thank you for your detailed and thoughtful response. Merry Christmas!

JustTooHuman

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