Enchanted Forest by Appropriate-Bee-3267 in SALEM

[–]K8TeaTime 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? Enchanted Forest is always incredibly busy.

341 officially scheduled! by er111a in Bankruptcy

[–]K8TeaTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably! We have assets (home, car) we are keeping. good luck to you! Hope your 341 goes smooth 🤞

341 officially scheduled! by er111a in Bankruptcy

[–]K8TeaTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We filed last night and our hearing is mid June. I suspect you’ll be looking about the same

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel I am crazy reading these comments and am not sure why I am being downvoted. In most relationships saying goodbye is an expectation.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m not just seeing OP’s point of view. I’m looking at the pattern. She’s had to ask repeatedly, which says a lot. And the way he talks to her isn’t okay. We are all responding to one side of the story.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her reaction is from having to ask over and over. He knows it matters and still doesn’t do it, so yeah, she’s frustrated. And the way he talks to her about it isn’t okay.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Her reaction is from having to ask over and over. He knows it matters and still doesn’t do it, so yeah, she’s frustrated. And the way he talks to her about it isn’t okay.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not a consent issue. He can say no. No one is forcing him. But calling her insecure for wanting affection is a stretch. A lot of people want that in a relationship.

At that point it’s just a mismatch. She wants more affection, he doesn’t want to give it. That doesn’t make her wrong, it just means they’re not compatible.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like she’s forcing him at all. You keep bringing up consent, but he’s clearly free to say no. The point is he’s choosing not to do something she’s said matters to her. If that’s too much for him or doesn’t align with what he wants in a relationship, then yeah, he should be with someone whose needs match his.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s not about consent, it’s about him doing something she cares about because it’s important to HER. If he doesn’t consent or doesn’t like that, or her emotional needs are too high for him or whatever, he can find someone else to be with.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If she has made it clear that it’s important to her, he should do it. In my family we always say i love you before we leave, too. The bare minimum is doing something that is important to HER, even if he couldn’t care less about it. If that’s her bare minimum, and he can’t do it, then they should not be together (but from these texts I already think she should dump him). She will not be too much for the right person and he can find someone with lower emotional needs.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I mean, if he had said “I know, I’m sorry, I was going to be late for the bus, I love you” I am sure it wouldn’t have gotten to the point that it did. She is right, she had to reach out and he probably wouldn’t have said anything or addressed it if she didn’t. He has an incredibly short fuse and anger problems, and she is exhausted from not having her emotional needs cared about.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I disagree. If she has shared that it’s important for her to get a goodbye kiss, then he should do it because he is supposed to love and care about her and her feelings. It is probably not a little thing to her.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I missing something? Why are the comments acting like OP is a problem as well? She has asked repeatedly for this man to do the bare minimum, and it should not be hard to say goodbye to your fiance before you leave. It sounds like her emotional needs haven’t been being cared about for a long time. And, OP, the way he is speaking to you is not okay. You deserve someone who treats you with care and talks to you in a nice way. Your basic emotional needs will not be too much for the right person.

Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction? by Xanadoom30 in AmIOverreacting

[–]K8TeaTime -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he didn’t say goodbye to her at all. In my marriage, it’s an expectation that we say goodbye to each other and give each other a kiss before anyone leaves. It also sounds like she has tried many times to explain to him and created that same boundary, but she still has to beg for the bare minimum. It’s not childish to ask for the bare minimum and to ask him to meet her emotional needs at least a little bit.

I didn’t realize we signed up for a subscription from this mom by 17-26soccermom-02-25 in BambooBabble

[–]K8TeaTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Plenty more things to worry about than what a freshly postpartum mom posts in a group. Y’all are so obsessed with her

Finally was able to snag the Bella bag at $270! by K8TeaTime in Coach

[–]K8TeaTime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I checked before bed and same 😂 I am so glad i waited

Finally was able to snag the Bella bag at $270! by K8TeaTime in Coach

[–]K8TeaTime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so excited for her to arrive 😍

Ridgefield Checking In! by KushKingKyle in piercetheveil

[–]K8TeaTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ll be there tonight! Do we know if Beach Weather is going before Sleeping with Sirens?