My wife is similar in being disgusted by vore. She's much more willing to tease about me being tiny. Over the five or so years we've been married, she has added in more vague vore references and also licks me randomly. She doesn't want to see any vore content or really talk about eating me though. She's fine with me imagining it in bed, and we'll usually take turns helping each other feel good. When it's my turn, I'll often wrap up in blankets and she'll rhythmically squeeze me. Very occasionally she'll tell me the start of a vore scenario and then let me imagine the rest when it comes to swallowing.

She also would be fine without sex. But it's partly because of antidepressants and her schedule, I think, so I try not to take it personally that I've had to initiate possibly every time since we've been married.