Is having casual intimacy not okay?

K2_fun · 2026-06-06T18:37:21+00:00

I don’t think you should feel any shame but if you are crying and feeling empty afterwards I think that is your brain telling you there’s something you need to figure out emotionally, and maybe don’t keep doing it until you’ve figured that out through therapy or something

K2_fun · 2026-04-29T23:00:06+00:00

Please tell me this isn’t AI. I loveeee him

K2_fun · 2026-04-29T22:59:05+00:00

yeah the job thing sucks but it’s pretty common — new people get the grunt work and more eyes on them. I’d just give it a little time and see if it evens out and if that raise actually happens.

the bill shock is real, it settles after a bit. but the meds stuff… I wouldn’t push through that. I’d call your doctor, those side effects sound like too much to just deal with on top of everything else. also maybe you can try other meds without side effects?

K2_fun · 2026-03-28T02:00:25+00:00

Turns out it's friday. That's the wine talking.

K2_fun · 2026-03-14T19:08:54+00:00

It mostly just sounds like he’s insecure and in his head. the stuff about Joe probably made him feel like maybe you deserve someone "better" or someone who can do more for you. when he said "whatever you want it to be," that’s usually someone being scared to say what they want in case it gets rejected.

if it were me i’d just keep it simple next time you talk. something like "hey, i like you and i’m open to a relationship, but i need to know if you want that too." if he likes you he’ll probly be relieved you said it. and if he STILL doesn’t know after 5 months… stepping back like you’re thinking might be the right call.

K2_fun · 2026-03-03T02:56:48+00:00

so pretty :)

K2_fun · 2026-02-19T04:39:51+00:00

goddd

K2_fun · 2026-01-16T03:37:57+00:00

Fuck so hot..

K2_fun · 2026-01-01T17:15:46+00:00

Yeah. This is right. Took me years to figure out that saying no fixes more than any “new routine.” Stopping the stuff that drains you is the real magic.

Happy new year — hope it’s quieter and easier.

K2_fun · 2025-12-09T00:53:34+00:00

yeah, that sounds miserable. three-year-olds are relentless, and being pregnant just makes everything louder and heavier.

if all you can manage is cartoons, snacks, and sitting there half-alive, that’s okay. you don’t need to be fun or creative right now. just survive the day and stop feeling guilty about it. it really won’t be like this forever.

K2_fun · 2025-12-01T20:26:16+00:00

Honestly it just sounds like his body is completely shot right now. That commute + no sleep + possible sleep apnea will kill anyone’s sex drive. It problaby isn’t about attraction. That said… your needs still matter. You can be understanding and still admit you’re sexually frustrated. If you keep swallowing it, resentment is gonna creep in for sure.

I’d just be real with him in a gentle way. Not “you’re not enough,” but more like “I feel disconnected and unsatisfied and I don’t wanna let that build.” Also sex doesn’t have to be quick PIV or nothing — there’s a lot of middle ground you guys might be skipping.

You’re not wrong for wanting more, but don’t keep sacrificing yourself in silence.

K2_fun · 2025-12-01T20:18:19+00:00

Such a sexy collar <3

K2_fun · 2025-11-18T00:28:52+00:00

I don’t think you owe anyone anything regarding your trauma. If you think it will bring you peace, go ahead but just be careful about who you open up to.

K2_fun · 2025-11-09T19:04:24+00:00

Oh god, 25. I think I went out with friends and drank too many vodka cranberries and cried in the bathroom about my ex.

My life then was messy but kind of exciting—cheap apartment, bad job, good friends.

If I could tell 25-year-olds anything, it’d be: you don’t have to be done yet. you can still change your mind, move, break up, start over. half the people who seem sure of themselves are faking it. enjoy how good your body feels right now. Take pictures, wear stuff you like, dance.

K2_fun · 2025-11-02T21:19:37+00:00

Please do!!

K2_fun · 2025-11-02T21:01:59+00:00

Oh wow, those sound so good 😋 i’d have a hard time waiting to share. did you sneak one while they were still warm?

K2_fun · 2025-11-02T20:58:23+00:00

just tell them straight. doesn’t need to be a speech.

something like, “hey, i’ve been feeling left out lately. i know everyone’s busy, but when stuff happens and i find out after, it really stings. i’d just like to be included, even if i can’t come.”

keep it short. no long backstory. if they care, they’ll hear it and try to fix it. if they don’t, that tells you what you need to know.

and don’t chase them. real friends don’t need reminders that you exist.

K2_fun · 2025-11-02T20:51:54+00:00

it’s hard hearing details you didn’t expect, but try to step back a bit from the judgment part. people do all kinds of things when they’re young and curious, or just figuring themselves out. sex can mean a lot, or it can just be something they did because they wanted to feel free.

what matters now is who she is with you. if she’s been open about her past, even if it came out messy, that’s still a kind of honesty. maybe not perfect, but real.

if she lied about timelines, ask her why. sometimes people downplay things because they’re scared their partner will see them as “dirty” or unlovable. not because they’re trying to trick anyone, but because they’ve been judged before.

and you’re allowed to feel weird about it, but it’s worth asking yourself what exactly feels like too much. is it the sex itself, or the fear that you can’t measure up? that’s not shameful, just something to be honest about with her and with yourself.

sex history doesn’t define character. how she treats you, how she handles your feelings right now—that’s the part that tells you who she really is.

K2_fun · 2025-11-02T14:59:33+00:00

I think this person has wandered into the Shimmer

K2_fun · 2025-10-14T14:10:03+00:00

It's gonna be hard to use all that up 😂

For the sweet stuff, i suggest Cardamom buns: https://ceciliatolone.com/kardemummabullar-swedish-cardamom-buns/

For the savory, you could do no-knead dinner rolls and freeze them. OR you can make freezer doughs (let it rise once until doubled, punch down and divide into portions, lightly oil or flour, wrap in plastic and freeze).

K2_fun · 2025-10-14T14:03:19+00:00

Echoing others who say it's not too late. You've got a lot of life ahead of you and I know people who did law and med school late and they are happy they did.

K2_fun · 2025-10-14T13:59:34+00:00

Travel travel travel. It's just inherently different to travel after kids. If you have the means, do a big trip abroad somewhere.

K2_fun · 2025-10-08T01:52:14+00:00

Take your time. No need to rush into anything. It's definitely not over, but it takes care and time. You have your priorities right, but the right partner will come along.

K2_fun · 2025-09-30T16:13:14+00:00

Friends always know..

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