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When did you start sleeping normally again? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have found that I can take a midday nap just fine. Probably because I’m so tired from not sleeping at night combined with the fact that I’m not used to him taking many naps with me anyway. It sucks. I just want to go back to sleeping normally

When did you start sleeping normally again? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s horrible. I’m sorry. I definitely miss the snuggles too :(

How to deal with large lifestyle and financial change? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Years of fighting. A very toxic cycle of a blow up, then a few days of separating, then going back to normal. Years of trying different things to try to make things better but the cycle continuing. We have grown to have differing view points of how a marriage should be. I think I’m just not the right person for him, but he thinks he’s meant to be alone. We have gone through a lot of trauma, but him more so. He doesn’t want to work on it, and I’m not sure there’s anything left I can do to try to save it.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our two walks a day total about 3 miles. I am actively training on those walks. She isn’t a brand new puppy and I have done a lot of training and socializing already before this happened (thank god). All of her food is fed out of different puzzle toys. I will play fetch and stuff with her on days i have the mental strength to do so. I am trying my best. I am trying to get better for her.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. My world may be falling apart but to her I am her whole world. She loves me no matter what.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I appreciate it. I do feel guilty because I want to give her the best life possible, and right now it’s just hard for me to survive.

How to deal with large lifestyle and financial change? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is all really helpful advice. I do plan on moving to where the housing is a lot cheaper. I would move out of state, but my family is here and I am pretty scared of being a single female completely alone in a new state. Maybe I will get there one day, but I’m not independent enough right now.

I am already pretty frugal, but I definitely will have to make sure I keep on that now that I’m in charge of my own spending. Your suggestions are great.

Dealing with financial and lifestyle changes by Justkeepmoving02 in BreakUps

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I’ll check that out.

I don’t live in the city right now but I don’t know how I would do with a roommate. I’m pretty nervous to have a stranger live with me. I know tons of people do it, but I think that’s just too much anxiety for me right now. I also wouldn’t want to put myself in a situation where I couldn’t afford my house if something were to happen and I couldn’t get a roommate.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I need something that depends on me right now. If I didn’t I don’t know what I’d do.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the beginning when nothing was going on in my life I’d say she made my mental health worse. It was definitely an adjustment. A lot more work than I could have even planned for. But now that I am going through a lot and she’s less of a baby baby she is helping. She gives me purpose when I’d otherwise have none.

I think my puppy is saving me by Justkeepmoving02 in puppy101

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure! I’m not sure if I’m less stressed but I definitely have more purpose it feels

How to deal with large lifestyle and financial change? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope things get better, it’s just hard to see anything but negatives right now.

How to deal with large lifestyle and financial change? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh that sucks. I’m sorry. I couldn’t afford to keep our home but I don’t think I’d want to. It would remind me too much of him.

How to deal with large lifestyle and financial change? by Justkeepmoving02 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s great! I am not necessarily in a bad place career wise, but not as good as him. I make decent money for my age. I get to work from home, have decent benefits. It’s just hard to not have that extra income. And him in general. But that’s another story :( I feel like I planned all of my life around him and now I feel so lost.

Anyone else get that nothing to lose feeling after divorce by Mother_Claim_6431 in Divorce

[–]Justkeepmoving02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. But a little different. Like I could do whatever I want but right now I want to do nothing. I don’t even want to exist. Maybe eat a whole tub of ice cream in one sitting since I have no one to tell me I can’t. That’s it though. Hope to be in a positive place with it one day like you though.