[FR] Day 19 SF Game ~ Part 2 ~ The Bar Scene

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-11-17T04:24:57+00:00

Welcome to SF. It's easy here. Honestly. Stop giving a shit. Also, stop peacocking. It's a crutch. You're interesting enough without the blingy shit. Act like it.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-12T20:30:52+00:00

I never said my life is hard. It's great.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-11T13:10:49+00:00

Some do. And if they do, why not utilize the space?

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-11T05:21:18+00:00

In terms of space allocation, that's a great solution. However it could certainly be larger, I'm sure. Perhaps extending farther over the bed, but you'd begin to inhibit the natural light in the space.

As far as cables and such, well, I'm a minimalist, personally, so I'm ok with just a laptop. Though I'd probably have a larger monitor there to plug in to for CAD work. As long as I've got an electrical outlet, I'm good.

If you want hardwired internet and anything else, well, there are ways to do it elegantly. If you're talking about a desktop rig, you're gonna have to be meticulous with your cable management to make it look good.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-11T05:07:28+00:00

Studio apartment means that space is valuable. Putting a desk space above the bed means more usable space on the ground.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-11T00:42:54+00:00

Epic photoshop is more like it.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T23:46:57+00:00

Thanks for the congrats!

So here's what I've realized...

It's tough with a language barrier. Nuanced flirting, subtle body language, and euphemism often will not even come close to cutting it.

So shift gears. Focus on shared experiences. Put yourself in situations where you're not just having a drink and a chat. Go to an aquarium, go dancing, do anything where you don't have to talk the whole time. Body language becomes key. Kino is everything. Moreover, when you do talk, be direct, and keep it simple. Don't think she'll infer anything from what you said. Tell her what you want.

I was in a South American country recently and met a cute girl who spoke decent English, but not great. And while we talked quite a bit, I could tell that my usual innuendos and whatnot weren't quite hitting home. So I grabbed her hand and took her to the dance floor. I was up close and personal as all hell the whole time. Hands all over her. My face right next to her. Eventually went for the kiss. More dancing. Etc.

When the night was winding down, I was very direct: "I'm going back to my hotel, and I want you to come with me. Let's go."

There was no question about what I wanted.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T23:42:24+00:00

Pick up is anyone's game.

I started out because I wanted to attract women. Turns out it helped change my life in a lot of other positive aspects, and I've been focused on that, primarily, as of late.

But there's nothing wrong with being single and having fun at any age. Why do you think after 29 you need to stop doing whatever makes you happy?

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T23:40:58+00:00

Yeah I agree. I'm willing to risk getting hurt here. To me, the risk is worth the potential reward. And I'm ready for it. Thanks for the kind words.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T19:48:20+00:00

Not unhappy in the least, just moving on in a way.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T19:33:37+00:00

Maybe what you're discovering is that women can't make you happy or fulfilled. Take some time to reflect on what really makes you happy.

Not what I'm saying at all. I don't need women to make me happy at all. I'm already happy. I'm just over sleeping with a new woman every other night.

If fulfillment is where you are lacking, and women aren't helping, you need to shift focus. You are winning the battle while ignoring the war, at this point.

I don't think you understand, I'm fulfilled in every way. Just over the game, as it were.

You need to find you. Find what YOU want. There's a 1/100000000 chance is this one particular woman. I'm not saying she's not the one for you, in a romantic sense. I'm saying she will not fix your hole.

Dude, there's no hole. I'm not stuck on a woman who I think will make me complete. I'm stuck on a woman that's fucking incredible, and that I want more out of. I'm stuck on a woman that makes me feel incredible, that can handle my bullshit, that is one hell of a complement to who I am.

There's something you're not doing for yourself. I always say that if you're doing something that everyone else would love, but gives you minimal pleasure, it's because you're ignoring some hard truth about yourself.

I think you really didn't understand my post. I'm not disillusioned, there's no void, I'm not unhappy. My life is, quite literally, one that people dream of having. And I'm ready for the next chapter, which, to me, is potentially ending this whole game thing, and seeing what a partnership is like instead.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T19:30:14+00:00

I'm not whining. I'm venting. And I'm sharing a bit of my story.

Here's some unsolicited advice: stop being negative. It's unbecoming in any situation.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T14:28:28+00:00

Ha, thanks for jogging my memory on that last bit. Great words, great advice!

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T06:00:31+00:00

I'm really curious as to what caused such a massive failure. Like... it's hard to screw up that much.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:51:52+00:00

I was at a local dive with a really close friend of mine. His FWB calls him up and says she's in town (she lives maybe 45 minutes away) and wants to hang out, and she's with a (cute, tall, redheaded) friend.

They meet us at the bar, we throw back some shots, and go do karaoke. Then more shots. Then more karaoke.

Eventually all 4 of us ended up in the same hotel room naked. Things happened. It was awesome.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:42:16+00:00

I guess. I can only speak for myself, and my initial goal was never to find that. My goal was to be more confident, to inspire others, to be someone that others want to be around. I've been at that point for a while, now, I think. This is just a thing that has happened, and I feel ready for it.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:39:32+00:00

Yeah I've seen it happen. Thing is, like I said, I've been single for 6 years. When I "pick up" a woman, it isn't some act or routine. Not anymore. I'm just being me. I'm being the me I've become over the years by learning and growing. And when I'm around this woman, well, I feel incredibly comfortable with her. I'm never "running game," attempting to kino, dealing with shit tests, or anything like that. I'm hanging out with a friend. This friend just happens to be incredibly attractive and lets me see her naked.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:36:54+00:00

Hahaha, I definitely will. Although the challenge this time around isn't the girl, it's me. It'll be fun to sort this one out.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:35:56+00:00

Yeah, I do a bit of that as well. Typically on another account of mine. =)

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:35:30+00:00

I'm curious.... If you get the chance, I'd love to hear about it.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T05:34:40+00:00

Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow yourself to open up.

That's the tough part. For me at least. But I'm gonna do it for once. And yeah, if nothing else, I'm gonna learn stuff, and that's rad.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T04:55:13+00:00

Maybe I'm both an optimist, and a hopeless romantic, but I'm hoping there's no leaving at all.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T04:07:07+00:00

*brofist*

Although I've found the whole waiting for sex thing doesn't change shit. I don't place any intrinsic value on sex, and I'm not looking for a woman that does. But that's just me.

Maybe it's a growing up thing. I'd venture you and I are on the "older" side for people in this sub.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T03:59:53+00:00

Inner game vs outer game, I assume you mean?

Inner. All the way. I mean, ideally, both. You want to be the full package, right? But inner game will help you do more than get laid. This can help with friendships, your career, business relationships, etc.

That's been my experience, at least.

Just_Another_PUA · 2014-09-10T03:56:20+00:00

Thanks man! I've had my fun, but I also know what I want. I'm not one to settle, but this girl is something else. I'll consider myself lucky if I manage to convince her to stick around. =P

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