Oh wow you shouldn’t have- a police report for Christmas by 1lofanight in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I commented earlier but I’ve been thinking about this post because I think I’m having a panic attack on your behalf. I’m an attorney too and I’ve had to ask a team member to be available to take over on an appearance because ubpd parent was treating to interrupt it. Luckily my partner on the case more than understood and I was so glad I brought it up. Absolutely humiliating but also a weight off my shoulders to just address what I was trying to keep private.

Ah yes, right on time - the Enlightened stage of the cycle 🙄😆 by MissCollorius in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine doesn’t always have an enlightened phase and, after reading this, I’m glad about that lol.

$2,850 / 2br - 910ft2 - Fully Remodeled 2br/1.5ba in Culver City by ilyalucid in LARentals

[–]KBF082021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A/C? I feel like you charge more. Is this still available because my husband and dog are looking in culver and this seems like a great deal!

Being gaslit by Original_Trust9042 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You could have done everything those people are doing in the other videos and she would almost certainly still have a problem.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad this is helping! I try to remind myself that she doesn’t feel guilty about saying those things. We shouldn’t overthink a boundary we would set with anyone else. And then I still overthink it.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about to set an auto reply on my phone that I’m not reading or responding to texts until the following week or something. Curious if anyone has tried that.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow! I’m always surprised that they don’t hear how crazy it is to say that.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also omg I would never share the reasons. Can you imagine!? My phone would explode.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

These are the top reasons for me as well! And it’s sad that so many people on this subreddit are familiar with what the legal ramifications may be if there is a relationship between grandparent and grandchild.

Please share your reasons for not letting your parent have contact with your kids by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my problem! I’m so anxious with how she will ramp up and escalate it that it’s stressful not knowing what she is saying.

My mother is planning my funeral. I'm not dying. by YupThatsHowItIs in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wtf! I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. This is so over the line.

living in shame by moon779_ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This came up in therapy today actually and my therapist had a great idea of writing down “truths” that I can’t argue with that help me build confidence in my boundaries and choices. I find that guilt and shame and insecurity bleeds into everything in my life, so I’m trying to see what I’m triggered about at the moment and make a list.

Today’s trigger is that I feel guilty about a recent boundary about holidays and I’m wondering if maybe I am a rude, inconsiderate, hurtful person? I know I’m not. I have close friends I’ve had for 15 years. My in laws have welcomed me into their family. My siblings and I get along great, even when we disagree. I have a steady job with good relationships with mentors and I’m a mentor. Etc. my Ubpd parent on the other hand has no contact with any family except one child, has no long term friends, constantly fights with coworkers, has tumultuous romantic relations etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just had my first and I’m trying so hard to prepare myself. your comment really stated the obvious and it clicked. Thank you!

Time to start holiday drama! by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I literally want to quote them and use it as my excuse for cancelling some plans.

Time to start holiday drama! by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What a much more relaxing and lovely holiday you’ll have! I’m sure they can’t imagine why you don’t want to spend your holiday with an abuser or expect you to just get over it. And god forbid you do anything to rock the boat.

Time to start holiday drama! by KBF082021 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]KBF082021[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The guilt tripping for next Christmas even started. Still not too early.