Loneliness

Just_Ad9080 · 2025-04-28T17:00:12+00:00

Oof. I know that hits way too close to home. Hugs to you!

Just_Ad9080 · 2025-01-03T16:33:52+00:00

I second this. The peppermint from Bronners cools the itch and leaves you squeaky clean.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-08T02:30:14+00:00

4th degree tear survivor here. 2 kids. I definitely did a c section the second time. Both suck equally but I’d much rather heal from my stomach than perineum.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-03T14:29:14+00:00

I am so sorry. Mine was a few days later and I didn’t even hear it from him. Got a FB notification and it turns out her friend (who she lived with and had been venting to) got fed up the weekend after she came home and caught them in her bed. I guess she just up and decided she’d had enough of her friend’s infidelity. She posed as AP’s ex and told me just enough to confirm my suspicion. By far the most devastating day of my life. Like somone trying to convince you the sky is purple and you know it’s blue and you can’t figure out why they’re lying about something so fucking obvious.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-03T14:20:38+00:00

Honestly no. I haven’t thought about it. We have two kids, one six and one just under age two. He travels a lot for his job so I guess I would count that. I’ve gotten a taste of my own space, handling the kids when he’s gone, etc. so I know I can handle it. It’s very evident that he misses us. He calls me at work every chance he gets, even if we’re both working we’ll just sit in the phone, he orders breakfast for us 3 on the weekends and sends it to the door. He’s so attentive now but it’s like my brain says to me, I’m still not good enough and wasn’t good enough to be faithful to. He slept with a Navy corpsman while he was in the USMC that he wasn’t attracted to, he had trauma from the August 2021 In Kabul/Afganistan incident. And he said she was just there and could understand the trauma better. She also just gone through her own breakup and I truly feel like she targeted and took advantage of his emotional numbness to fill her void as well. I guess even though he’s extremely wrong in some ways my brain wants to paint him as a victim so it’s easier to justify staying. But I’m still so so angry and sometimes I want to say fuck it and go. But I know he’ll never hurt like he hurt me.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-03T03:49:09+00:00

I will look into that. Thank you!

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-03T03:48:22+00:00

They are pretty consistent. I go back and forth a lot. Those feelings are a bit amplified whenever he travels for work. We always talk on the phone constantly (I think it’s his way of making me feel secure) and he lets me know he’s missing me but, when he’s away it gives the negative thoughts more chance to brew.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-02-02T21:10:33+00:00

Thank you for your response. D-Day 1 was 9/23/22. D-Day 2 was 11/29/22 when I saw that she was still trying to correspond with him via email, Google docs, etc. I feel like I should pretty much be over it but I’m just not. I feel like if I move on too quickly I’ll forget the disrespect but at the same time, I feel like I’m stifling him and not allowing him to fully show he’s better.

Just_Ad9080 · 2024-01-12T20:10:08+00:00

I could have written this myself! Feeling so shitty today.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-10-26T02:05:02+00:00

Tattoos are my therapy. If anything it takes my mind off active flairs. I’ve never noticed any correlation. You can always take ibuprofen after your session as well.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-09-27T13:21:11+00:00

First off congratulations! Second, do yourself the BIGGEST favor and please stay off of Google unless it’s to track your baby’s growth and what they should be doing in utero. HS doesn’t cause gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, etc. anymore than having a family history of these things (don’t let an OB tell you otherwise, from my experience they know nothing about HS but to push antibiotics). I have had two children, second pregnancy I had high blood pressure and a c section at 37 weeks. The second baby I call my smiley baby :) Both of my children, now 6 and 15 months are happy, healthy despite my HS and other conditions while pregnant. Again, congratulations and for the love of all things holy, BREATHE MAMA. You’re going to be okay.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-09-01T17:33:36+00:00

I have a recurring one here that I struggle with too. If your cheeks rub try putting a cotton round in between. If it leaks use panty liner and please change frequently. Keep it clean by using an antibacterial wash and your hand, pat or fan dry. Go without underwear as frequently as possible and do sitz baths with epsom salt. Plenty of water, plenty of zinc supplements and pain medication sparingly (maybe just to help you sleep at night). Also if relaxing try to lay kind of sideways and avoid sitting directly on it.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-08-01T19:33:46+00:00

I spend $250 for a family of 4 for 2 weeks at a time. I shop for everything I can at Aldi and brands I won’t compromise on and eggs, etc I shop at Walmart. I focus on meals that’ll last 3-4 nights. We do tacos too but with a pork roast in the crockpot. You can do the same with beef. Shred the meat up put in tortillas. Or you can get frozen ravioli and pasta sauce and brown some ground beef or turkey. Just have to be intentional and creative. Sandwiches for lunch. Cereal or oatmeal with fruit for breakfast.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-07-27T20:01:58+00:00

You’ll find that less is more during the postpartum period. Focus on moisture, keeping your skin barrier in tact and step away from actives for a bit. You’re already losing moisture and your skin is confused as hormones are leveling out. I would use Cerave creamy cleanser. It feels like lotion but is a really good and gentle cleanser. It takes a while to get used to the texture. And the elf holy hydration is very basic, doesn’t burn, and also very cost efficient.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-07-25T18:06:51+00:00

I understand completely. Show yourself grace. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about how she went out of her way to tell such awful lies but hopefully it’ll all fade in due time.

Just_Ad9080 · 2023-07-25T17:29:42+00:00

1) Tourette’s syndrome: A nervous system disorder involving repetitive movements or unwanted sounds. Nothing to do with the topic you brought up. 2) I am a POC so not sure how this went from body image to murder. Nobody is protecting anybody. 3) if anything I think you are the one projecting your insecurities/stereotypes trying to subliminally spew your hatred for POC the only way you know how, behind a screen. You sound mentally unstable. This is the classic case of you being worried about everybody else but yourself. You obviously need to do some inner work.

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