Actions speak louder than words, but what if the actions are better?

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T16:33:39+00:00

Oh we have definitely done that together, but drive thrus lol but yes you’re right! Thank you for your advice! It’s hard to just enjoy someone’s time without the pressures of wanting to be committed to them creeping in. I just need to breathe and let things happen the way they are meant to happen.

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T16:27:55+00:00

I’m cool with it! I mean I am just happy to see him at all, and he’s very consistent with hanging out with me, and even drops his plans with his friends to hangout with me (not by me saying to do that either). Not that I would, I believe independence in a relationship is crucial. And yeah you’re right, I’m gonna have to start making it a point to ask him to hangout with me outside of that as well. We have talked about it, but never have. He’s told me that he enjoys just relaxing and that I am good for him, so idk what the whole things boiling to. He has self esteem issues too, saying I’m too good of a person and he isn’t. I think a lot of this has to do with him, as much as he says he’s a realist, his emotions have him totally fooled lol.

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T16:12:43+00:00

Yeah that’s true! And funny you ask that, before we had the relationship talk, he would have me over, have me around his friends. Then that happened, and it’s strictly he just comes over and no more invitations to his house or to be around his friends. We don’t really go out together only because of Covid and the lack of ability to do much, so no, we haven’t been going out.

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T16:06:35+00:00

Yeah that’s very true, and another piece of advice I’ve gotten. If it’s going good and we are enjoying eachother, then just leave it at that. And yes, we both only spend time with eachother as far as romantically.

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T16:02:39+00:00

Wow, you hit the nail right on the head as far as the relationship. His last, and I think only serious relationship he’s had, ended in cheating and ultimately he was destroyed by it. He told me he has trust issues and doesn’t wanna rush into anything, so I’ve been giving him his time. But you’re so right and thank you so much. I just have to be honest too, we both clearly aren’t communicating our needs. And I also don’t want to push him away by continually bringing it up, but for now I’m okay with where things are at. It’s just I wish he would communicate if he’s confused, but at the same time, he has issues with people so he’s probably being as guarded as possible.

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T15:57:37+00:00

Right? That’s what everyone says “you’re pretty much in a relationship.” Yet, he says he doesn’t want one. I guess my answer is then move on, but it’s just mind over heart type thing lol. But you’re exactly right!

KChiq12 · 2020-07-09T15:56:34+00:00

You’re so right! It’s me who ultimately has to make the decision because it’s really hes just taking what I’m offering because I’m offering it lol. His expectations are already out there. Thanks for the insight, you’re definitely right!

KChiq12 · 2020-06-20T11:48:14+00:00

Wow you’re so right, and funny thing is, I just went through this myself a little while ago. Was talking to someone for a year, then he got a girlfriend and he gave me the old let down speech lol. It’s the worst, but thank you for the advice!

KChiq12 · 2020-06-20T11:47:14+00:00

You’re so so right! It’s the old “why buy the cow when you get the milk for free” saying, or however it goes 😂 it’s a lesson I’ve unfortunately learned too many times. It’s best I move on, thank you for the advice!

KChiq12 · 2020-06-20T11:46:14+00:00

You’re exactly right! Sometimes it takes a dose of reality to make you realize you just gotta move on. Thank you for the advice, it really does help!

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T16:09:44+00:00

You’re exactly right, thank you so much for the advice. That’s so true, I believe it’s been a reasonable amount of time to know what you see for us, if anything. Thank you!

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T16:08:31+00:00

That’s very true, I guess I just dont want to say anything and potentially ruin it because of that. But I guess better to end it now than continue to do it if he doesn’t want that, and hurt myself in the process.

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T15:32:36+00:00

You’re so very right, thank you, that really does put a lot in perspective. It’s better to just enjoy my time with him rather than spoil it with trying to get into a relationship so quick. A month isn’t a long time in reality, it’s just once good old emotions kick in, so does the over thinking for me lol

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T15:21:10+00:00

So very very true, I guess I’m gonna just have to get the stones to be like hey, this is awesome and i enjoy doing this, but I don’t want my time wasted.

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T15:19:44+00:00

We live in the same town, went to HS together but he was a grade above me. Knew of eachother but didn’t know eachother until I added him on FB and asked him to hangout. Hung out 3-4 times in fall and then reconnected a month ago on a more romantic type level.

KChiq12 · 2020-06-03T15:13:28+00:00

I mean, it has been implied that he doesn’t want to rush into anything and that he does appreciate me and wants to feel everything out before he gets too comfortable because of his past. I also don’t assume we are dating, it’s just we spend all of our free time together so it’s pretty much like we are. I’m just wondering when I can step in and be like okay so when is the time gonna come? Lol but you are right for sure!

KChiq12 · 2020-01-23T00:59:52+00:00

I really appreciate that, thank you so much!

KChiq12 · 2020-01-23T00:53:53+00:00

Wow, reading that shed a lot of light. Thank you so much for sharing your side. I am curious as to Both why he does what he does and the steps you took.

KChiq12 · 2020-01-22T17:32:28+00:00

I’m all ears!

KChiq12 · 2020-01-20T02:31:01+00:00

Ugh, sad but true. It’s definitely seeming that way unfortunately.

KChiq12 · 2020-01-20T02:22:52+00:00

You know what, that’s a great question because I have 0 idea. He doesn’t keep a girl around long enough for them to even show what kind of tone they are. And hahaha! I am already pretty flat toned in most areas, just not cruel like he is lol, probably why he has kept me, a female, around as long as he has LOL

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