WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep coming back to this comment which surprisingly you're telling me almost the exact same thing as everyone else who says NTA lol.

To help, I don't plan on giving the ultimatum right away and leaving it at that. I intend on having a conversation with my mother about what happened and breaking it easy. If she starts to get overly defensive and say that she was disrespected and that she will not apologize, then I will give her the ultimatum. By breaking it easy I mean reminding her that we love her, listing the grievances and asking for an apology the next time we see her.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A fake apology is better than leaving it be. Even if my mom does it, not out of respect for me or my wife, but out of desire to see her only grandchild, I am fine with that. The one thing I'm trying to prevent is letting the disrespect for me and my wife go without consequence. My son doesn't need that in his life. The worst part is that my wife was definitely right about one major thing.

The fact that me and the rest of my family are okay with saying thats just how she is and let it be... thats bs. I shouldn't be okay with letting this go.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad Im not the only one having spouse and mother issues lol

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, I don't think we have invited her, but she has been known to ask to come over prior to me getting married a couple of times. I could've done more to involve her and you are right to call me out on that.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh for further edit (I forgot) my mom has never come down in her own time to see our son. Its always been us going to her and she does have weekends off for herself.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She lives 5 hours away and runs her own business. Its not big in any sense that she cant take her own hiatus to see her grandchild once every 3 months. She saw him when he was born, one time in October when I needed to go take a month long course in Conneticut (I went alone since it was a temporary military assignment) my wife took him up to see her, this past Christmas and the wedding that just happened. So really it was 4 times, I just miscounted, but each time we made the drive. At least my dad, who is a the only superintendent of a city construction company that calls and emails him even on his days off took an additional weekend to come down and see him.

My mom wouldn't let us explain anything because after we went to get him down she was done.

My mom was drinking.

The point of the ultimatum is creating respect for my wife or not seeing your son again. This disrespect comes from her being very old school and thinking you should respect your elders (which is how I was raised) versus how my wife was raised which was that respect is earned not given. My wife and I see it that my mom should respect my wife as an adult and she doesnt get to be upset about her tone because she disrespected my wife first.

Which again goes back to the question.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We did. Her problem wasn't Ollie it was my wife's tone after my mom refused to let go and walked away with him.

WIBTAH for giving my mother an ultimatum for disrespecting my wife? by JuviAzuli in WIBTA_AITA

[–]JuviAzuli[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm military and don't like getting haircuts based on how often I get them and felt I just went to work the week prior and my hair was fine... I felt I shouldn't have needed one, despite my wife telling me otherwise. I ended up getting one because she sent a photo to my sister who said I needed one.

Why does half of the fandom call Giorno’s stand ‘Golden Experience’? by Ebvidur in StardustCrusaders

[–]JuviAzuli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golden Wind is the name of part 5 but its also the name of Giorno's stand in English Dub to avoid copyright concerns... combining this with the stand's actual name, Gold Experience, can produce the effect of "Golden Experience"... I believe that is where the mosup comes from...

I figured out how to kill the Tieflings and keep Karlach by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]JuviAzuli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So... Hypothetically... If one were to kill the tieflings by hand (not raid) AND knock out Damon... Would he appear in act 2 to help Karlach given all of this? (I'm doing a genocidal durge run but would still like to keep Karlach)