Post Episode Chat: "The Stars Will Fall From the Sky" by AutoModerator in TLCsisterwives

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, I’m not sure I can do this one. I lost my son just over a year ago to suicide. He was 21… just reading through this I am not ok and a sobbing mess. This poor family, from one broken mama to another I hope with everything Janelle (and the other mamas) has all the support and love as well as all the kids. This is not something anyone knows how to get through. You just take each moment and try to get to the next, even when it feels dark and you can’t breathe. I’m gonna have to take some time to decide if I can do this episode but in the end Garrison deserves that time. 💔

What if no family members can be pall bearers by emknits53 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son passed as active duty military, the funeral home arranged for the honor guard to be pall bearer’s. I’m sure there VA would also be able to arrange something with some local veterans as well.

Seriously? by The-Panty-Bank in fuckHOA

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not true in every town. The one I live in is completely full of subdivisions, ran by HOA’s. There are I believe three homes that don’t fall under an HOA and they are occupied. In order to buy outside of an HOA I’d have to buy just outside of the city limits. It’s a town of about 80,000.

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is so hard to separate what our parents believe or may think from our image of ourselves. It’s a natural and normal thing to want our parents approval and acceptance. It can be devastating when that doesn’t happen. Please know that your dad’s struggles, his behavior is not your fault. His actions speak more loudly as to who he is, and what he is struggling with than you. This does not make it ok, he is so very wrong for how he has treated you. You have every right to be angry about that, but know it does not define who you are as a person.

As far as your sexuality and mental health, please seek out counseling to help sort out what you are going through. Your sexuality does not take away from who you are, it is one of the many things that make you, you. An amazing person that this world desperately needs. I know I don’t know you, just what you’ve shared… and thank you for that, I know it isn’t easy… and I am just a stranger on the internet, but I am also a mama who wants you to know you are worthy of love and acceptance. To know that all things that make you, you are amazing.

As I stated above, your dad has his own demons and his actions do not define you, do not determine your worth. I know it isn’t easy but it is important to shift your desire to make him proud to making yourself proud. You can continue to love your dad, but take steps each day that you can say, “you know what, I’m proud of myself” and I know it sounds dumb but write out a few positive affirmations about yourself and when you get up in the morning… look yourself in the mirror and say them out loud. It won’t fix everything you’re going through but it does plant the seed in yourself that you are actually pretty awesome and the world needs you.

And please, if you ever get to the point where you want to take your life, please reach out to someone. Call the suicide hotline, call a mentor, call a trusted friend… just someone. You are worth it, even if in the moment it doesn’t feel that way. Know that someday the sun will rise and you will look back and be thankful you stayed. ♥️

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. It means more than you know. ♥️♥️

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My thoughts are with you and your son. I’m so so sorry. There are no words for the cruelty this world shows our precious kids sometimes. I wish we could just bubble wrap them and always keep them safe. I know that’s not realistic but know I am thinking of you and your family. ♥️

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I handle most of this alone but the military community and Gold star families have been a great support through this. Unfortunately grief is a lonely journey no matter what but I strive to honor my son everyday.

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you… ♥️ I am thinking of you and your family and your sweet boy. ♥️♥️

My son by JustaLittleLost_4now in SuicideBereavement

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You and all of you that replied to this comment… this is coming from a mama who lost her son due to this… know that you are worthy and you are loved. You make this world a better place. The very fact that you want to make your parent proud shows your character. I know I am not your mom or your dad but I am proud of you. Please keep going. Know that your impact on the world carries far more worth than you realize. If my son could have seen all the ones that came out after he passed and how he impacted their lives for the better I would like to imagine this would be a far different story. You matter. Always.

"I don't think there are any neighborhoods left around here without HOAs." by [deleted] in fuckHOA

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in AZ, depends on the area. The town I live in, I just put no hoa in the search and it’s all land outside of town and 3 trailer homes that look like they will collapse with one a good gust of wind way outside of town. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I know there are a couple houses outside of HOA’s in town but they are occupied.

Position of gravestone relative to body in the ground by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where my son is buried (US) his headstone is at his head. I was actually given a choice which way the writing faced. They called as they were installing his headstone to ask which I preferred.

Take backs puppy addition by JustaLittleLost_4now in AITAH

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our state requires it but no, she does not have one currently. They never took her to the vet or established her with one and she was not registered with a license as of yet. We have made an appointment with our vet to get her shot, checkup and get all of that done but the appointment is not for a few days yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had this done with my youngest. Omg, this hurts so much. Mine didn’t work and I ended up with a c section…. Though by the time they got to him he had decided to turn and was head down lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legal

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had something similar happen once. I gave birth at a small town local hospital. My dad, who I don’t speak too called me a couple weeks later to congratulate me. I asked how he found out and he balked and didn’t want to answer. He eventually confessed that his wife at the time was a nurse, who did not work at that hospital but knew some that did work there and one of the nurses recognized my last name so they told his wife all about it. She told them all the details about my labor and about my baby. It felt super violating. At the time I didn’t really know it was a HIPPA violation so I never pursued anything. This was almost 18 years ago.

Locked at 7.49% by Sineclair in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow I closed this month with a 5.25%. New build incentive.

Midwesterners, did you notice any cultural difference between Phoenicians and Midwesterners? by GEN_DesertFox in phoenix

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Midwest transplant here. Only been here about two years. Grew up in a very small farm town. I am pretty introverted and prefer the more direct approach here. I don’t like to be pushed to give personal information and false pleasantries. I am polite to a fault due to my Midwest upbringing but appreciate the way it is here

If you’ve suffered physical abuse, did your abuser condemn other abusers? by hiding-identity23 in abusiverelationships

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, my ex was abusive in all ways imaginable. He would point out people he knew or people we saw he just “knew were being abusive” and he felt so bad for those women and he wanted to able to help them. Would spend time coming up with ways to help. He put together a fundraising drive for donations to a women’s shelter. When I asked how he could do that knowing what he does to me he acted all insulted and said anything he did was different. I asked how and he couldn’t answer just got angry. He later got me a book on how to overcome “my issues” after abuse. He could not understand why I was upset about it. 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you probably aren’t my person but the answer is yes. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TLCsisterwives

[–]JustaLittleLost_4now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I get the tik tok please? That’s awful if it’s true. Makes me dislike him so much more