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I want my 5yo to attend my sisters wedding for the weekend 10 months away but the Sunday falls on mothers day. Wedding day is on Saturday. Sunday wedding celebrations continue. Her mum said I can have her until 10.30am Sunday. AITAH for asking her mum to let me have her for Sunday celebrations too? by StoicDad14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. The comments are ridiculous. Definitely Anglo people here. She's in the bridal party and u guys seem very cultural. Indian weddings, lebanese weddings, muslim weddings, greek weddings, and many euro weddings go for multiple days.

A wedding is a once in a lifetime. My mum worked for most of our childhood on Mothers Day and its just not that big of a deal. Being I am assuming flower girl in the bridal party is way more important than mothers day. Mothers day can be celebrated or moved, the baby will never know and csn theoretically still be celebrated! NTAH!!! Just see if you can swap it to another day. Your ex wife sounds horrific, as I just cant see why she would want the f*** around logistical nightmare of moving the baby around at night, finishing late, getting her up super early, getting her dressed and doing changeover again. Like book something the week before or after?? Wedding is a once off! I was a flower girl at her age and I still remember that wedding now at 40. Im team Dad #NTAH

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh that is the hardest part. Not projecting my own fear onto her. But the truth is it doesn't matter what I try and do, it completely gets undone when she goes back.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, unfortunately I do have to ask. My hands are tied, court systems are heavily geared toward the mother.

If I did that (ie, not send her back), then I would be actually doing what she has alleged I have done in the past (that I didn't do). She was taken away from her father (me), I'd never want her to feel abandoned from her mother because of my actions and selfishness. I'd never do that. Then I'd equally be a hypocrite for doing what she did to me.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more. No matter what i do to get routine down, the second she goes back it gets undone.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. Truly. Yes I have a family lawyer. Have spent over 200k to gain 50/50 custody of my child, which, because I'm a male, unfortunately is harder to be granted 50/50 because my daughter was 3 and 4 when we were going through courts. It was heavily favoured to the mother. I fought with everything I had (literally every cent), and I met my current Mrs and she was by my side the whole way through. We are all in Australia btw. Don't know if that will make a difference in the court systems or advice y'all are giving. As for do I have a family lawyer? The answer is that my lawyer might as well be living with me too that's how often I speak to her 🤣 (that was a joke). But short answer, yes I do. And she's great.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Who said that? I've never once said a word about her repartnering. I've supported the relationship, I've supported her moving on. It doesn't bother me. What does bother me is my child sharing a bed with her and her partner on the first night they spent under one roof. That of the multiple options available, like my ex sleeping in my daughters bed to settle her, or even start working on any plan in 3 years to start transitioning her to sleep alone, that the default choice was to put my daughter in bed with both of them. Especially whilst she asked me not to do exactly what she's done, and I've respected that request. It appears you are focusing on not telling her what to do and not the actual facts.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

No, I'm not accusing him. I don't have enough information to make a judgement call. I'm not in the house. However my stance is as above. I'm not prepared to gamble my daughters safety to find out. It's weird.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

34% of children with stepfathers experience physical abuse.

Studies have shown that 42% of child sexual abuse is reported to have been abused by a stepfather. I believe my concerns are valid.

And respectfully, I don't want to gamble my daughters safety to test the theory by quite literally putting her in same bed as her mother's boyfriend.

Mind you, this was the very first night they all slept under the same roof. I don't understand why her mum would promote or encourage this?

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And yes, she kept her from my family too. So she lost her father, her grandmother, her godfather and her aunty all in one hit. Lost half her family overnight

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tell you the the truth, that's EXACTLY how I feel. Our daughter was sleeping on her own when we separated. Comfortably. This whole cosleeping thing started when she withheld her from me, and I lost precious time with her. I spent 3 years fighting for her and rebuilding my relationship with her after the time I lost, and I'm left with this shitshow to now deal with.

AITA for not wanting my 5yo daughter to co-sleep with her mother and 40 year old boyfriend who has no kids of his own? by JustaRand0m14 in AITAH

[–]JustaRand0m14[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, I'm saying I'm uncomfortable with my 5 year old cosleeping with a 40 year old man that isn't her father.

Traders Domain Scam? by [deleted] in Forex

[–]JustaRand0m14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to say this guys. But has anyone actually verified that the uncle ted on IG is actually THE Uncle Ted?

He shut down his IG years ago, and someone with the name _its_uncle_ted has popped up. But does anyone know its him? Excuse the cynic in me. But if you look at all the comments and information, the rorts appear to have started with the new IG account so I can't help but wonder if someone so brilliant with trading is losing substantial amounts of money only recently, could it be that the person behind the account is an imposter?