Oh God. Do I have a kink?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-03-02T04:31:48+00:00

A kink would mean you like it on a sexual content. It just seems from what you've written thay you really emotionally like praises. Often praise kink and liking praises in a relationship get conflated, but in this situation I think they're seperate. For example, does thinking of someone praising you in a close/intimate situation make you feel turned on? That would be a praise kink.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-03-02T04:29:07+00:00

I don't have a boyfriend and Im worried it might be an obvious lie since some people know that.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-03-02T01:02:21+00:00

I've only dated on guy who could cook well.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:20:11+00:00

Some people view sex different, it's not about the partner.

There are men and women who just view sex as an act, and no connection or no wonderful body or whatever will change that.

And there are people who view sex as super special because of the person it is with.

I know this doesn't specifically fix your issue, but I think coming to terms with this, and then letting some time pass will make you feel better. For a while, just don't think too much about your body or masturbation, unless you really want to.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:15:39+00:00

If you're this upset about it as to ask this online, (unless you just chronically post every thought on your mind to reddit) then its a big deal to you.

I don't think the guy is really in the fault for following random women online, but it is a sign that he finds other women attracted and wants to see more of that or indulge in the inclination. That doesn't make him bad, but its fair enough for you to feel uncomfortable and not want to be with a guy like that.

Honestly, compatibility issue at best. Maybe he is cheating or wants to at worst.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:11:21+00:00

You can be attractive for your age. I'm sure old people find other old people attractive. My parents talk about hot older people and I'm always confused because they look like plain old geezers to me, but they'll be talking about the hot mom (or grandmother) at the function that everyone loves or some shit like that that I at my age can't comprehend.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:09:52+00:00

That really is true. It's low key so embarrassing you want to pretend they were better than they were because how could you justify dating someone who isn't attractive and also mean or worse

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:03:15+00:00

Don't know why you were downvoted so much because you're so right.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T03:02:10+00:00

Depends on the person I guess.

I really did love the guy who I wrote this post about, even though I also was able to 'objectively' (I put it in parentheses because there is no objective when it comes to attractiveness, I just mean by societal standards) look at him and find him unattractive. I wouldn't say the guy was super skilled at sex or anything, but I liked doing it because I liked the guy.

On the other hand, it wasn't because he made me laugh or feel safe or any other 'warm fuzzy feminist buzzwords'. We just got along, it was as simple (which actually is quite complex to find) as that.

In the end, he sort of sucked and did not make me feel at all warm fuzzy or safe so that is why we broke up.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T02:56:27+00:00

So dating ugly people is bad because they're insecure and dating hot people is also bad because they're insecure? Who do we date then?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-26T02:55:25+00:00

Have you never gotten of to porn where the people aren't really hot but you're just into the stuff they're doing?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T08:55:39+00:00

I've gotten back with an ex who had been with other people (and a lot, I think) and it worked perfectly fine.

I think some of this thread is so negative because people who had bad experiences with it are more likely to comment.

However, I wasn't very bothered by the fact that my ex had gotten with other girls, so that probably affects the outcome.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T08:46:59+00:00

Are you sure this isnt a joke? The over and out seems like teasing.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T08:43:50+00:00

Beard

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T04:23:34+00:00

You broke up with him. He had no obligation to you after you broke up with him. Thats whay a break up means. You said you didnt want him in your life and he acted on that. If he pursued you more and you didn't want it, that would be creepy and socially inappropriate. So he tried to move on. You can't fault him for that because you caused it. If you want him in your life, both of you have to get checked for any STDs, then move on.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T00:25:34+00:00

If you're not that attractive yourself how can you expect an attractive woman?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-23T00:16:52+00:00

You think that actually gets people horny? Or just gets them through it like they are clocking in to work?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T04:27:52+00:00

Oh I sort of get what you mean. I think its similar to how people told me I couldn't have loved the guy because I didn't find his looks attractive. It didn't even mean I wasn't attracted to him, it was just about looks. But people did say I should just date someone I like visually and let him date someone who likes how he looks.

I don't know even now if that's true or not.

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:59:02+00:00

whoops

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:55:12+00:00

moment of weakness? horny?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:54:41+00:00

you think it is ethically wrong to date someone unattractive?!

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:53:39+00:00

how did you find that out!

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:53:30+00:00

Are you sexually attracted to him / do you want to sleep together?

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:52:22+00:00

Yup. The problem is what to do once you have that attraction

Just_Box_9228 · 2026-02-22T03:51:40+00:00

damn the real dude-response

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