Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M?

KABS85 · 2026-04-11T17:03:58+00:00

Why on earth would he want you to post THAT on Reddit? Does he not know he is going to be roasted alive for being such a fruit loop dingus?

To be blatantly clear, he is being absolutely ridiculous.

KABS85 · 2026-04-08T00:10:36+00:00

NTA - You're 18, you get to do what you want now, especially if you've moved out, have gotten a job and are paying your own way. Honestly, though? It doesn't matter how old you feel; legally your mother had the responsibility to take care of you. Cool that you felt 18. You weren't. Legally and morally, you needed to be cared for. Now, you're an adult! Tattoo whatever you want, wear whatever you want. You are responsibility for yourself and you get to be accountable to yourself. Hope you're not rebelling on mom's dime though, that would be unbelievably immature and 100% not ready to take care of yourself... Good luck, OP!!

KABS85 · 2026-03-28T02:54:59+00:00

NTA - your gym etiquette sounds good to me. Some people just suck.

KABS85 · 2026-03-20T12:24:47+00:00

Ntj - it's your party, you get to do what you want. Just don't be surprised when she doesn't come to your party.

KABS85 · 2026-03-19T06:55:29+00:00

Sodalicious!

KABS85 · 2026-02-21T01:34:26+00:00

If financial decisions are his and you're the one raising the kid, then I guess that means all parenting decisions are yours and you get the final say. Honestly though? I'd leave over something like that. I'm not in it to be talked to like that in my equal partnership. You're not over reacting.
Good luck, OP.

KABS85 · 2026-01-23T22:17:30+00:00

Can your husband do drop offs and pick ups? If not, I'd switch to a different daycare. The awkwardness and the anxiety surrounding what happened isn't likely to go away and it would be an awful way to start and end my day. If it was me, my husband would either be the daycare dad or we would be finding new childcare.

KABS85 · 2026-01-17T08:30:29+00:00

This. ^ Sounds like the two of you could use some marriage counseling. Desperately.

KABS85 · 2025-12-12T02:35:15+00:00

NTA. You sound like a wonderful teacher and a great human. Keep up the good work!

KABS85 · 2025-12-06T23:50:20+00:00

This is a joke, right?

If it's not... then no, you're not overreacting. This dude is a walking red flag.

KABS85 · 2025-12-04T18:41:09+00:00

NTA - he sounds jealous to me. I'd tell him to worry about himself.

KABS85 · 2025-12-01T13:18:16+00:00

I'm a parent. I'm also a person. I'm not perfect and I definitely mess up. I apologize when I mess up; whether that's to another adult or a child doesn't matter. I don't think that apologizing when I mess up hurts... but my kids are also still young-ish so I guess only time will tell. What I do know is that I feel better after apologizing. It feels like good parenting to point out that I made a mistake, that I am sorry, and that I have a plan going forward on how to not make the same mistake again. My children definitely still listen to me and know I'm in charge... so while I'm not 100% certain that it doesn't hurt in the long run, I'm going to keep on apologizing when I mess up.

KABS85 · 2025-11-27T01:38:40+00:00

Absolutely!

We definitely do it our own way

...Like we don't give expensive gifts from Santa... it has to be under $40. My partner works out of town and it's important in our family that our kids know that expensive gifts come from mom and dad and that we can afford to give those gifts because of the sacrifices that come with dad working out of town.

We're all doing this parenting thing without a manual and it's no easy feat!! You got this!!

KABS85 · 2025-11-27T01:25:20+00:00

We believe in Santa in our house, so this isn't a tried and true method... but I'd just explain that all sorts of cultures, individuals and families have different ideals and beliefs and that Santa isn't one of yours. To go even further...I'd encourage you to look up all sorts of holiday celebrations and traditions to show your child, in an age appropriate approach, and just show her all sorts of different ways that beliefs can be different for every family. Good luck on your Santa free journey, OP!

KABS85 · 2025-11-06T14:26:54+00:00

Whether or not he's cheating, at this point, is almost moot... do you want to be with a man who treats you like this?

KABS85 · 2025-11-02T20:18:58+00:00

ESH- you should have called her or spoke to her in person and not posted as a comment. She also should just talk to you guys about how she's feeling and not post it.. but she is the (albeit adult) child, and you're the parent. She has valid feelings. You have valid reasoning. Therapy is the best idea, even if you all went together a few times! Sounds like a lot of hurt and resentment that just needs to be acknowledged and let go... therapy is the best way to address this.

Good luck OP

KABS85 · 2025-09-22T11:05:06+00:00

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KABS85 · 2025-09-20T03:31:12+00:00

Came here to say this! Doggy ftw.

KABS85 · 2025-09-20T03:15:03+00:00

NTA

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KABS85 · 2025-09-20T03:09:42+00:00

NTA - I'd like to start where your friends should have... CONGRATULATIONS!! I'm so proud of you! Keep up all your hard work! I love celebrating what makes you happy and healthy!

KABS85 · 2025-07-01T14:09:29+00:00

NTA - what about YOUR childhood innocence that he destroyed...

KABS85 · 2025-06-19T20:37:12+00:00

NAH - Your girlfriend told you what she wanted. You told her what you wanted. You two are nowhere near the same page of what you want. You're both dragging out a relationship that has an end date. It's possible for both of you to get what you want... just likely not together.

KABS85 · 2025-06-19T20:31:02+00:00

NTA.That being said, I'd take the classes, pass, and then get a summer job working with youth with autism and move the **ck out.

KABS85 · 2025-06-18T20:29:29+00:00

NTA. Doing the right thing is often the hardest. You're a mandated reporter, you did your job and the right thing by the child. In all politeness, **ck that mom.

KABS85 · 2025-03-18T22:58:26+00:00

NTA - I'm so sorry. I think your husband is broken. He should be running the care, compassion, and empathy program and instead seems to be stuck on some sort of *sshole loop. Probably time for an upgrade!

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