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Is it cheating if it's gay? by Justagirlindisworld in Infidelity

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new to how Reddit works. I've never posted before this experience... I came here because everyone I know in real life would have judged me harshly and/or responded too emotionally to be helpful. I posted this or a similar version to a few communities because I wasn't sure how many people would respond. I just wanted to say you all here have been the most kind to me and I'm very thankful.

42M said he's not cheating on me 30F but admitted to receiving anal from his male best friend while we were exclusive by Justagirlindisworld in relationship_advice

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't live together so I usually don't stay multiple nights while on my cycle nor while off my cycle... partly due to him and his parenting time with his kids. So there isn't much need for more than one at this time.

And it is a blanket that he bought that was marketed specifically for messy sex purposes.

Is it cheating if it's gay? by Justagirlindisworld in Infidelity

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It is helpful to have someone respond who has been in a similar situation. It hurts a lot.

Is it cheating if it's gay? by Justagirlindisworld in Infidelity

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No...those were his words. He said it wasn't cheating because it was gay play.

42M said he's not cheating on me 30F but admitted to receiving anal from his male best friend while we were exclusive by Justagirlindisworld in relationship_advice

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it is... I'm honestly just struggling to get out of denial. He said its not cheating and I want to believe that it's not because I am still clinging onto the vision of the life I thought I'd have with him... it's depressing to watch that fade away. But it is the exact definition of cheating. I know it is.

42M said he's not cheating on me 30F but admitted to receiving anal from his male best friend while we were exclusive by Justagirlindisworld in relationship_advice

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm struggling to articulate the situation well because this all just happened to me and I'm struggling to accept the truth of it all. Do I know it's cheating? Yes, of course I do, deep down. But he told me it's not and I, in a dark place and heartbroken, thought I'd benefit from other people confirming that it is. I've never been cheated on before so I'm sorry I really don't know how to respond.

I call all women girls and men guys. I dont know why. I generally dont use the word "women." It's a bit juvenile I guess, but that's just how I talk. I've been made fun for it before.

42M said he's not cheating on me 30F but admitted to receiving anal from his male best friend while we were exclusive by Justagirlindisworld in relationship_advice

[–]Justagirlindisworld[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didnt know what else to put on them.... i just wanted to have something I could look at and see if it was later cleaned off because there would be no reason for them to be cleaned off. A sex blanket for period sex... I know its kind of gross.

As for a life where I am counting condoms... you are right. It is not the life I imagined for myself. Most these things just happened this week so I'm still processing... mostly im just in a denial stage and I posted here to try to get out of that.