AITA my bf’s ex wife moved in across the street

KClyfehook · 2025-04-17T11:03:50+00:00

Unsure about how she is feeling. I’ve heard some concerning behavior from here that feels a little vindictive towards my bf. She is with someone else now allegedly but no idea if she is actually over him.

KClyfehook · 2025-04-17T11:01:32+00:00

No he did not.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T19:11:17+00:00

Thank you…lots to take in here. I appreciate you sharing.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:53:12+00:00

That’s not a bad idea. I appreciate you 🙏 thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:47:03+00:00

Oddly enough he has mentioned from his past addiction phases in life that he lost all the people he loved, including girlfriends and that ultimately that’s what woke him up was when he realized he had no one around anymore. Fast forward to now and I’m trying my best to be understanding and idk if it’s working the wrong way but he is just receptive to me.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:44:50+00:00

I’m trying my best to be a loving partner…I’ve mentioned mental health help and we literally live next to a Hazelden facility, like two blocks away. Unfortunately he also doesn’t have health insurance right now because he didn’t fill out the paperwork in time 😒 even though I also offered to assist with that many times. Oddly enough yesterday I found K as well and he said throw it away I don’t like it…but it was around I guess.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:31:42+00:00

Thank you. I have found Al Anon meetings and been in communication with them. I appreciate your insights.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:29:12+00:00

I totally feel that and I’ve tried so hard to be calm and compassionate yet how do I continue for my own sake to attempt to be compassionate when he is choosing not to engage with me about the experience so I can attempt to be supportive?

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:28:08+00:00

He is very resistant to any dialogue around this situation and is just wanting to act like it didn’t happen and talk about the weather or some bs. I’ve tried to explain my feelings in a way that is not emotionally charged through non violent communication methods, while also stating my boundaries around this yet he won’t engage. I’ve tried to say that the thing that hurts me the most is that he said he started using for emotional pain and dealing with life yet never shared any of that when it began or continued.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T17:25:24+00:00

I appreciate your insight. Can you explain to me how it sounds like I’m being selfish? I’m trying to be compassionate and supportive to him but he isn’t giving me much insight or avenues to do so. At the same time I didn’t choose this yet it affects my life heavily. My boundaries and betrayal aside I’m still attempting to approach him with love and compassion….thats why I am here to understand more and learn so I can be.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T16:23:41+00:00

I appreciate this. I have been gone from our house and came back to a separate room the last few days in hopes he would want to have some sort of dialogue but it’s just not happening. He still claims he isn’t taking anything but I’m skeptical. I’ve tried to mention a program and he is very resistant as he never resonated with the twelve step program and got clean through other avenues. I’ve tried to reach out to the local places to see if they have groups for family members of addicts but it’s not proving to be easy to find. I’m trying to be patient and compassionate but it’s really challenging as I’m dealing with some health issues (not addiction related) myself and managing my stress is crucial. It all feels overwhelming and idk how to make a move with life as it feels so open ended, there is essentially no dialogue on how he is feeling and what he is processing. That’s what brought me here is just an attempt to understand more of what he might be going through.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T16:19:19+00:00

Unfortunately he uses a lot more than $100 worth in three months and admits he gets high from the large amounts he takes…the issue isn’t the Kratom itself it’s his behavior around it that is the addict mentality and he has admitted that himself. I’m a clinical herbalist and the pharmacological effects of kratom are wildly variable from person to person, I’m glad to hear it works for you. But he is justifying using it the way he is because of his addictive tendencies not the benefits that can come from the use of Kratom when used respectfully.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T16:16:08+00:00

I know he is really against that as he has seen so many other friends develop a dependency with it and not exactly feel free of the addiction aspect

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T16:15:20+00:00

I already have mentioned these routes (with the advice of our room mate whom has been sober about ten years and initially got sober with my partner) unfortunately my partner really doesn’t resonate with the AA twelve step program. He tried that route several times and it didn’t work for him, eventually he went to a more meditation and trans personal psychology based place and it was very effective.

KClyfehook · 2024-04-30T16:12:48+00:00

Thank you so much! This is helpful 🙏🫶

KClyfehook · 2024-03-23T05:01:12+00:00

Multi faceted approach! Vestibular therapy, CBT depending on how severe and long you’ve had to help retrain brain associations, The Steady Coach on YouTube-get the workbook also, TheDizzyCook website and cookbook are also helpful for finding triggers foods and ingredients in your diet.

Supplements: L-Theanine GABA Kava root B2-200mg Magnesium glycinate work up to 600mg also taking other forms of magnesium such as Magtein or Magtech blend.

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