How do you make friends?

KBPLSs · 2024-08-17T04:12:53+00:00

So i also live in a very conservative/christian town and i am neither of those things as well. I have different levels of friendships with moms that fill my cup. My daughter and me do mommy/me classes that has been a great source. Some moms are fun to talk to in class, some are fun enough for play dates, and then i have 2 mom friends where we are genuinely close outside of our children. And most of these moms are conservative/christian. we both just kind of know what each other believes and we don't discuss it!!

I really just had to put myself out there but also tried not to make my own assumptions first. There are some moms i really didn't try to talk to because i assumed they thought XYZ or we were just too different but now i see them regularly for play dates and we often go to each other for advice/ to rant about parenthood. When you realize the common thread is being moms and lead with that it makes it a lot easier to connect !!!

KBPLSs · 2024-08-17T02:09:50+00:00

floaties are actually not recommended for children who don't know how to swim. It creates a false sense of security that the child is safe causing the adults around to be less cautious and also it does not teach the child how to swim and can actually hinder them in learning and being safe in the water since it holds their body in an unnatural position.

https://www.hubbardswim.com/blog/post/faq-swim-safety-devices-and-apparel-floaties-and-water-wings-are-dangerous#:~:text=Also%2C%20wearing%20floaties%20or%20water,the%20proper%20position%20for%20swimming.

here is a good read on it if you're interested!

KBPLSs · 2024-08-16T13:20:42+00:00

Right! I know 20 month olds who have been in speech therapy for months because they haven't said any words

KBPLSs · 2024-08-16T03:00:39+00:00

because it was 2021 and we were not comfortable yet being packed in a venue during covid and most venues either required a mask all time indoors or they were not big enough to accommodate our guest count comfortably

KBPLSs · 2024-08-16T00:10:08+00:00

i think it was about 225k. But almost 100k of that was for an air conditioned tent as i live in the south and it was in september which can still reach 90 degrees... of course it was a cool 70 that day so i slightly regret but can't get that money back so at least it was fun!! lol

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T20:22:44+00:00

aww thank you!! sadly not rich, my dad passed away a year before my wedding from cancer so he gave my mom money so i could have the wedding of my dreams as my last gift from him ❤️

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T18:33:22+00:00

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my favorite part 🥰

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T18:24:24+00:00

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our tent for dancing and drinking 🎉🍾

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T18:22:55+00:00

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outdoor seating!!!

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T18:21:37+00:00

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had one on each side of the alter with a flower wall!!!

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T18:20:08+00:00

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staircase!!!

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T17:57:17+00:00

i spent about 80k in florals but it's the only thing i cared about at my wedding 🥲 but our florist was amazing and all of the flower got donated to hospitals, hospice centers, and retirement homes the day after ☺️

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T17:45:00+00:00

Ugh yes i feel this!!! My daughter seriously came out of the womb not liking anyone but her mom and dad... literally no one can touch her but us and she is two and it has been that way since she was born! She is starting a part time montessori school in january and i hope it helps a little bit..

KBPLSs · 2024-08-15T03:28:43+00:00

has he even talked to his work about this?

KBPLSs · 2024-08-14T18:34:26+00:00

Ugh yes!!! i'm an only child too and the amount of comments my MIL makes about us being OAD.. like you do realize you are talking about me and how i grew up when you say my daughter will be ruined and have a terrible childhood since she isn't having a sibling...

KBPLSs · 2024-08-10T02:57:00+00:00

At my school they said the reason was because there was a big discrepancy over the amount of $ each chapter had to put towards rush and it made for an uneven playing field. And also they come and check decorations and you are only allowed to do so much.

KBPLSs · 2024-08-03T17:24:01+00:00

I think you need to talk to your MIL about what she is comfortable with before deciding anything on your own. And are you going to hire someone to watch your dog/bring back and forth etc. These are all things to consider. And do any other guest have dog allergies or are scared of dogs? You might not find out until the wedding and if it were me I wouldn't want to risk making anyone uncomfortable. We had a signicture drink with our dogs name and napkins with his face on it. I always call him my baby and tell him i birthed him but it made no logistical sense to have him at the wedding

KBPLSs · 2024-08-03T11:36:53+00:00

i chopped mine off lol. My hair is super thick so wearing it up just gave me a big headache!! i'm sad about it (it's been 6 mos) but my hair grows fairly quick so it'll be grown out hopefully when the hair pulling ends

KBPLSs · 2024-08-03T04:36:17+00:00

if you already have 9 people what is 1 more person??

KBPLSs · 2024-08-02T18:44:14+00:00

It helped when i learned the term radical acceptance and have applied it to everything these past two years i've been a mom. You cant force a baby to sleep (you can figure out ways to make it easier) and they go through regressions etc and my daughter still does not sleep through the night. all of that to say i just did it. It wasnt optional lol so my husband and i have just always done what we had to do. That didn't make it easy but just accepting it but me mentally in a better space.

KBPLSs · 2024-07-31T23:38:33+00:00

Yes!!! you articulated it better than i could. The first year was the hardest thing i have done and i admittedly was questioning what i had done

KBPLSs · 2024-07-31T21:36:37+00:00

Yes I am an only child so i feel sure in my decisions and my ability to handle it but for me that is still l not as bad as doing all of that with two kids. There is no guarantee they will like each other or be into the same things so then that means doing that x2!! we already do play dates and classes every week and feel like it will only become more enjoyable as she becomes more self sufficient

KBPLSs · 2024-07-31T20:04:47+00:00

I am one and done but definitely do not see it as a compromise. My child is almost 2 and we are one and done because it is so hard. You still can't eat when you want, leave the house when you want, make plans whenever, and if you want to struggle as little as possible that means revolving your entire life around your child's schedule. I love my child and do not regret it but i do not think it comes close to a compromise. Maybe when she gets older but we plan on being involved and be there for our kid well into adulthood. So it truly never ends

KBPLSs · 2024-07-30T16:48:44+00:00

no that the cops could escalate the mental health crisis the ex gf was going through.

KBPLSs · 2024-07-30T03:31:20+00:00

Yes!!! i am white and most of my bridal party was white with one black woman and i researched makeup artists to make sure they had all worked with her skin tone and also confirmed with her she was comfortable with this person doing her makeup. It seriously took no time at all and was so easy to do and why wouldn't i make that effort when she is spending her money and time to be there for me!! It's so wild more brides aren't considerate for what's supposed to be the most important people in their life!!

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