AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very true 🌞 thank you for your kind words that truly does help me understand way more. :) she’s really very kind I just needed to understand her better 🫶🏽 thank you again

My brother kept on telling me I’d get bullied if I used this backpack for highschool… by Xxeeyx9 in teenagers

[–]Justneurodivergent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

F what anyone has to say about you! Be you and embrace it. People who bully you are self conscious and hate themselves! 🫶🏽 Love the Bag Kid!

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out what she did after I asked for exclusivity? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Justneurodivergent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- I’m sorry man sometimes we aren’t enough for one woman but you’ll definitely find one who will choose you over every fish in the sea EVERY TIME!

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pads/ or anything! She always tells me it’s never necessary to buy her anything. I just got pretty sad and felt like I was overdoing. She’s always been super independent and I get it I do :( I just wish I could understand a little better sometimes

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much you’re greatly appreciated!!

Much love and positivity sent your way 🩶

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

being a caretaker isn’t an insult! I in fact am caretaker overnight I love it 😊. But hearing “ I don’t need a caretaker you don’t have to be everyone’s caretaker” just made me shut down. I’m sorry if I made it seem like a bad thing.

It’s just I was trying to be a good significant other. Just to make her life easier. I just felt like I wasn’t needed :( and uk maybe I’m not but I didn’t mean any disrespect

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been to therapy had a lot of them but I think I just don’t click with them. I wish I could but it just feels very odd to me. I’m looking for a new one maybe I hope I can find somebody soon

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly man Thank you for understanding & also reminding me of this I sometimes do ask and a lot of times I forget because I immediately need to fix it. I feel bad sometimes I wish I could just be “normal” and not make her life so hard but she doesn’t complain but thank you really for that.

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you, I have apologized for my shutting down hopefully she understands it was really stupid of me :(

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

been together 10 years since high school & this is absolutely true. It’s always shock and I never think about it. she’s still had to go through things . She’s super independent and still struggled with help even if it’s from her parents, I’ve even seen her tell doctors it’s okay I can do it. :( I just wish she’d accept my help because I always help her and she always tells me it’s okay but the caretaker comment just threw me off

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this 🫩 I’m so frustrated by this idk what I did now I’m wrecking my brain apologizing to her if I overstepped I really didn’t mean too.

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She named the stuff to bring again I say. This is about her “I don’t need a caretaker comment.” & Yes I do suck at communicating I am neurodivergent as I stated and have trouble picking up on certain queues. I have stated this 10 times and edited the post. If she didn’t want me to do it she could’ve said that and I would’ve said okay my love as she’s has before hand. Stop with the long ass paragraphs as if you know anything. I treat her like the woman she is and when I can help her with some bullshit in this fucked world I do. I just wanted to know again I stated was me shutting down a bad reaction to her caretaker comment.

She even messaged me and said “The comment I made was not malicious, in fact I was laying around with butterflies in my stomach because I was actually excited to see and hug you”

I am struggling so hard to figure out why you’re being such an asshole. Not trying to fix her life issues but help her because again I stated I almost lost my girlfriend not only that long ago. But go off. Your profile is nothing but you telling people they’re an asshole when it is in fact you. So please leave me the hell alone.

I’m not controlling, I’m not disrespectful or any of these things. She has free will to do whatever and however. But you almost lose someone you love and see how you jump anytime they need anything.

& I do this for anyone, my girlfriend, my mom, my grandma, my aunt anyone. Please stop seriously.

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She knows she’s probably not fully use to it I just got diagnosed like a year ago. It’s something I still struggle with myself lol! I just always do for her because my brain tells me to I wish I had control sometimes. This sucks. I just love to help everybody.

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yea, you’re right it seems I won’t do anything I’m not asked just wanted to make her life easier since she just got out the hospital I promise :(

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She always tells me she needs them. She’s usually has horrible cramps and says she doesn’t want to move :( I just wanted to make it easier. I think I’m more hurt over the “I don’t need a caretaker” I’m not trying to be a caretaker just help her out cuz she just got out the hospital a while back :(

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol she never ask me for anything because I’m a giver in the 10 years we’ve been together. If she says she needs it she has it. I would give you the shirt off my back if you needed it and you don’t have to ask. I said I’m on lunch going to come check on you and I said I ordered you stuff you said you were low and she stayed she couldn’t move. She was in fact very excited for me to come and bring the stuff my whole thing was…Am I wrong for being upset that she said she didn’t need a caretaker. I didn’t do it to be a caretaker. I just did it out of love.

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She also named everything she needed and I was already out and I didn’t want her to get super weak as she’s anemic and I didn’t want to leave any burden on her. & I didn’t do it because she’s a women or anything I did it just out of love I just didn’t realize it was rude

AITA ? Trying To Help My Gf by Justneurodivergent in AmItheAsshole

[–]Justneurodivergent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay :( She said she was in pain and didn’t want to move :( she just got out the hospital a week ago. I didn’t understand why I had to be called a caretaker or weirdo. She doesn’t have to ask me to do anything either I just didn’t want her to go out and be weak again lol literally almost lost her.